I thought this might be a post that I could weigh in on with a theory I came up with several years ago. A lot of people might disagree with it, so it's just my opinion or something I've pondered because throughout my entire life people have always tended to avoid me or act like I don't exist. Even when I've made the best efforts I could to be friendly and try and converse with others and find common ground with people.
So my theory is this: Typically, if something exists on one end of the spectrum, then usually there exists something on the opposite end of that spectrum. For example, if there are people around who are the fastest runners in the world and can run fast, then there must be people around who run very slow. There are people around who are smarter than most people, so obviously there are individuals walking around who are dumber than most people.
Ok, so, have you ever noticed that there tends to be someone in your school or workplace that others always tend to follow, or are always the center of attention? Even in cases where you can't really figure out what it really is about that person that other's like about them so much. There was one guy in my graduate class that everyone elected to be our class representative. However, he made a very poor one, he had no business being our representative. But for some reason, even though this guy wasn't really that outgoing, he was always the center of attention a lot of the times. I couldn't quite figure out why that was or why people elected him to be our "representative" even though he proved to be a crappy one. But people always wanted to be friends with this guy and hang around him. He wasn't that charismatic, but for some reason, everybody liked this guy.
So.....obviously there exist something on the opposite end of the spectrum. Just as there are few individuals in any setting that people tend to follow, there are also few individuals that people gravitate away from. And in a lot of cases, ya can't really put your finger as to why people gravitate away from certain people such as me. They just do. I mean, even rotten crappy individuals that lie cheat and steal, have friends.
In short, for every person that seems to be a "natural leader" that always seem to attract people to be around them no matter where they go, there also exist people who are the exact opposite even though they might be friendly normal looking individuals. I'm that person. I'm a decent looking nice guy, but very few people ever want to be around me. It's a vibe or a frequency, it's unexplainable. Just as it might be unexplainable as to why some people make friends so easily with zero effort in doing so. It's like, they can just sit somewhere still and quiet, and still attract people. I can sit still and quiet someplace, but yet repel people. People just tend to gravitate away from people such as me and there really is no explanation for it, just as I couldn't figure why some individuals that seem to be rather boring and average looking, have people gravitate towards them.