If I write once and they do not reply to me I never contact them again. If it was someone really special to me I would do it once on few means of communication or twice on same. If no reply, I will never contact that person again.
In both cases I will assume that person no longer enjoys my company and that it is all dead.
This. I stopped chasing friendships a long time ago, it must be a mutual thing. I used to have a few bouts of awesomeness or being entertaining to interact with, and some people actually miraculously claim they miss me or attempt to reconnect. /shrug
I'm guiltly of cutting people off by fading away, I for the most part assume they're better off without my cynicism, negativity, apathy and boredom. I often place up a facade of optimism and happiness yet it slowly crumbles away. I attempt foolhardedly to joke around a lot and not take life too seriously and share laughs and yet deep down inside I'm always in constant pain, a brooding depression. Humans are more intuitive than we give them credit for sometimes and they can sense certain vibes. Obviously our social awkwardness will get in the way as well and miscommunication will cause them to jump to conclusions and thus not want to associate with you.
Also your reputation has a huge factor in things, people gossip and will tarnish your rep if they are bored and have distaste for you, even if you were just trying to make friends and lighten the mood, quite often people will judge people on what they say, or look like and not what they do or how they act on the whole.
I'm running out of patience trying to live up to the expectations of fake friends, people who genuinely appreciate my character know where to find me. Those who arbitrarily decide I'm not good enough to qualify as a pal, well that's their loss. Most people suck cause humans are inherently selfish, so choose your friends wisely yet don't get too attached, just make new friends or try rather until they prove their loyalty as well.
Can't please everyone, maybe they are just busy yet if they do have spare time to chat and it's been months, well, they sadly have moved on and you should too. Too many factors and if you confront them about it, they'll find a way to twist things in defense of their character sometimes.
Lost my real life friends, going on... Two years now.
Internet and coworker friends, they are mostly aquaintances, positive ones yes but no one seems interested to hangout/game or chat with me for long periods of time. Also doesn't help that I'm prone to ceasing all communication as well, I'm quite certain they feel wronged from me at times. So it's a mutual thing.
I think the best way to approach this dilemma is to simply widen your search for good friends by being amicable for as long as you can, and the ones you deem worthy by your standards, you try to keep in touch never show your ugly side if you can help it. Do not stress about pleasing everyone, just cast out more and more lines. People are very calculating and weigh the pros and cons of their connections, you should do the same for the sake of your sanity. It is a very heartless world we live in yes, but most people want to be deemed as good people, altruistic even. Or at least I hope so...
I communicate with hundreds of people on a weekly basis and yet I feel alone...