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post #51461 of 51481 (permalink) Old 08-07-2017, 12:43 AM
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I think the fact that you can recognize that these actions/thoughts are incorrect is a sure sign that you haven't lost yourself. Most people experiencing those tendencies, who are really out of touch would just act upon them without even thinking about how wrong they are. That's what separates you from that. (In my view) That you can discern those thoughts and that you know they are wrong. You're recognizing that there are problems there and thats something you should be proud of because some people cant actually do that.

I think maybe for now it is definitely best that you step away from things you feel are triggering. You don't have to talk to a professional about those thoughts if you don't want to, but if it is coming from anger, then maybe you can figure out how to manage your anger in a healthy way so that it doesn't take a hold of you.
You're right about that. I haven't lost myself, and I think that's because CBT really helped me. I'm a very different person than I was before. I think if I were to get a psych eval, I would be normal. What scares me is "the switch". It's a long story, but I know that when I can't cope with all the stuff happening around me, I shut down. And that's usually when the switch begins. I start to dissociate, I lack empathy, etc. The last time I felt this way was 2 years ago, and the last time before that last time was 2 years ago. It seems like every two years, it just comes back. I know the signs before I slip back into that kind of mindset. But yeah, I'm going to try to avoid the triggers for sure.

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I look down on the majority of humanity and find it difficult to respect many people, I think I should stop. I mean me and other people must be almost the same right? There are a lot of "slow" people, but I know I'm hardly any better.

I'm very anti-social and apathetic to other people, honestly I'm afraid of the mask coming off and showing the monstrous self serving and uncaring prick I am. I'm afraid of it coming off because I don't want to lose the resources people possess more so then their feelings and opinion. It's fair anyways, no one cares about my well-being and controversial opinions. So I hid it and play along with the politically correct mantra. If I am seen as a threat, I destroyed from the collective, exiled.
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How could you take me to a nasty motel room the day before taking me on a date? Enough is enough. That's a deal breaker for me. I don't see how I'm that bad. When plans seem too good to be true, I guess they are. Can't trust someone that will take me to a dirty motel room. That's completely insane. You could obviously tell I didn't want to be there, yet you didn't care. It's time for me to move on. Life is already enough of a joke. I don't need someone playing cruel jokes on me...
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How could you take me to a nasty motel room the day before taking me on a date? Enough is enough. That's a deal breaker for me. I don't see how I'm that bad. When plans seem too good to be true, I guess they are. Can't trust someone that will take me to a dirty motel room. That's completely insane. You could obviously tell I didn't want to be there, yet you didn't care. It's time for me to move on. Life is already enough of a joke. I don't need someone playing cruel jokes on me...
Hmm seems like he wanted an easy lay.....but so disrespectful. Best of luck in the future .

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Need to get into a routine where you tire yourself out with a run or similar exercise. Sometimes people have too much energy.

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All you can do is try to help, but it's all up to them to make the change in their life.

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Reminds me of one of the women in my family that was murdered by a serial killer of women.

I wish I was there to protect her.

I remember the last words she said to me like it was yesterday and I just start.

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post #51474 of 51481 (permalink) Old 08-07-2017, 04:37 PM
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Men usually won't share feelings, as they sometimes get ridiculed / made fun of by other men (toxic men) for doing so (it's considered weak for men to show feelings infront of other men).

It's about him trusting you and that has to be earned over time (the same with women trusting men after similar life experiences with toxic men).

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Feel like it's hard to control my frustration sometimes. I don't wan't to speak out of anger, but maybe I ought to just open the flood gates one day to see what happens...

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I've known him for his entire life. It isn't that he doesn't trust me. He did tell me before that he's learned to bottle up his feelings because society views showing emotions (at least in men) as a sign of weakness. He knows I wouldn't judge him though, so I just don't understand.
It's most likely a trust issue. Once trust is lost in someone it's hard to get it back. It's most likely he doesn't want others knowing about his issues (private person). As long as you don't disclose his issues to other people (unless he allows you to), you should be ok trust wise.

Men usually learn to go somewhere on their own and deal with the emotions (could be releasing like anger while playing sport which is a safe way). Women usually speak with other women (some might not as much due to SA). It's just the differences between men and women in how they handle feelings.

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Him backing away from everyone indicates it might be a trust issue. But could easily be something else like depression as one example.

Can look at his symptoms / behaviour and see if it matches depression symptoms / behaviour on the web.

If no good coping mechanisms, then it sounds more like depression. Usually people don't find enjoyment in things they used to (if he played sports, computer games, etc in the past) if have depression.

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