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Struggling to make friends/connections on SAS despite the effort. Thought I might find like-minded people but so far it's just a forum where I can share similar opinions.

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How could you take me to a nasty motel room the day before taking me on a date? Enough is enough. That's a deal breaker for me. I don't see how I'm that bad. When plans seem too good to be true, I guess they are. Can't trust someone that will take me to a dirty motel room. That's completely insane. You could obviously tell I didn't want to be there, yet you didn't care. It's time for me to move on. Life is already enough of a joke. I don't need someone playing cruel jokes on me...
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How could you take me to a nasty motel room the day before taking me on a date? Enough is enough. That's a deal breaker for me. I don't see how I'm that bad. When plans seem too good to be true, I guess they are. Can't trust someone that will take me to a dirty motel room. That's completely insane. You could obviously tell I didn't want to be there, yet you didn't care. It's time for me to move on. Life is already enough of a joke. I don't need someone playing cruel jokes on me...
Hmm seems like he wanted an easy lay.....but so disrespectful. Best of luck in the future .

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Need to get into a routine where you tire yourself out with a run or similar exercise. Sometimes people have too much energy.

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All you can do is try to help, but it's all up to them to make the change in their life.
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Reminds me of one of the women in my family that was murdered by a serial killer of women.

I wish I was there to protect her.

I remember the last words she said to me like it was yesterday and I just start.
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Men usually won't share feelings, as they sometimes get ridiculed / made fun of by other men (toxic men) for doing so (it's considered weak for men to show feelings infront of other men).

It's about him trusting you and that has to be earned over time (the same with women trusting men after similar life experiences with toxic men).
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Feel like it's hard to control my frustration sometimes. I don't wan't to speak out of anger, but maybe I ought to just open the flood gates one day to see what happens...

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I've known him for his entire life. It isn't that he doesn't trust me. He did tell me before that he's learned to bottle up his feelings because society views showing emotions (at least in men) as a sign of weakness. He knows I wouldn't judge him though, so I just don't understand.
It's most likely a trust issue. Once trust is lost in someone it's hard to get it back. It's most likely he doesn't want others knowing about his issues (private person). As long as you don't disclose his issues to other people (unless he allows you to), you should be ok trust wise.

Men usually learn to go somewhere on their own and deal with the emotions (could be releasing like anger while playing sport which is a safe way). Women usually speak with other women (some might not as much due to SA). It's just the differences between men and women in how they handle feelings.
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Him backing away from everyone indicates it might be a trust issue. But could easily be something else like depression as one example.

Can look at his symptoms / behaviour and see if it matches depression symptoms / behaviour on the web.

If no good coping mechanisms, then it sounds more like depression. Usually people don't find enjoyment in things they used to (if he played sports, computer games, etc in the past) if have depression.
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