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What is this? Confusion


Is it ok to reach out to a fellow anxiety sufferer? Even though you see them weekly in customer service and thats all you know about them. I think my daughter makes him extremely nervous.
My daughter is Aspergian and quiet beautiful to look at. She is very anti social and is going to speak with no one publicly in that type of setting.

This anxious person in question is very loud and talky with collegues and customers when we are close by but when it comes to my daughter and me and he is checking out our things, he is deathly anxious and serious. I feel like saying its ok, we are in no way better than you in any way shape or form. We are far from perfect. Am I reading his body language wrong?

She is not arrogant or judgemental she is on the autism spectrum. We do our weekly shop there and its been like this for a few years now. We or just my daughter make him really uncomfortable. If he knows we are in the store, he will make his way around close to us and get really chatty talky with one of his colleagues.

We were in his checkout lane one other time, talked the hat off his previous customer, we were next up for paying checking through, deadly awkward silence. He has probably translated my daughters social awkwardness as a rejection of sorts. She has no clue whats up.

I think he likes her, but doesnt know what to do himself. First time he checked our stuff through he saw her for the first time and let out an audible sound that he thought she was attractive. Should we find a new shop. He seems very anxious when we are in the store.

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post #2 of 7 (permalink) Old 08-30-2019, 09:18 PM Thread Starter
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Alrighty, I see why now, I haven't posted in a long while.

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if your daughter likes him then she should talk to him.

if hes just a random guy working at supermarket there is no need to say anything or change your behaviour at all. (probably why there are no other replies, it doesn't seem like a problem)

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Blunt much andy? quiet dismissive. Nice going. Why bother responding at all?

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An audible sound that he thought she was attractive you say, ok






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ok, he was startled and made a whoaaaa sound.

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Blunt much andy? quiet dismissive. Nice going. Why bother responding at all?
ok. well i wish you luck resolving this issue if it is causing you distress.

it does suck to get no replies or just **** replies. happens all the time, makes me feel invisible. at least I'm not invisible if you are complaining that my reply is ****

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