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Weird feelings about my friend's crush


Recently my best friend has had a crush on a guy she met like a week ago. It's basically become a daily thing for her to go on about her interactions with him and how she basically just melts and loses her mind over him. I try so hard to be supportive and talk to her about him but if I'm being honest it makes me so uncomfortable.

A bit of information to add to this; I have a weird general disliking towards men (no offense to any men on here). There are some exceptions, but not many. Also I'm asexual and I've never really understood attraction between people.

Anyway, I've basically been feeling really weird anytime she starts talking about him, especially recently when she told me he's flirted with her a couple times. It's actually gotten to the point where I start to legitimately feel sick to my stomach when she talks about her attraction to him and his occasional flirting. It's also been throwing me into depressive episodes, and I'm not entirely sure why. Other than this discomfort, there are other things that I've been feeling, but I can't really describe it. I can spit out a few words that may give an idea of my emotions, but I'm not sure how accurate they truly are. Resentment? Suspicion? Fear? Paranoia? Stupidity? It's weird, I don't know, is there a phobia of romance or something??
Also I'm a very possessive person (not in a toxic way, I don't try controlling people. It's just a sense of dread and fear of abandonment/being replaced), so that might have something to do with how I'm feeling

Honestly, I'm not sure where I'm going with this.. I just needed somewhere to get this all out instead of bottling it up, and maybe seeing if anyone relates.

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better treat her well 'cause she's with me till the end"
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and this feeling that's so scary"


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It sounds like you're jealous especially if you think the feelings stem from not wanting to lose her.
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I think you'll find most girls get annoyed at the friend in the group who won't shut up about a guy. If you hung out with mutual friends they'd probably tell you how annoyed they are about her as well. You're completely normal.
This may normally be the case, but not for my situation. I've felt like this even when she first started talking about him. Annoyed is probably one of the smaller emotions I've been feeling, and not even toward her, but more towards the guy

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It's the way that we're made"


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Think I'm just confused
blow it off it's nothing new"


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better treat her well 'cause she's with me till the end"
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You and I are temporary
and this feeling that's so scary"


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Could you be jealous of this person coming between you and your friend? May be you are worried about she won't have as much time for you.

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Could you be jealous of this person coming between you and your friend? May be you are worried about she won't have as much time for you.
I could be jealous, although I've never really been the jealous type. But I guess that's probably what every jealous person says :/


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Is it your instincts warning you of danger from this guy? Does he give off some red flags that your friend might be blind to because of her crush?

I guess I forgot to mention that I've never met him, my bad y'all. So because I've never met him I can't say if he comes off as any type of way.

"How do you run from your own mind?"

"We're all broken, it's fate
It's the way that we're made"


"Do they understand?
I'm begging for an ally
Think I'm just confused
blow it off it's nothing new"


"I'm my closest friend, I remind myself again
better treat her well 'cause she's with me till the end"
"Everything is temporary
You and I are temporary
and this feeling that's so scary"


"My mind is a mess but I love it nonetheless"

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