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Want to see what you really look like this is how!


So when you look in the mirror thats really not what you actually look like and thats not how others see you. Looking im the mirror shows you a reverse image of yourself. This is how others see you take two mirrors and hold them 90 dergrees beside eachother and you will really see what others see.i noticed that half of my face and hairline isnt symmetrical totally shocking how all these years I thought I looked one way and it really isnt. But only do this if you really want to see what you really look like.
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I've done this before. Still hated myself. Lol.
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You could also just, y'know, turn on your computer's camera and look at the image it displays of you.

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You could also just, y'know, turn on your computer's camera and look at the image it displays of you.
That is worse..

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I'm comfortable with how I look.

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It's funny. As a guy who is unattractive, I've looked in the mirror lately and sometimes thought to myself, "Wow, I look hot, just like I always wanted." But then I look at a camera image (how I really look) and I see what can only be described as an abomination of nature. I'm sure there's a metaphor for my life there somewhere. I wish I could look like the guy in the mirror.
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It's funny. As a guy who is unattractive, I've looked in the mirror lately and sometimes thought to myself, "Wow, I look hot, just like I always wanted." But then I look at a camera image (how I really look) and I see what can only be described as an abomination of nature. I'm sure there's a metaphor for my life there somewhere. I wish I could look like the guy in the mirror.
Sounds kind of corny but the guy in the mirror IS you. Keep thinking that "Wow, I look hot, just like I always wanted" and let that be the way you think of yourself.

I hate the way I look when I take self pictures with my camera but I rather like the way I appear in the mirror usually. I don't let the camera image
dictate the way I think I look though. Take the way you look in the mirror, which you like, and think of yourself that way.
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This is crazy, I relly don't want to try your method, but I mite.
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I've tried this.

Went from a 0.25/10 to a 0.26/10
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You just gave me an excellent new use of the webcam. Checking for a symmetrical beard is much easier through the cam.

I look the same in cam as I do in the mirror. I guess I'm fairly symmetrical.
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I've tried this.

Went from a 0.25/10 to a 0.26/10
Lol. That's quite a progress there.
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I've tried this.

Went from a 0.25/10 to a 0.26/10
Baby steps man, baby steps.
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I see what you guys are getting at.

Well I tried it...I still think I'm ugly.

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Sounds kind of corny but the guy in the mirror IS you. Keep thinking that "Wow, I look hot, just like I always wanted" and let that be the way you think of yourself.

I hate the way I look when I take self pictures with my camera but I rather like the way I appear in the mirror usually. I don't let the camera image
dictate the way I think I look though. Take the way you look in the mirror, which you like, and think of yourself that way.

Thanks. I can try, but unfortunately I need girls to think the same which hasn't really been the case.
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Eh.. I know I'm pretty ugly but I don't give a **** anymore. I'm more concerned with how dumb and clueless I am
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I tried this today. I'm not sure. I think I looked a lot better than in pictures, but I'm not sure if better than in normal mirrors. My face looked a bit thinner, which is good for me, because I always thought I was really baby-faced. However, my different eye sizes were also a lot more apparent, though that is a negative trait about myself I strangely kinda like. If that is really what I look like, then I'm pretty satisfied.
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I've done this before. Still hated myself. Lol.
I think that's a beautiful photo...for what that's worth.
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when i do that it makes my one eye look more open than the other, and i think to myself: "wow, am i really that ugly?". quite heartbreaking.

reversed i look fine, i'm like 6/10 reversed, non-reversed (the way people see me) i'm 3/10. i wish my face was reversed, or that everyone's sight was reversed.
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My looks don't bother me as much as my inability to communicate...I'm not bad looking.


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post #20 of 33 (permalink) Old 09-02-2013, 08:40 AM
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This is not entirely true.

As a guy with pretty bad BDD, I've been obsessed with this phenomenon for a while, and I've done some digging around. The flipped image of what we see in the true mirror might be what others see: it's not what others perceive.

We always look at ourselves in the mirror, so our brain has grown accustomed to the mirrored version of our face. Human faces are never perfectly symmetrical, but our brain filters these 'imperfections' out and tries to find symmetry. This doesn't just apply to our own appearance, but to the way in which we perceive the appearance of others as well. When we look at a flipped reflection in a true mirror, our brain sees something that it is not used to seeing. Even though we know it is our own reflection, it doesn't add up with what we remember. Therefore our brain will highlight the asymmetries or imperfections that neither we ourselves nor others would normally perceive. This is a psychological phenomenon called the 'Mere exposure effect', and has been researched numerous times in the past. This also explains why the majority of people dislike the way they look in pictures or on video. A simple way to confirm this is by having someone you're familiar with stand next to you in front of a mirror and look at their reflection. They will not look the same as you're used to, guaranteed.

In summary: I think the image that we see in a normal mirror is more accurate to the way others perceive us than what we see in a true mirror.

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