Re: Toxic friends
yep definitely had one of these.. she was my best friend from 3rd grade till senior year of hs, with a few breaks in between. In HS, she was the only friend I had left. She was extremely self-centered, selfish, dramatic and always needed everyone's attention. Towards me, she was very critical and judgmental. She would constantly put me down and make little backwards compliments to me, since she was jealous of me. She would always have other friends (although everyone at school labelled her a **** and guy-obsessed, which was true) but would rarely invite me to hang out altogether, even though she knew I had trouble making friends. I continued to stay friends w/ her throughout HS because she was my crutch - literally my ONLY friend - and I felt as long as I had her, that wouldn't make me a complete loser. Although I'm sure everyone associated me with her, and it crippled by ability to go out and make new friends.
I told myself after senior yr of HS I would cut all ties with her (althought my parents and bf thought I would continue staying friends w/ her) and it turned out, we had a falling out the middle of senior yr and stopped being friends because of that. Now we don't talk, except when she occasionally IMs me or write on my wall. I'm definitely better off without her as a friend, because I think she definitely contributed to my SA, but on the other hand, it does suck not having that best friend who you've had for years.