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Tired of feeling so worthless


I don't know why I let myself get used and lied to by the same person over and over again. Do I think so little of myself that I think this is the best I can do? Or is this the best out there for me? I just feel so nauseous and sick over this. I don't want to feel this way anymore.
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Sorry your feeling this way. So what is the situation? Why are you getting lied to by the same person over and over again?
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Sorry your feeling this way. So what is the situation? Why are you getting lied to by the same person over and over again?
I don't really want to go into much detail. But this person pretended to care about me. Pretended I was the only one. Made me believe in him. But he's been lying consistently to me about that while maintaining a relationship with someone else.
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I don't really want to go into much detail. But this person pretended to care about me. Pretended I was the only one. Made me believe in him. But he's been lying consistently to me about that while maintaining a relationship with someone else.
Tell him to go **** himself. (or better still let me do it)

Some people are just pricks - unfortunately you met one of them and were involved with him for a while. I think the thing to do is to try and learn from this experience and not let it happen again. (easier said than done I know)

I was actually treated fairly badly by someone a few years ago too. (probably my own fault in some respects for being a silly old bugger and getting involved at all - but it still hurt at the time)
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Tell him to go **** himself. (or better still let me do it) <a href="http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif" border="0" alt="" title="" >:-)</a>

Some people are just pricks - unfortunately you met one of them and were involved with him for a while. I think the thing to do is to try and learn from this experience and not let it happen again. (easier said than done I know)

I was actually treated fairly badly by someone a few years ago too. (probably my own fault in some respects for being a silly old bugger and getting involved at all - but it still hurt at the time)
I just feel sick to my stomach right now. Idk what to do about all these emotions. Idk how to cope. It sucks when someone can cause you so much pain and just move on happily with their life.

But I feel like it's my fault.
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People like that look for people who already suffer with feelings of worthlessness, because we're easier to manipulate. I know what you mean about being overwhelmed with emotions, and I'm not going to pretend there is some easy fix. There isn't. You just have to get through it one day at a time. It's not easy to move on when you're emotionally attached to someone, especially if you don't have many other people in your life. So try not to beat yourself up about it too much. I hope you can find some relief from the emotional torment. I've been there, and I know how painful it is.

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People like that look for people who already suffer with feelings of worthlessness, because we're easier to manipulate. I know what you mean about being overwhelmed with emotions, and I'm not going to pretend there is some easy fix. There isn't. You just have to get through it one day at a time. It's not easy to move on when you're emotionally attached to someone, especially if you don't have many other people in your life. So try not to beat yourself up about it too much. I hope you can find some relief from the emotional torment. I've been there, and I know how painful it is.

Thank you, I appreciate your words. Today has been the worst in my ability to cope. Feels like the life has been sucked out of me. I've been needing to let it all out. I'm going to keep trying.
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I just feel sick to my stomach right now. Idk what to do about all these emotions. Idk how to cope. It sucks when someone can cause you so much pain and just move on happily with their life.

But I feel like it's my fault.
It's not your fault - you trusted him and took him at his word. That's what we all do - otherwise nothing ever happens in our lives and we never meet anyone.

I'm really sorry you're going through this - but unfortunately if we don't take a chance on people we never know what will happen and we miss out on all the good things too.

You'll get stronger - and one day you'll meet someone else. The important thing is to be gentle with yourself while you're going through this horrible time. I hope you're feeling a bit better soon anyway.
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But I feel like it's my fault.
No way. The qualities you have were your utmost devotion to that person, perseverance, dedication, honesty, and you were true.

It's not your fault they were incapable of reflecting those very qualities you possess. It's how I feel about what happened in my situation. It's another one of the things you learn about yourself with these things.

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