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What is the meanest thing someone said to you? And what is the worst thing you told anyone?
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So the worst things I've said to people there are three main examples I would say (I have anger issues/kind of sociopathic so I assume no one is really going to be worse than me here,):

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You have no idea what you're talking about you crazy feminist c*** **** yourself preferably with something sharp and rusty, **** off, and don't ****ing talk to me again.
(no that wasn't to you know who, it was someone else.)

I also don't remember the exact wording but I told some guy something that involved stabbing himself to create a vagina, so he'd need a tampon or something like that.

Then there was a male troll on this forum who was trying to **** with me by insisting that one day I'd settle down with a guy and have kids. Essentially he was trying to 'put me in my place' based on the post he responded to so.. I told him that yeah maybe I would settle down with a guy and then get that guy to rape him, but then it occurred to me that I could also threaten to rape him with a broken bottle and so I added that instead.

Uh people have said a lot of **** to me online. I don't tend to care about the sorts of things that bother other people anymore* and care more about stuff that wouldn't bother other people. There's also the fact that it would have to be someone whose opinion I care about saying it to me in the first place, to have a stronger effect.


*several months back someone here spent a couple of months making posts/threads insisting that I should kill myself, become a prostitute, go into porn etc. The most annoying part was that they kept drawing so much attention by making tons of threads but that was obviously their intention since they wanted to stop me posting.

In that case I hadn't said anything to them, but they had a lot of frustration towards me built up over time. Then they saw some thread I'd made and that I disagreed with them in this one thread they made at the same time about something and they really lost it. Probably also because I would often call out their several thousand alt accounts when they made new ones because I was pretty good at working it out, even the less obvious ones.

Sometimes I'll say dick things to people and then they'll overreact and make tons of posts. That happened to me the other day when I said something to someone here. Both of our posts have been removed now but to paraphrase I basically said that I daydream about becoming dictator of the universe and making guys like them become the non sexual slaves of women, and a sexual slave to men. They also thought I was calling them gay which I actually wasn't at any point, but that seemed to piss them off even more. But the fact that sort of thing pissed them off was partly why I even brought up my initial comment.

So then they made tons of posts in response and also quoted me in like 10+ other threads (in less than an hour I think,) to either post insulting or very caring stuff (they mentioned at one point 'taking the high road' but then said they hoped my mum would be killed in a car accident and then disfigured,) they read at least one of my blog entries to use stuff they found there, started bragging about these attractive women they'd got with and told me that they wanted to 'compete with me because I'm their enemy now' tbh it was pretty funny though because then they were basically like 'but what will make you compete with me? I could have been an expert video gamer' And that was.. Damn.

I've been told that 'if I were you, I'd have killed myself' and stuff like that by people as well.


In real life I was psychologically abused for a long time by another girl (on/off from about age 6 to 17, though I still ran into her a few times until 18,) and she used to say all kinds of ****ed up things to me (I have actually blocked out a lot of it, she got worse during our teen years,) like imply I was in an incestuous relationship with my mum, tried to prove I was a lesbian at one point by feeling up my leg, constantly make me feel like I was incredibly creepy. As a teenager she tried to shame me for acting weirdly around people claiming it was because I was checking out girls in the changing rooms etc (really wasn't into women/girls at all in the past, and wasn't doing that.) After some teachers asked me if she was bulling me at around age 11 and I responded with 'sometimes' she later on tried to convince me that me admitting that to the teacher really ****ed with her and caused her to self harm. Just very manipulative, and crazy. Turned someone else against me too so she didn't have to pretend to be nice to me around them. I once visited this other girl's house with her and while that girl left the room she was stroking her cat and said to the cat 'you're so cute I could strangle you' or something like that. And I can't say I would have been surprised if she had. She was also mean to other people sometimes but not as much.

I'd sometimes get angry at her in response, and screamed that I hate her at least once. (Being somewhat autistic/schizoid and socially anxious doesn't give you the greatest toolset for dealing with socially skilled people like this.)

And she is ultimately is probably the biggest reason I believe I'm evil now, besides the fact that I also have various issues I inherited from my dad (and people always compared us on negative traits,) and obviously many other people said stuff but the other stuff was kind of superficial and on a less deep level. So it's not a specific 'one thing that was said' so much as her entire existence.
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I have had a lot of things said to my face, but even worse ones behind my back or by people thinking I wasn't listening, but you can't help hearing when you know it's about you.

I had to report an employee for it and it got the person fired. It almost happened again last year.

The worst thing I have ever said about someone (when asked if I knew said person) was that I knew them and if I never saw them again, it'd be too soon. The guy decided to inquire why I said such a thing, and the person said a bunch of stuff about me to him, he started calling me names, and it ended the friendship.

Years later, he sees me and calls my name. I ignored him.

There has been a lot of third party character assassination attempts of me over the years. I personally think it comes around to them. When people see me today, they look like a deer caught in headlights. I just go about my business.

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I had a new boss replace my old one at the last job I held. He told me that he didn't know how I managed to get the job; that he learned so much from everyone else in my department and nothing from me; and he didn't get how I managed to find a woman to marry me. ****ing *******, I hope he's dead by now.

The worst thing I ever told someone was probably to my mom..at least it was very hurtful. I was moving back to my home town with my wife and we needed a place to stay for a little while, Mom had a roach problem at her house and I said that we couldn't stay there because of all the roaches. She commented, "Why did you tell me that?". She was obviously hurt and let me know.
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me at a retarded family function: " you're good-looking but you have a big nose" - drunk father

- me with a bowl-cut and frail physique : "they're going to kill you in high-school" - older sister
-when learning to play poker: "Wow your'e probably the stupidest one here" -former friend
Worst thing I might have done: cussed out a backstabber at work and got them to quit the next day.
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Interesting guys! The key is to know that you made a mistake and to forgive yourself and others. And not to feel guilty about it too long or it will consume you. We all make mistakes, so best to forget, try better next time and move on!

The thing is people called me all kinds of names because they sensed my insecurity (weak, ugly). But I never really said something bad out loud to anyone,only had not so nice thoughts sometimes. And I have learned to forgive them, and to know people do not judge your person but what you project on them (attitude, feelings, behavior). Understanding and forgiveness comes with time. Most of you must know how hard it can be to truelly forgive someone who done you wrong?

It will be interesting what others have to say because we can all learn from each other's experiences and find ways to deal with our frustrations when we talk about what bothers us...
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A response from a member on here.

People are so used to your wack groupings of words that they've completely ignored you.





A response from a member on here.

Nice grammar. Nice logic.







A response from a member on here.

I find your prose incoherent, this is something that needs to be addressed as it does affect your communication.











A response from a person on Reddit.

Your poor grammar make me think you don't know what you talking about or at least can't explain it.









A response from a person on YouTube.

Your response is Sheer boredom







A response from my IEP Report.

5th grade writing comprehension and reading comprehension, and in 10th grade.


















A response from the Senior Center kitchen supervisor lady name Vicky in NYC Rego Park, after not stacking one crate properly.


Have you ever work with people before?



















A response from my father towards me as a kid.


Why do you have your hair like a bum.














A response from my aunt towards me at age 21 years old.

One of the people that I know have a job working in a store, have an apartment and have a girlfriend, but no job and no female will want a 30 year old man.



A response from the speech teacher.



Look you're getting older and taller, you need to speak and stop shaking your head.





A response from the family friend through text about me to my mom.

You should ditch him.

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On the 9th year of school we had a visit from a recruiting lady at some college, looking for new applicants (in my country of origin, it is pretty common for people to go to college after 9 years at school). I was genuinely bored with her narrative and annoyed that she was taking a lot of time away from the class I was interested in, so I started demonstratively looking around and yawning. She looked at me with contempt and said,
"You can't focus on anything. You will never get a better job than a janitor".
It was so ridiculous that I didn't even get offended; I just laughed internally. Well, what did she know... I moved to the country of my dreams and am about to graduate from a high-ranked PhD program, while she, for all I know, still tries to sell stuff to kids in that forsaken country.

As for me saying mean things, I've never really known how to be mean to people. I don't think I've ever even name-called someone in real life, except for the bullies that did it to me first. Online I used to be a bit more mean, but, again, I never attacked people first.
I guess the meanest thing I ever said that was not in response to something someone else said was something like "omg noob" in a Starcraft 2 teamed game.
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Wow guys I hope you all mentally recovered from this negativity. Mostly insecure, narcisstic, unhappy, jealous people will bring you down or try to hold you back from realizing your full potential. If I had listened to all the negative feedback I never would be where I am today. The best revenge is always to proof your bullies wrong.
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Online strangers can irk me for a minute but for the most part, their insults mean nothing to me. Telling a complete stranger online to "kill yourself" or "I'll rape you with a broken bottle" bla bla is ridiculous. Threatening someone online who you never met before with bodily harm is laughable.The people who really get to me are those who I care about.

The worst thing said to me: My dad once told me that I was worthless and I would always be worthless. It bothers me till this day because I was just a kid (13-14years old). I was really struggling at that age but instead of trying to help (his son) he just gave up on me.
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1. At least my mom loves me (I’ve had plenty of worse things said to me before but considering who it came from is what was the most hurtful).

2. Ehhhh idk it was really ****ing rude and I’d rather not say, I’m a changed person. I’ll never be that way again.

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Sometimes I'll say dick things to people and then they'll overreact and make tons of posts. That happened to me the other day when I said something to someone here. Both of our posts have been removed now but to paraphrase I basically said that I daydream about becoming dictator of the universe and making guys like them become the non sexual slaves of women, and a sexual slave to men. They also thought I was calling them gay which I actually wasn't at any point, but that seemed to piss them off even more. But the fact that sort of thing pissed them off was partly why I even brought up my initial comment.

So then they made tons of posts in response and also quoted me in like 10+ other threads (in less than an hour I think,) to either post insulting or very caring stuff (they mentioned at one point 'taking the high road' but then said they hoped my mum would be killed in a car accident and then disfigured,) they read at least one of my blog entries to use stuff they found there, started bragging about these attractive women they'd got with and told me that they wanted to 'compete with me because I'm their enemy now' tbh it was pretty funny though because then they were basically like 'but what will make you compete with me? I could have been an expert video gamer' And that was.. Damn.
I was actually just going to post normally, but I kinda want to reply, being that you are posting about what I said directly 10 or 12 days ago in that thread. You saying that you wish i become a sex slave to men is just a really screwed up thing to say to someone, and that is what set me off. As far as I was concerned at that point, you opened the floodgates. You pretty directly said that i wished i was not a sex slave to women but only to men, or something of the sort. It is a little weird that you are bringing me up randomly in another thread, but again, you started the craziness in a way with your initial comments about wishing i was a sex slave to men. Anyway, I was bullied in high school for a year or 2 and less so growing up, and i am now an expert at messing with people. If I did not think you deserved it, i would not have gone to those lengths, at the time.

For the record, i never read any of your blog, there was a preview of 3 things you wrote in blogs that i looked at for about a minute. Well if you say horrible things to me or wish horrible things, I have to pull out all the stops. It is a cheap way to brag about women I scored with, because I do love some women and value them, but because i was the loser growing up and ignored by everyone and shunned by everyone, it is a monumental achievement to have dated and been with gorgeous women. The way i saw it, if you were going to play dirty in your posts to me, why should I not use everything in my arsenal, so to speak, to win the battle with you? And everything in life is a competition, sorry to say it. I was a loser, I became a winner a few times briefly, and now I am back to being a loser again socially but I am too tired and overwhelmed anyway to do or say or type anything. I have dealt with backstabbing friends and women who all abandoned me and insulted me and turned their backs on me. I sometimes go weeks before signing onto this site or youtube messages because I dont have the energy anymore. Anyway I am sorry i was rude in my posts, I simply felt attacked and in my estimation i felt what i said was justified, based on what you initially said
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Unfortunately (but fortunately) my memory isn't that great. I generally don't hold grudges for things people have said.

I do remember one time when I was with one of my friends and we came upon a couple of girls who were obviously drooling over him and talking about how good looking he was. One of them just looked at me and said "This one has nice eyes but that's all". I thought that was a pretty harsh thing to say to someone's face. They were very attractive to me too so that stung pretty bad at the time.

Like I said. I'm sure people have said things but I generally don't dwell on it. I think most of the stuff people have said to me has been stuff that might have stung for a few minutes or something and then just kind of faded away into the haze of the past. I'm sure I have said stuff people took personally but I really don't recall much. To me, I don't take myself seriously so I guess it would surprise me if anyone else did. Probably not a wise way of looking at it though.

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Worst things people have said to me?

1) someone from here, not saying who:
"No one is going to hand you a job."

2) that woman with BPD I "dated" last year, before we met for the first time:
"I don't like your hair. Something about the line is bothering me."

Worst thing I have said? Not much, just don't get on my bad side. You will not like me when I am angry.

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I help/support people with their problems therapeutically from a spiritual/biblical perspective and some people don't like that. I been threatened, a couple of times, and personally that's where I draw the line. I believe to the law it's also illegal to make online threats because you never know if someone's intentions are true or not. Especially today with all this online bullying and (e-)terrorism. You can agree or disagree with someone, but no reason to bully or harrass/stalk them or their family. Especially not on self help forums or chats. I guess sometimes online the worst comes out in people and when they are behind their keyboards. So it's best to always ignore the hate and focus on the good in people your righteous actions.
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@Disheveled and Lost

and you're still not over it, my mistake. I was answering this thread honestly because I tend to just say whatever I think. I'm not trying to have a 'battle' with you I don't have the energy. I basically only brought it up because it happened recently and I was thinking through examples of stuff.
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The things that stick in my mind are mostly unintentionally hurtful comments, where people have pointed out how nervous/anxious I look or how my I've gone red in the face.

Those types of comments hurt the most because they make me feel like my anxiety is obvious to everyone.
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and you're still not over it, my mistake. I was answering this thread honestly because I tend to just say whatever I think. I'm not trying to have a 'battle' with you I don't have the energy. I basically only brought it up because it happened recently and I was thinking through examples of stuff.
OK no problem, I mean in the back of my mind i guess i was annoyed, but I have not been on the site in 10 or 12 days, I was going to pga golf, yankees mets and movies almost every night recently so I havent had time to think about much, anyway I also don't have the energy to argue with people online, and I am sorry that it all got this heated, some words just set me off, but I might have been too sensitive, and hopefully we can both move on with our lives you know without any bad blood
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