(Support Thread) What's Bothering You Right Now? - Page 718 - Social Anxiety Forum
Reply
 
Thread Tools
post #14341 of 14445 (permalink) Old 11-29-2020, 09:21 PM
macaroni in a pot
 
caelle's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: SoCali
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,853
Quote:
Originally Posted by WillYouStopDave View Post
Are you actually going to stores where shoes are sold and trying them on or are you ordering them online?

I kinda have the same issue with anything I buy where comfort matters. The last time I bought a chair for my desk, I chose the one I was going to buy by sitting in it at the store for a minute or so and was like "Seems comfy enough to me" and bought it. After sitting in it for a few hours, my back is in agony.

And the same pattern holds to this day. If I don't sit in it for a while and then sit down in it I'm like "Hey. This is more comfortable than I remember". But sure enough, the clock is ticking and soon my back is hurting again.

I don't think I have ever really been happy with a pair of shoes when I was living an active life and was on my feet all day every day with shoes on. My shoes I have now, I don't notice them because I hardly ever go anywhere and when I do, it's 3-4 hours at most.
No I'm not buying them in person. I live kinda far from shoe stores making it inconvenient for me to go. I bought shoes last year online that were dirt cheap and they were the most comfortable shoes I've ever worn. I wish they still sold them.

Going in person doesn't seem to matter. I've been disappointed with many things I've tried on in person, especially jeans. Fit great in the store, took them home, washed them, shrunk, and ended up too tight.
Well ok, my biggest complaint with the shoes so far is my feet slip out. My feet are narrow so it happens sometimes. Trying them on before buying might help but going in person seems like such a hassle I want to avoid it as much as possible. And anyway, these shoes I just bought fit good and didn't hurt at first. Just now hurting the second day wearing them. Soooo frustrating.

I think I'm just meant to wear pajamas and slippers but too bad that wont work for my job
caelle is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #14342 of 14445 (permalink) Old 11-30-2020, 04:47 PM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2020
Language: English and some others
Gender: Female
Posts: 45
My Mood: Dead
I'm bothered by my sole existence right now. I feel like a total failure, I can't achieve anything... I'm so tired.

顺其自然
Hadara is offline  
post #14343 of 14445 (permalink) Old 11-30-2020, 06:12 PM
I Am Second
 
Kevin001's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: USA ~ Louisiana
Language: American
Gender: Male
Age: 30
Posts: 57,926
My Mood: Inspired
Loud neighbors, you'd think it being freezing cold outside would stop them.

~ How can I build Your kingdom if I'm building my own
How can You be my treasure if I'm digging for gold
How can You be my fire if my heart has grown cold
How can You be my future if I've made this my home ~ Love & the Outcome
Kevin001 is offline  
 
post #14344 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-02-2020, 02:20 PM
SAS Member
 
Barakiel's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Here
Language: too few
Gender: Male
Age: 24
Posts: 4,506
My Mood: Angelic
As long as reading a few pages from a book or playing an instrument for a few minutes are accomplishments that leave me tired if not exhausted, I really can't expect to do much in life.
Barakiel is offline  
post #14345 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-05-2020, 08:45 AM
Stoicism / ACT / CFT
 
SplendidBob's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2014
Location: UK
Language: English
Gender: Male
Posts: 11,866
The loneliness, and the fear. Mostly the loneliness.

Compassion focused therapy audio, guided meditations:

https://balancedminds.com/audio/
SplendidBob is offline  
post #14346 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-05-2020, 12:25 PM
bipolar
 
harrison's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 16,443
I could definitely have done without waking up to the sound of the clock falling off the wall. Jesus what a noise.
harrison is offline  
post #14347 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-05-2020, 01:47 PM
A Person
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Essex, UK
Gender: Female
Posts: 5,909
My Mood: Worried
i feel so dark right now. i mean i always feel dark. it's a mircale i haven't done the deed.


Cool Ice Dude55 is offline  
post #14348 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-06-2020, 08:49 PM
SAS Member
 
Tetragammon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Utah, USA
Language: English, a little Japanese, Java, C#, C++
Gender: Male
Age: 36
Posts: 1,538
My parents just keep getting more involved with their old church. Since his stroke and cancer diagnosis in January my dad has dived back in all the way; he has a "calling" for the first time in over a decade -- basically an unpaid job he has to do for the church. He attends every Sunday via Zoom, and he's always watching talks on his tablet or reading his scriptures. And while my mom hasn't started attending with him yet, she keeps relying on people from their "ward" to do stuff for us like shopping, even though I offer all the time to go myself. But my mother is absurdly overprotective; she'd rather ask people who are practically strangers to do it, than risk me bringing the virus home. Now we're getting "love-bombed" again, with random church people showing up and leaving stuff on our doorstep, usually accompanied by some preachy message.

Risks from the global pandemic aside, I'm really concerned about my future. This is what Mormons do: they suck you in, doing all of these "favors" for "inactive" people like us to make us feel like we owe them and guilt-trip us into going back. And it really saddens me that my parents are so eagerly falling for it. My parents are not stupid -- my mom especially has had some run-ins with petty and manipulative church people in the past. After I officially resigned and my parents went inactive I was hoping that they were out for good. But here they are, getting sucked right back in again.

It makes me really depressed and anxious. All I can do is sit around and wait for the day they try to drag me back into it too. This is the ****tiest part of "family": wanting what's best for them, wanting to help them, but being completely unable to do so because they're totally blinded by a fundamentalist cult, brainwashed their whole lives into believing in stuff that is demonstrably false! Hell, it'll be because my parents or extended family or neighbors or WHOEVER believe that THEY know what is best for ME that they'll try dragging me back into it. It's so ridiculous it makes me want to scream... and break something.

"Sin" is an imaginary disease invented to sell you an imaginary cure.
Tetragammon is offline  
post #14349 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-06-2020, 09:10 PM
Mad Scientist
 
Omni-slash's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2016
Posts: 1,048
"The tragedy of a species becoming unfit for life by over-evolving one ability is not confined to humankind. Thus it is thought, for instance, that certain deer in paleontological times succumbed as they acquired overly-heavy horns. The mutations must be considered blind, they work, are thrown forth, without any contact of interest with their environment. In depressive states, the mind may be seen in the image of such an antler, in all its fantastic splendour pinning its bearer to the ground."

I wish there was someone like Zapffe still around today that could give words to my depression induced, misanthropic self-annihilation fantasies... sigh Yes I'm kind of crushing on him and his writings as of late

super chill and mentally ill.
Omni-slash is offline  
post #14350 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-08-2020, 12:11 PM
Permanently An Idiot
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Posts: 2,204
My Mood: Lurking
We have new neighbours. They just put in a hot tub. During the day, their builders are blaring music. After the builders leave, the neighbours get in the hot tub and blare music. This used to be a relatively quiet area and my mother doesn't take well to change. She's drinking more again and I feel like she's very close to yelling at the neighbours to STFU. At which point I will die of embarrassment.

I was much further out than you thought
And not waving but drowning
TheWelshOne is offline  
post #14351 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-08-2020, 12:22 PM
SAS Member
 
SilentRider's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2019
Posts: 10
Social media, i keep trying to ignore jealousy, but it's hard seeing people i knew just having a lot more money to travel and having a more normal ideal life than me.

I did barely post anything but have been going out and taking pictures of places i have been and putting them on Facebook alongside some selfies just to say i have been going out of my house, but people generally don't go to the places i went to take a walk in and the people i saw...well, i guess they weren't the kind to randomly stop and talk to strangers either, why yes, we are both walking in this...i guess small hill and passed through each other, bye!

I know, i know, talking to random people is fine and a good idea to combat anxiety, it's just if i don't like to be bothered and enjoy solitude at times, i expect others walking by to also not want to be randomly stopped as they are walking.

Still, i have just realized i have been mostly taking pictures of places or myself...alone while others tend to be with others or really large groups, like, did everyone i used to know really grow up to always hang out with groups of 10 or more people!?

I know i ghosted some of them, but i don't recall them inviting me to that kind of stuff...then again the few times i did accept to go i either got sick or they were the ones ghosting me, yeah, sure let's go watch a movie, you swear you or others will call me and i will stay awake all night hoping for a call or an apology afterwards...sorry, i guess seeing people i knew being with such big groups in a lot of photos kinda dragged some memories.

At least some people are commenting on the photos and saying they are nice, and liking them so there is that at least.

Just here to talk about stuff i guess.
SilentRider is offline  
post #14352 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-08-2020, 01:53 PM
SAS Member
 
Skeletra's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Norway
Gender: Female
Age: 36
Posts: 4,433
I need a break. I need a break. Ineedabreak.

I hit the gas instead of the breaks today and almost rammed into another car. Wtf. And then when I was about to back out of the parking I put my car in drive instead of reverse. Could have rammed into the wall.
Having problems sleeping and having big problems just calming down my mind

Embrace the glorious mess that you are
Elizabeth Gilbert



Skeletra is offline  
post #14353 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-10-2020, 05:58 AM
Moderator
 
WillYouStopDave's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: United States
Gender: Male
Age: 47
Posts: 32,940
My Mood: Relaxed


Looks like today is gonna be a Costco day. My mother insists that we get there at 9 AM because it's the senior hour and she thinks that will help. Except it won't because my dad is so slow that we'll barely be getting started by 10 when everyone else is allowed in and I am not a senior and I also don't even have a damn Costco membership so if I get separated from my dad and they see me wondering around in there between 9-10 they'll probably boot me out. And I won't be able to get back in because I'm not a member.

And I know it'll happen. Every time we go in there we get separated. I stop to look at something for 5 seconds and turn around and he's just friggin gone. I'm gonna be so pissed if that happens. That's on top of walking around worrying that I'm breathing death the whole time.

/WYSD
WillYouStopDave is offline  
post #14354 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-10-2020, 10:39 AM
SAS Member
 
kesker's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Ricola
Language: Algonquin
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,128
My Mood: Psychedelic
Quote:
Originally Posted by Skeletra View Post
I need a break. I need a break. Ineedabreak.

I hit the gas instead of the breaks today and almost rammed into another car. Wtf. And then when I was about to back out of the parking I put my car in drive instead of reverse. Could have rammed into the wall.
Having problems sleeping and having big problems just calming down my mind
Even in the face of sheer exhaustion, it can feel impossible to shut your brain off, drop your shoulders, get some sleep. That's a hard place. I hope you can get a break. It's interesting that you are hitting the gas instead of the brakes. It's almost a metaphor for not being able to stop and get a break. Hope it gets better.

...you gotta keep the goal in mind, develop tunnel vision to a certain extent. it's hard, and it's not for everyone.

~bad baby

"Daisy, may I ask why you're holding Miss Sybil's biscuit jar?"
kesker is offline  
post #14355 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-11-2020, 09:40 PM
SAS Member
 
Tetragammon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Utah, USA
Language: English, a little Japanese, Java, C#, C++
Gender: Male
Age: 36
Posts: 1,538
My mother is pissing me off. She keeps saying stuff about how this is the last Xmas we'll have with my dad. She just can't help but focus on the negative all the damn time. It's like YES, I KNOW my father is dying and I'm doing my damnedest not to think about it and just enjoy the time we have left with him; why the **** does she have to bring it up every damn day?

And now she keeps staying up WAY later than she ever did before. She used to go upstairs with my dad no later than 7-8 PM, and now here it is almost 10 and she's still here, because my dad goes to sleep too early. I feel obligated to stay with her, but I need time to myself. Especially when she just keeps saying depressing ****. I know everyone deals with things in their own way but she's always so negative, always expecting the worst -- I'm starting to see where my anxiety actually comes from.

"Sin" is an imaginary disease invented to sell you an imaginary cure.
Tetragammon is offline  
post #14356 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-13-2020, 11:51 PM
📝📸🎬💾🎲⚾🚀⛰🍪💡
 
Paul's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: California Republic
Language: '̸̼̩̑́̄͆̾͆̿́̕ṅ̶͒́
Age: 40
Posts: 6,649
Quote:
Originally Posted by Skeletra View Post
And then when I was about to back out of the parking I put my car in drive instead of reverse. Could have rammed into the wall.
I did that just a few days ago on perfect sleep with no stress or distractions. Happens. As long as you don't inexplicably gun it when you back out of your parking space, you notice after a few inches.

But being sleep-deprived is dangerous and unhealthy in lots of ways, so I hope you can find a solution.

Play The Social Anxiety Game

"Many people need desperately to receive this message: 'I feel and think much as you do, care about many of the things you care about, although most people do not care about them. You are not alone.'" ― Kurt Vonnegut
Paul is online now  
post #14357 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-14-2020, 05:17 AM
Moderator
 
WillYouStopDave's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: United States
Gender: Male
Age: 47
Posts: 32,940
My Mood: Relaxed
It looks like Youtube is down. Again.

/WYSD
WillYouStopDave is offline  
post #14358 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-14-2020, 01:17 PM
Permanently An Idiot
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Posts: 2,204
My Mood: Lurking
I wish my depression spirals had a pattern. I've been seeing slight improvements in my body after two months of exercises, but apparently it's not enough to motivate me to keep going. Or to eat less. I started a drawing but I can't motivate myself to finish it. I have a ton of anime to watch but I can't motivate myself to watch it. There are trailers out for the new Loki and Winter Soldier/Falcon shows but I'm over it. Over it. Can you believe that? I don't even want to write stories, the way I distracted myself for 15 damn years. So now I'm just refreshing tabs aimlessly, waiting for some sort of inspiration to strike. And being cynical on Pinterest, because that's what I do best.

And this is me *on* antidepressants. Maybe my B12 is low again. It's a month until I get a new jab for it though. But seriously, how does anyone live like this?

I was much further out than you thought
And not waving but drowning
TheWelshOne is offline  
post #14359 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-15-2020, 12:29 PM
SAS Member
 
IcedOver's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: PA
Gender: Male
Age: 44
Posts: 5,813
I'm not sure if this is "bothering" me too much, but objectively it is a problem. I have a nervous tic that I've had for decades of picking the material on my pants, at the knees and lower legs. Early on in the PA governor's first course of business destruction in the Spring, I was home a lot and as such was wearing sweatpants and not crunching that fabric. Totally unconsciously, I replaced that tic with another (though I still crunch the pants material) - rubbing my thumbnail with my index finger. I'd never done this before although I have liked the look of that nail for decades because it has odd, raised striations that are different from my other nails.

So now this nail is very shiny. I find it attractive to look at as it shines in the light; it looks different in different types of light. The problem is that I look at it almost constantly. If I have a second off from typing something for work or if I am trying to think of something, I'll bring my hand up and look at the shininess of the nail. I rub it constantly, and it's probably causing some hand/finger damage. I'm wondering if I need to consider some type of glove or covering when I'm not typing.
IcedOver is offline  
post #14360 of 14445 (permalink) Old 12-15-2020, 01:30 PM
aldehyde dehydrogenaser
 
coeur_brise's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Language: Luuvvvv
Posts: 7,287
I see my past self from 2017 and I really want to go back there. It felt like nothing could hurt me, except for general misery at job and I didn't mess up so much as I do now. I trusted society more and loved people more. I regretted less, worried less. Lived with so much joie de vivre. Maybe I need a change or scenery or grammar lessons.
I really dont know. Less hangs up about my body for sure. Xmas may be delayed but that's par for the course in 2020. I shouldnt take things for granite or marble.
coeur_brise is offline  
Reply

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
New poll: Trump's support has doubled Cletis Society & Culture 155 09-17-2015 12:12 PM
3 great ways to manage social anxiety Starter Triumphs Over Social Anxiety 0 01-15-2011 05:35 AM
New York City Social Support for Social Anxiety Cool Calmness Support Groups, Friends, Connections and Gatherings 6 12-08-2010 09:16 AM
You Are Accepted Caedmon Spiritual Support 2 07-03-2009 08:39 PM
Pants Anxiety Support LilyFair Just For Fun 18 11-08-2005 08:24 AM

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome