"We'll keep in touch"
I recently quit my first ever "real" job and I received a lot more goodbyes than I was expecting. Some were abrupt and others were typical.
Something I didn't think would bother me is having the phrase "let's keep in touch" spewed by the people I notified of my departure.
One would think that this is a sign that I had impacted the place a bit but it was very, very easy to spot the generic/fake responses from the more genuine ones (not that I was expecting anything but forced).
In truth, I would have much rather taken those fake/forced responses than the "let's keep in touch" trap.
The reason I say this is because I know I didn't get that close with anyone in the office and while I may have gotten along with the few people that I did, it wasn't like we were friends. If anything, this was probably the most I had heard from them in the past 3-4 months that we had been under quarantine (and that was only true if I had even seen them in the office for a given week).
Out of all of them, I wanted to see something from my crush but I didn't get anything special from her even when I sent her a semi-heartfelt message (albeit it was via IM).
Above all else, the sentiment comes on half way. I know for a fact none of these people ever wanted to communicate me on a regular basis and now that I'm gone that likely hasn't changed.
It all sort of seems (as outlandish and conceited as it sounds) like a way to get me to feel guilty about leaving. These people never reached out to me before but suddenly leaving makes them do it? Why? How does that make things any better?
“Though I have always made it my practice to be pleasant to everybody, I have not once actually experienced friendship. I have only the most painful recollections of my various acquaintances ...
― Osamu Dazai, No Longer Human