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Just started tracking, glad I did as it's a very clear pattern.
Life pattern (name for it)?

The boards, etc on the wall in your video's impressed me too.

Wish I was that organised.

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Yup absolutely re socialising, and yes, the sooner I get up and get going the better, which is what I do now.. I just need to work on those aspects of my life that will let me build up the social network I need. .
Thinking you'll achieve those goals (like you have done in the past) with being that organised.
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post #12982 of 13265 (permalink) Old 09-23-2019, 03:09 PM
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If it's any consolation my son and my wife drive each other nuts too. I went up there on Saturday and when my son arrived it was sort of like a tornado hit the damn house. We spent the next few hours trying to talk about it all. As usual I was sitting between them acting as referee. I still feel so tired it's like I've been hit by a truck.

Oh no she's forgotten all about the iPad now - there's always something else to deal with at her place.
What is with that? My mum and I are pretty headsy. Hopefully they came to some agreement, not fair you being in the middle.

That's good to know! Lol hopefully it's manageable.

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What is with that? My mum and I are pretty headsy. Hopefully they came to some agreement, not fair you being in the middle.
I'm not completely sure what it is tbh. I'll say what I think part of it is - with my son at least.

I think when we're young we sort of think the world revolves around us. We haven't had the life experience to see things from other people's perspective - sometimes we put all the blame onto someone else (maybe a parent) and fail to see that we were in that relationship too - and so played a huge part in what happened.

One day he'll hopefully have kids of his own. He'll get a very different perspective on things then.

As for being in the middle - I love them both more than anything in the world, so I don't have much choice. I need to try and help them work this stuff out. And my son listens to me a lot more than his Mum. It gets a bit complicated but it's not too bad really.
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It's very exhausting, having to constantly be perfectly vigilante in leaving zero back traces, so they can systematically be nitpicked and used to antagonize against me.

Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.

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Every ****ing morning. Mood 2 or 3 out of 10. Moclobemide + caffeine seem to act as a stimulant and my mood boosts up to 7 or 8 by the evening, and then i crash.

Social contact is also a driver for positive mood for me, its ridiculous. When I feel alone and abandoned, my loneliness just skyrockets and I feel totally horrible.

I went to my "friends" last night, and tbh, I just hated it. They aren't my kind of people. And I was getting weird "vibes" from them, tbh. I am very good at picking up irregularities on body language, though I am unable to attribute meaning.

Last two weeks. This isn't normal. Every low point is when I wake up.
Relating to this. It's like we need socializing to feel good but it's hard to socialize properly when you have SA.

Do you mind me asking what app that pic is from?
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Relating to this. It's like we need socializing to feel good but it's hard to socialize properly when you have SA.

Do you mind me asking what app that pic is from?
Mood Log on android. I tested lots and lots of them and this one most closely matched what i wanted (was going to try to write one, but dont have the mental resources for that right now). It misses a lot of things reports wise I would like, but it lets you quickly log mood, and assign tags as well, so I can filter by tags and see what my mood is like (hinting at things that may improve my mood).

It's very very useful, would recommend.


Uni Work is 5.67 (surprising since I proctrastinate and avoid it).
Social interaction is 5.6
Gym is 4.9
Lonely is 3.1

Morning average is somewhere between 2 and 3
Evening average is maybe 6 ish.

So I need to be busy, get out of bed asap and start doing stuff, find things to do that let me interact with people, and keep going to the gym. I am going to be less slack with tags. They seem useful in determining exactly what boosts or reduces mood.

Enough about me, lets talk about you, what do you think about me?
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My son has astonishingly expensive taste. That's bothering me quite a bit at the moment.
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My son has astonishingly expensive taste. That's bothering me quite a bit at the moment.
On a beer income?
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On a beer income?
Unfortunately it's me that's got the beer income mate, he gets a very good one.

He suggested a restaurant for his birthday that averages about 130 dollars a head. Cheeky boy - that's just silly. We're not going there.

Apparently he took his last gf there (twice) and really liked it.
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Unfortunately it's me that's got the beer income mate, he gets a very good one.
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He suggested a restaurant for his birthday that averages about 130 dollars a head. Cheeky boy - that's just silly. We're not going there.
Just say if you are paying, we may visit one day.

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Apparently he took his last gf there (twice) and really liked it.
Must have doggy bagged the extra food.
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Must have doggy bagged the extra food.
Probably just wanted to impress her mate - not a bad idea actually.
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Probably just wanted to impress her mate - not a bad idea actually.
Most likely.

But a fish and chips date on hill top, private place is sometimes enough.

Most unused food gets thrown out by restaurants. So either eat it or garbage it goes. They say the homeless should have the left over food, as just goes to waste.
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My mom just got diagnosed with breast cancer and has to have surgery . Feels like life is going to be bad from now on.

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Mood Log on android. I tested lots and lots of them and this one most closely matched what i wanted (was going to try to write one, but dont have the mental resources for that right now). It misses a lot of things reports wise I would like, but it lets you quickly log mood, and assign tags as well, so I can filter by tags and see what my mood is like (hinting at things that may improve my mood).

It's very very useful, would recommend.


Uni Work is 5.67 (surprising since I proctrastinate and avoid it).
Social interaction is 5.6
Gym is 4.9
Lonely is 3.1

Morning average is somewhere between 2 and 3
Evening average is maybe 6 ish.

So I need to be busy, get out of bed asap and start doing stuff, find things to do that let me interact with people, and keep going to the gym. I am going to be less slack with tags. They seem useful in determining exactly what boosts or reduces mood.
Sounds pretty useful. Thanks for the recommendation!
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I just don't know. Sometimes I sit here and I go through every single one of my thoughts in a way in which I am searching for answers and "I just don't know" is the answer to every single question. It drives me friggin batty.

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