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My mother always argues with me whenever I talk about things I want to do or ideas I have to solve problems I have. Like....how does she think that's helpful?

If I tell her I want to find healthier snacks she tells me I should try fasting. When I tell her I don't want to try fasting because it makes me feel like **** to feel like I'm starving, she just keeps arguing with me and won't stop. People do not think about the psychological impact of shooting down everything a person has to say. Like to just beat someone down is not good for them. It just isn't.

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Also, I'll most likely never know for sure whether I passed up a chance to be with someone, and that should be a good reason not to dwell on it, but I've been doing a poor job avoiding doing just that lately, and I can't help but feel like I'm never going to have an opportunity for a romantic relationship ever again.
I think enough time has passed that it's safe to mention that this did involve two other SAS members, and that fact made it so much more painful to be honest. I still feel pretty regretful thinking that a LDR with this person was a real possibility that I didn't take seriously until it was too late. I hope I'm not appearing ungrateful to the person who was willing to listen to me in private about this a while back, but I think being public about this will be cathartic (hopefully), for a long time this just wasn't something I could post about.

I'm handling it better than I was last year, but accidentally stumbling across either of them while reading old threads always makes my heart sink.
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post #12444 of 12495 (permalink) Old 05-08-2019, 11:56 AM
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That's because it is bullying.
It looks like that.

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It's obvious if she's getting on to me and not him that it's bullying.
I think I missed that part about you only in the past, which is why I was thinking differently and thinking they were being hard to be kind.

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I don't have to fact check anything.
Fact checking helps to avoid getting misinformed about them telling you that is the correct procedure when it isn't. Usually businesses have manuals with the procedures, ways the business does things. Not all businesses, but usually well run, organized businesses do.

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I just misunderstood what you were saying, sorry about that.

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I hate people and I'm so tired of people telling me that people are good when all I do is get bullied.
I'll try to explain, which I'm terrible at, as usually talk in short.

Why I think they think that way is sometimes it can be people being hard to be kind. Like a parent having to be hard so a kid doesn't do something wrong consistently. I have seen parents blow up at their kids for minor things, but the kids turned out sweet, kind, respectful.

Sometimes when being too soft, kind people can be ignorant towards them and do what ever they want. I saw a father like this who tried to stop his kid being naughty, aggressive and asked him to stop politely. The kid ignored him and went back to being naughty, aggressive.

So parents or other people learn to be more assertive. Sometimes it goes over the top (repetitive, they don't learn another way / adapt) which happened in your case and towards you only. When consistent, to you only it can look, feel like bullying, abuse.

Sometimes we don't see things or habits that annoy others until brought to our attention. We can then feel flawed and get upset and in some cases handle the situation wrong.

But I can see from a previous post that you handle the situations you encounter maturely, correctly (not being cheeky), so you are thinking it is something the other person is doing wrong. Then get frustrated a bit at them.

Sometimes we don't realize that they have a mental illness (personality disorder), or dealing with life issues at home, work that are stressful, so the behaviour is understandable.

Like for examples, telling off about cleanliness. Her mother could have done that, so she thinks has to do it to others. Or bosses are telling her off about that lack of cleanliness, so looking for the culprit. She is relaying that message and trying to correct it. But could have the wrong person which is her mistake.

I'm thinking if you get to know them more, you will learn why and how to handle the situation better. Sometimes never find out why.

We are human, make mistakes and are consistently learning throughout our lives. Most just see it as mistakes and are learning.

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If it is, that is mess up in their part. Although, it also sounds like a business or branding suicide on their end to anger customers. Unless they're looking for quick big cash grab and then for a quick buy out for another company.

But most of these products I am talking about are from big mega globally known long standing companies and brands.
It's been known to happen. There's the term corporate raider for a reason. As I said though, I usually expect changes like that to be done for monetary reasons. I suppose there could be other reasons. Perhaps a shortage of an ingredient, or change made to meet new legal requirements. Or maybe they actually have a better product, but forgot that often people don't like change.


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It's been known to happen. There's the term corporate raider for a reason. As I said though, I usually expect changes like that to be done for monetary reasons. I suppose there could be other reasons. Perhaps a shortage of an ingredient, or change made to meet new legal requirements. Or maybe they actually have a better product, but forgot that often people don't like change.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ThZJWmCaYRQ

Well things I'm talking about are products with great reviews and strong sales.

Coca cola I guess it seems like they changed the formula due to paranoia of Pepsi catching up. It's an interesting video indeed though. I never knew they only changed the recipe once throughout history. I always thought they changed it around every so often. Never knew or pay much attention to the "classic" ones. I always thought the classic are the ones they use pure cane sugar, where the now recipe are high fructose corn syrup. I haven't had a coke for years actually to be honest. Had they not publicize the change in their recipe, I don't think people will really notice nor would they mind. Years later, the consumers probably wouldn't care as long as they enjoy it.


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I am a half-wit who can’t even follow the important points of the plot in movies at times. Like I will zone out in the middle of a scene, or mishear something, when a major premise is being explained. I will then have to go online to research the movie I saw at the cinema. This is why I enjoy watching movies at home more so I can rewind.
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My grandma had an accident and now is almost completely immobile. My mom is able to handle some of it but not all the time and it's probably inevitable that the things they're trying to put off me doing, mainly because I'm male, will end up falling to me. It's not just that she can't do almost anything by herself. It's that she's very fragile. So I'm worried about hurting her even more if I grab her the wrong way to move her. Also, depending on how long she's immobile, I'm thinking her strength could decrease even more. There's a lot about the whole situation that is anxiety inducing.
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I am a half-wit who canít even follow the important points of the plot in movies at times. Like I will zone out in the middle of a scene, or mishear something, when a major premise is being explained. I will then have to go online to research the movie I saw at the cinema. This is why I enjoy watching movies at home more so I can rewind.
lol this is me wikipediaring the plot whilst i'm watching a movie because i zoned out and then getting mad because i read a spoiler

that's why i like to stick to kids films and comedy films because they're easy to understand


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another year older, another year wasted, etc. never thought i'd end up like this. wish i wasn't here. wish i could go back to being 4 years old and just stay there forever.


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I'm annoyed because I was kind of hoping to eat pizza and watch a movie tonight. I do that once a week as a reward for being good the rest of the week. But I still can't eat anything, even though in the last 48 hours all I've had is a bowl of cereal. The worst thing about this gastro problem is that I can no longer enjoy food. Which was about the only thing I had left that I could use to make myself feel good. Now there's just ... nothing. Is it wrong to hope that my test results are really bad just so that I can look forward to being done with it all? "You have two weeks to live" would just be a huge relief at this point.

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I can't catch a break. Anxiety has mucked up my job and it's been made known that someone has stolen my identity AGAIN and is trying to get into college with it (lmao good luck even getting financial aid with my credit fool). Will be making the reports tomorrow, not looking forward to that painful experience again. FML.

I can imagine the police report already. "Oh look, another one" *police files it away with the other thousands of identity theft reports* Like, who cares that this person is walking around in the same state, same city as me and in a college nearby with my identity. Like, why even bother looking into it. They really never do. The first time didn't really get resolved either. I'm just so done.

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I can't catch a break. Anxiety has mucked up my job and it's been made known that someone has stolen my identity AGAIN and is trying to get into college with it (lmao good luck even getting financial aid with my credit fool). Will be making the reports tomorrow, not looking forward to that painful experience again. FML.

I can imagine the police report already. "Oh look, another one" *police files it away with the other thousands of identity theft reports* Like, who cares that this person is walking around in the same state, same city as me and in a college nearby with my identity. Like, why even bother looking into it. They really never do. The first time didn't really get resolved either. I'm just so done.
Again? Is it that easy to steal that stuff? Are you just an easy target? Sucks but hey life is full of hills and valleys just have to stay the course God has you

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Again? Is it that easy to steal that stuff? Are you just an easy target? Sucks but hey life is full of hills and valleys just have to stay the course God has you
I've pretty much accepted that my info is just out there, since the first breach. It's never been resolved, so I imagine every few years I'll be stuck cleaning up and freezing my credit and filing reports. Never able to own anything or live anywhere I guess. It's deeply upsetting feeling this helpless and vulnerable. Nobody affordable to defend me or care to get it resolved, I'm not high profile enough for it to matter.

:: Anybody else want to run? Contorting, distorting, I am undone. One less propaganda nightmare fixture. Are you getting the picture? Separate. I've lost my only way. See the shape, Broken and thrown away. ::


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