I notice with mine, there is the happy annoying bonkers, and the angry scary bonkers. Not sure how her pattern is now though since I don't see her as often. Although of the two, I prefer the happy annoying one.
Sorry I didn't respond earlier. I am not getting all my quote notifications so I didn't even know you'd replied.
Yeah. Mine kind of has the same thing going on. But she can go from one to the other at the drop of a hat (little or no reason is necessary) and that's unfortunately more than annoying. And.....sometimes even when she's doing the happy bonkers routine she's doing subtle passive aggressive stuff at the same time. This apparently makes sense to her in that she thinks it gives her an excuse for the quick swing to angry scary bonkers. She will sometimes be doing the smiling happy routine at the same time when she's trying to start an argument. It's so bizarre.
Like she will say something nice and polite and happy and then put an odd spin on it that translates to "Oh, by the way, you suck"
She also picks fights with my dad. She will ask him a question about something he knows she will get mad about if he gives her the wrong answer. So he will try to defend himself before it becomes necessary and then she uses that as an excuse to start the argument early. She will say "I just asked you a question! I wasn't accusing you of anything! You don't have to get hateful!"
And I'm sitting in here hearing that and thinking "WTF?"
It will go like this. She'll ask him if he washed her clothes and he will say "I was going to do that but I haven't had time". At which point she launches into attack mode and tells him it wasn't an accusation and accuses him of being mean to her.
Like.....she's demanding for him to do her laundry and at the same time telling him she despises his personality.
She never did this before a couple of years ago so he doesn't know how to respond. No matter what anyone does, it turns into an argument somehow and she always swears it's everyone else's fault.
I mean, it's actually not funny because I don't think she realizes this isn't normal but it would almost be funny if it wasn't so unpleasant.