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I guess I've been going through an existential crisis realizing that the way things are going, I'm simply not going to learn a second language or become a successful musician. It's awful seeing job openings looking for someone who's bilingual knowing I've had all these years to study Spanish. It's getting to the point where I can't watch musicians on Youtube because I'm too envious of anyone who's proficient in any instrument (hopefully it doesn't get to the point where I simply can't listen to music anymore ).

Unfortunately none of this motivates me to practice any of those things properly. I've been playing this saxophone I'm renting 30 minutes to an hour at the most, which I suppose is better than nothing but that's certainly not going to lead to proficiency anymore than using Duolingo will lead to fluency. It's a 'baby step', which is all I've taken my whole life.

Also, I'll most likely never know for sure whether I passed up a chance to be with someone, and that should be a good reason not to dwell on it, but I've been doing a poor job avoiding doing just that lately, and I can't help but feel like I'm never going to have an opportunity for a romantic relationship ever again.
You could always do full immersion when it comes to a second language. In my opinion, that's how languages are learned- in context, in speech and dialogue. Try listening to songs in a second language. There's all of the above, context, syntax, vocab, phrases and expressions. I'm starting to sound like a phrase book so Ill stop. And maybe put this here, just for amusement, granted it's Cuban accent, but not like it really matters https://youtu.be/EU3oYFv7yto

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weve moved on now
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I don't know where to put this. I have felt so blah lately, like I have no life whatsoever, nothing intelligent to say. This leaves me with watching a lot of trash TV, esp TLC where I watch the morbidly obese with an even more morbid sense of curiosity and the attention which, to a sane person, would just be the exploitation of people's struggles. Anyway. I wish I could eat this whole thing of store-bought baklava, but it tastes like it's been sitting on the shelf for months and the insides are all welded together and possibly over baked. I saw bits of bariatric surgery. Not at the same time. That is all I can contribute to a conversation.

Edit: this baklava contains no honey. Am even more disappointed.
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I don't know where to put this. I have felt so blah lately, like I have no life whatsoever, nothing intelligent to say. This leaves me with watching a lot of trash TV, esp TLC where I watch the morbidly obese with an even more morbid sense of curiosity and the attention which, to a sane person, would just be the exploitation of people's struggles. Anyway. I wish I could eat this whole thing of store-bought baklava, but it tastes like it's been sitting on the shelf for months and the insides are all welded together and possibly over baked. I saw bits of bariatric surgery. Not at the same time. That is all I can contribute to a conversation.

Edit: this baklava contains no honey. Am even more disappointed.
yeah similar (i mean everything before baklava lol). i went out for a walk today, and that's kind of an achievement for unknown reasons. i mean it's meant to be better than watching a series on my laptop, but idk why it would really be better. pretty much anything is like that. a better paying job/more hours would supposedly be better but i'm pretty sure it'd end up bad or no better. maybe i'm just really risk-averse? same goes for my living situation, i don't like it here, but does better exist. and if it really could be better, is it really better? maybe all i can do now is tolerate everything that exists. everything feels flat and empty. except for passive-aggressiveness. that's pretty much become a constant.

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My mother's delusions have gone to the next level. She somehow saw a youtube video where someone was talking that nonsense about wifi causing cancer or "health problems" or whatever it is they claim (which I know is 99.999% BS and the rest is probably coincidence at best).

Now she is convinced that wifi and cell phones and pretty much anything electronic is bad for you. It's just so random. I mean, my mother doesn't even know how a toilet works but somehow she is convinced that some nutcase on youtube knows something the people who design and understand cell phones and wifi don't.

Now she won't even turn her cell phone on. I have tried everything to bring her back into reality but she's not having it. She just keeps on. She's started telling anyone who will listen what she believes and sooner or later she's going to start telling the neighbors and they're going to think she's gone batty (she has but still).

It's just.....I don't know. Seems like every time I turn around she's picked up some different kind of delusion that she won't drop. I just wonder how long it will be before she's completely out of touch with reality.

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ug went back to dating site, sent message, got reply. nothing bad right? but i feel regret, why bring this judgement into my life? her profile says she wants someone with a fulltime job but my job is part time. lol. does that mean if i work over 30 hours next week she will want me... but if i work 29... idk why i feel so annoyed by it. i ought to be pumping out messages. but i try and stop at one. it's possible i just don't even want this, just convinced myself that i do. i feel weird about relationships now. maybe it's just my thing to wait out the rest of my life to die alone.

any i'm wasting my time thinking about it which bothers me. i never do anything. i just come home, go on the internet and idk what i do then. go into a trance for hours. then the time is gone and the next day comes. everything bothers me.

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I don't know where to put this. I have felt so blah lately, like I have no life whatsoever, nothing intelligent to say. This leaves me with watching a lot of trash TV, esp TLC where I watch the morbidly obese with an even more morbid sense of curiosity and the attention which, to a sane person, would just be the exploitation of people's struggles. Anyway. I wish I could eat this whole thing of store-bought baklava, but it tastes like it's been sitting on the shelf for months and the insides are all welded together and possibly over baked. I saw bits of bariatric surgery. Not at the same time. That is all I can contribute to a conversation.

Edit: this baklava contains no honey. Am even more disappointed.
maybe stay away from words that begin with 'b'? (blah, baklava, bariatric etc) Try 'c' words instead and see if that helps?.....seriously, hope today is better.

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She's back with her dickhead t**t of an ex again. I watched her life fall apart - anorexia got worse, he was clingy and controlling, uninterested in anything but her, used her as a babysitter, she lasted three days living with him before she dumped him last June. And yet he hung around (is stalked too strong a word?) until she finally blocked him late last year. And now they're back together again.

And she posts it on Facebook and her friend - who knows how much she absolutely needs to be away from him - posts 'Congratulations' and a happy cheering gif. Why can't people just be ****ing honest about these things?! He's a dick, she knows he's a dick, everyone knows he's a dick. But Valentine's Day goes by and she's single, Mother's Day's coming up and she's childless, her job isn't going exactly the way she wants... so she'll settle for a dick. And then turn around and tell me that she doesn't judge my relationships, just to really dig the knife in since she knows full damn well that I haven't had a sniff of romantic attention my entire life. **** you, sis. Seriously.

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I can relate to this so much. I still live with my mother so im trying to keep my distance from her as much as possible nowadays. What do you feel has worked for you?
I live with mine too and nothing works, so I'm not really in a position to give you advice. Sorry.

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I'm having a ****ty day. I was minding my own business when a customer told me I look sick today. I'm so ****ing tired of women insulting me. I've been getting picked on so much recently and I have no idea. What did I do to deserve these horrible insults?
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I'm having a ****ty day. I was minding my own business when a customer told me I look sick today. I'm so ****ing tired of women insulting me. I've been getting picked on so much recently and I have no idea. What did I do to deserve these horrible insults?


Some people do that. I had a women do something like that running by (clothing), another at a store (eyebrows), etc.

Maybe she was concerned?

But it depends on the tone of how it was said, facial expressions, etc. If do it with a smirk (smile to be friendly is different to a smirk), then it would be being mean.

Sometimes people say things as might not recognize it (bringing it to your attention). Or speaking out loud.

It doesn't matter how one looks, always get judged on looks.

Just got to see if can change it.

If not, ignore it.

and move on.
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I've probably been too open with my new friend and overshared, and driven her away. Could be anything though.
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