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Look at this way, look at the meaning of hostile. Means combative, war like.



What was your sister doing, being combative, picking a fight?



She is most likely projecting what she is doing to you, so doesn't think what she does is wrong.



I think why they are acting like tht towards you, is that sometimes in relationships some couples do that to bond. In some ways they are trying to bring you out of your shell.



Like this movie where this woman has a similar attitude to they claim you are (hostile and another word the woman shown there uses is tempestuous), but thy bond over a game of paintball which is being combative -







It is based off William Shakespeare's work (Taming of the Shrew). In that play the sister has a sister like your sister. From what I understand, it is about two sisters of a father, based in Italy.



In addition, sometimes just have to laugh it off (not take life seriously, more so with family that know you well, not so much with strangers that don't know you well enough), give it back.



Try it and see what happens (sister bonding).

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To me it mean being mean and angry. She was washing rhe dishes. I walked passed her and she flicked her wet fingers at me. Who wouldn't react? I guess I'm supopose to respond happy to it. She know I don't like it.


It look like picking with me to me. I don't think they do it to get me out of my shell although them telling stuff about myself make it seem like I need to get out of my shell they claim I have. IDK


I think you may be right about that video clip.

It is hard for me to laugh something like that off.........


Thank you for your words AN...ah...Groot.
{I'm still kind of hurt. I don't quite want to talk about it. lol}




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To me it mean being mean and angry. She was washing the dishes. I walked passed her and she flicked her wet fingers at me. Who wouldn't react? I guess I'm supopose to respond happy to it. She know I don't like it.


It look like picking with me to me. I don't think they do it to get me out of my shell although them telling stuff about myself make it seem like I need to get out of my shell they claim I have. IDK


I think you may be right about that video clip.

It is hard for me to laugh something like that off.........


Thank you for your words AN...ah...Groot.
{I'm still kind of hurt. I don't quite want to talk about it. lol}




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It is hard if have been bullied in any way outside of family, as see it differently.

But that is normal when have bro's, sisters.

Flick her back in a playful way, say ha, ha like you do on here and run.
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I cannot truly connect with anyone unless they are on the same emotional wavelength as I am, otherwise there is nothing there. The lights are on, but no one is home. I guess I am too closed-off and antisocial for my own good.


I can't connect with anyone either mate. Only been her and it's left me with severe depression in the end. I havn't seen her for almost 16 months and the pain is not easing. I was so god damn happy with her and it had been a life time of built up loneliness and pain before I met her, and it didn't god damn work out. I became so emotionally invested in her, that now everyone and everything else pales in comparison to the good times with her, and I can't give a damn about anything else. I feel dead inside. Worse than I've ever felt. I really, really needed her and will never get over how I thought that I finally felt a connection with someone. only for it to end in such a terrible way. It's a god damn tragedy I can't recover from.
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Nowhere to go, no one to talk to, trapped in misery.
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Wondering what to do with a lot of rejection and being ghosted. I don't really care so much about people who don't like me, but it seems to happen a lot.
yeah, it makes you wonder if there will ever be anyone that you will mesh w/.
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i really need to see some good examples of men to help give me some hope.
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Wish I could figure out some intermediary steps between now, group and work. Will talk to therapist tomorrow.

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Know your ACE (adverse childhood experiences) score?
Sometimes, SA is a symptom of significant developmental, attachment or interpersonal trauma (emotional neglect counts). If you're still stuck after you've tried SA treatments such as CBT and exposure, research C-PTSD and see if it resonates. Here's an awesome resource. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
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i really need to see some good examples of men to help give me some hope.
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I can't connect with anyone either mate. Only been her and it's left me with severe depression in the end. I haven't seen her for almost 16 months and the pain is not easing. I was so god damn happy with her and it had been a life time of built up loneliness and pain before I met her, and it didn't god damn work out. I became so emotionally invested in her, that now everyone and everything else pales in comparison to the good times with her, and I can't give a damn about anything else. I feel dead inside. Worse than I've ever felt. I really, really needed her and will never get over how I thought that I finally felt a connection with someone. only for it to end in such a terrible way. It's a god damn tragedy I can't recover from.
I totally understand where you are coming from, man.

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lol, is shania popular over there?
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lol, is shania popular over there?
Usually one knows by which stars visit a country (one way to know).

This woman visited -

 


I think Beyonce is the other that was downunder. Might have been others, but those two I know of (on TV, Youtube, etc).
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Why is this woman taking so long to contact me. Not a great way to start a working relationship.

Miles to go before I sleep.

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