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Feel lonely.
And really, no point in reaching out to other "lonely" people on this site. Or anyone. But people on here want to talk about how no one cares about them, yet when someone tries reaching out, they blow them off. Okay then.
I post about being lonely a lot, but I've also been in those moods where even when someone reaches out to me I just feel like I have no idea how to talk to them. Sometimes it's hard when you've spent so much time being isolated, and you feel like you have nothing to talk about, or your anxiety is up when talking to new people. I mean, we all have social anxiety after all, lol.
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And really, no point in reaching out to other "lonely" people on this site. Or anyone. But people on here want to talk about how no one cares about them, yet when someone tries reaching out, they blow them off. Okay then.

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I post about being lonely a lot, but I've also been in those moods where even when someone reaches out to me I just feel like I have no idea how to talk to them. Sometimes it's hard when you've spent so much time being isolated, and you feel like you have nothing to talk about, or your anxiety is up when talking to new people. I mean, we all have social anxiety after all, lol.
I'm the same way, but it still makes me not want to bother reaching out to people on here. When I actually make an effort (trying with multiple people) and it gets nowhere it's like "What's the point?" But I guess can't get through their anxiety/depression wall, or maybe they just don't want friendship with me particularly for some reason. Oh well.

Not singling anyone out. This happened with a few different people.
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At least people reach out to you guys. Truth be told, two great people have reached out to me. So it's not like I can sit here and say no one ever did.

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I post about being lonely a lot, but I've also been in those moods where even when someone reaches out to me I just feel like I have no idea how to talk to them. Sometimes it's hard when you've spent so much time being isolated, and you feel like you have nothing to talk about, or your anxiety is up when talking to new people. I mean, we all have social anxiety after all, lol.

Also, do you really want to listen to another persons **** when you feel ****ty yourself?

Personally I don't want to listen to others peoples ****, too much.

It can be easier to listen to other peoples **** though in person, and if you can feel a small connection with the person and break up the depressing talk with doing fun stuff, it can be a lot easier.

On here it feels like most people are from the other side of the pond as well, so talking to them online is all that can be hoped for really, and I need real people in my life.

I'm lonely, but I need people I can actually meet in real life, and these people have to accept certain things about me like being unemployed and nearly 40 ffs. The odds of this happened are low, although I did manage to get a 25 year old woman to live with me for about 3 months recently, and I had a really good time for the most part, so must remain hopeful. lol
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I'm the same way, but it still makes me not want to bother reaching out to people on here. When I actually make an effort (trying with multiple people) and it gets nowhere it's like "What's the point?" But I guess can't get through their anxiety/depression wall, or maybe they just don't want friendship with me particularly for some reason. Oh well.

Not singling anyone out. This happened with a few different people.
Its a pain in the arse trying to get to know people, especially SA people who are avoidant and can come with all sorts of other issues too.

I thought when I first started using SA forums, that I could meet someone who would get me etc, and I did, but she's got other issues that complicate things, and so have I, like being unemployed.

I did manage to meet her though and live with her and live a normal life, doing all sorts of fun stuff that normal people do.

However, I've tried to meet multiple people before from here and SAUK, but people back out, for obvious reasons.

Sometimes, I think the only way is to get out there and become normal, because there's plenty of fish in The Sea of Normality, and it's a dying pond here and SAUK.
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Also, do you really want to listen to another persons **** when you feel ****ty yourself?

Personally I don't want to listen to others peoples ****, too much.

It can be easier to listen to other peoples **** though in person, and if you can feel a small connection with the person and break up the depressing talk with doing fun stuff, it can be a lot easier.

On here it feels like most people are from the other side of the pond as well, so talking to them online is all that can be hoped for really, and I need real people in my life.

I'm lonely, but I need people I can actually meet in real life, and these people have to accept certain things about me like being unemployed and nearly 40 ffs. The odds of this happened are low, although I did manage to get a 25 year old woman to live with me for about 3 months recently, and I had a really good time for the most part, so must remain hopeful. lol
Depending on my mood, I don't mind listening. It gives me a break from my own problems for a while. As long as someone is not expecting me to solve their issues... I mean, I can't even solve my own.
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Depending on my mood, I don't mind listening. It gives me a break from my own problems for a while. As long as someone is not expecting me to solve their issues... I mean, I can't even solve my own.
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I find it easier in person like I said, and you can sort of bond and feel better about sharing issues, but it must be broken up with doing fun stuff at the same time.

I find just talking online can get boring, because there's so much missing and you're limited to what you can do.

I'd have messaged you the other day if I'd found out that you lived on my island.

Turns out you don't though, so what's the point if you can't meet up in person? :/

I can't really afford to waste anymore time getting to know people I can't meet. :/
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Its a pain in the arse trying to get to know people, especially SA people who are avoidant and can come with all sorts of other issues too.

I thought when I first started using SA forums, that I could meet someone who would get me etc, and I did, but she's got other issues that complicate things, and so have I, like being unemployed.

I did manage to meet her though and live with her and live a normal life, doing all sorts of fun stuff that normal people do.

However, I've tried to meet multiple people before from here and SAUK, but people back out, for obvious reasons.

Sometimes, I think the only way is to get out there and become normal, because there's plenty of fish in The Sea of Normality, and it's a dying pond here and SAUK.
I figured the only way I'd find people who "get me" and "accept me" would be on this site. Yet even when I met someone here in person, they didn't understand my anxiety issues. But I still want to hold out hope there is someone out there, maybe some friendships too. And really, if I met someone I clicked with I would probably meet in person after talking a while. Push myself. Make connections.

And I don't complain much, especially to people I talk to on here personally. My depression has improved, and I know no one wants to listen to constant complaining. It's toxic. I try to contribute positively to people's lives.

It's more talking about other things - hobbies/interests, daily life, etc. Trying to find someone who also has anxiety to connect with. I don't mind comforting people either, as long as they actually talk to me about other things as well. I get anxiety and depression, but it feels like you're being rejected when you try to reach out and no response or it seems they don't want to talk to you.
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I figured the only way I'd find people who "get me" and "accept me" would be on this site. Yet even when I met someone here in person, they didn't understand my anxiety issues. But I still want to hold out hope there is someone out there, maybe some friendships too. And really, if I met someone I clicked with I would probably meet in person after talking a while. Push myself. Make connections.

And I don't complain much, especially to people I talk to on here personally. My depression has improved, and I know no one wants to listen to constant complaining. It's toxic. I try to contribute positively to people's lives.

It's more talking about other things - hobbies/interests, daily life, etc. Trying to find someone who also has anxiety to connect with. I don't mind comforting people either, as long as they actually talk to me about other things as well. I get anxiety and depression, but it feels like you're being rejected when you try to reach out and no response or it seems they don't want to talk to you.
All you can do is keep trying!

I'm a 39 year old unemployed bloke from England, who's up for actually living and not hiding away like a damn terrified hermit, if you happen to live in my neck of the woods btw.

You're probably a young student from Cali though, knowing my luck lol
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Thank you for reaching out to me, it's much appreciated.

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At least people reach out to you guys. Truth be told, two great people have reached out to me. So it's not like I can sit here and say no one ever did.
We just gotta keep going and see what happens.

I know I'm capable of being a good friend partner to people/someone, but my lack of money, even though I ain't broke, is the main issue.

If I could remove financial pressures, I'd be much more confident and feel a whole lot better.
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All you can do is keep trying!

I'm a 39 year old unemployed bloke from England, who's up for actually living and not hiding away like a damn terrified hermit, if you happen to live in my neck of the woods btw.

You're probably a young student from Cali though, knowing my luck lol
20-something-year-old American here.

Yeah, no one here lives close to me either. I live in a nothing state in a small town, but meh.

Really, I was probably just meant to be alone. Losing energy to bother online, and finding someone in person, well... aha, that's not happening.
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20-something-year-old American here.

Yeah, no one here lives close to me either. I live in a nothing state in a small town, but meh.

Really, I was probably just meant to be alone. Losing energy to bother online, and finding someone in person, well... aha, that's not happening.
ff bloody s.

I'd love to meet a nice 20 something from America, what bloke wouldn't?

Where roughly do you live?

At least with England you can still be a few hours away max from anywhere, and I forget how vast America is. Texas is bigger than the entire UK alone I believe.

Your brain probably wont allow you to give up that easily if it's like mine. I'm nearly bloody 40 and I'm still here. so you've got plenty of time to be driven up the wall by your need to socialize I'm afraid.
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We just gotta keep going and see what happens.

I know I'm capable of being a good friend partner to people/someone, but my lack of money, even though I ain't broke, is the main issue.

If I could remove financial pressures, I'd be much more confident and feel a whole lot better.
It's the main issue for a lot of us here on this site. If I had the funds, I'd be traveling right now, not wasting time in a basement living with my sister and her family.

Living here is fun I won't deny, but it's not my calling.

Good luck with finding someone though. You seem like a cool dude, so I'm sure you will.

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It's the main issue for a lot of us here on this site. If I had the funds, I'd be traveling right now, not wasting time in a basement living with my sister and her family.

Living here is fun I won't deny, but it's not my calling.

Good luck with finding someone though. You seem like a cool dude, so I'm sure you will.
I'd love to spend the rest of my days travelling.

You get over certain anxiety issues, but still can be left with other issues that keep you trapped.

Thanks mate. I wish you all the best as well!
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Feeling down, crying.

Miss Persian (cat) turns up and makes me happy again.

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Not sure how Miss Persian would act around Mr Rainbow and vice versa.

But thank you for sharing Mr Rainbow.
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Having a bit of a panic attack right now. This sudden feeling of loneliness came over me and I have harder time breathing and am nervous. Thought I'd shut that down with music, but it made me feel even more isolated.

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