I had this manager who hated that I didn't smile much, even though he never smiled. He decided to publicly humiliate me in the breakroom, followed by a command to smile at my own humiliation. I stopped eating in the breakroom. This only helped for a little while because he was soon ridiculing me for other reasons. So, I put in my two weeks notice. (It wasn't a customer service job and I smiled when I had good reason to smile)
At another point in time, a teacher berated me in front of the whole class for "thinking I'm better than other people" because I didn't talk much.
These are two examples of many instances of basically bullies trying to get me to do what they want me to do in an immature way. If they actually respected me, they would have maturely asked me in private why I'm not smiling more, what my problem is, or why I'm not talking more. Instead, they immaturely employ humiliation to pressure me into doing what they want me to do.
Does this approach work with any of you? It sure as hell doesn't work with me. When people presume to know my intentions -- and, not only presume to know my intentions, but insultingly presume my intentions are negative -- I want to get as far away from them as possible.
It's not that I think I'm better than them because I'm not. It's because they're incredibly rude and disrespectful. Why would I want to interact with people if I'm going to be humiliated, picked on, harassed, etc.?
If I'm just going to be laughed at and humiliated for being myself, then I'd rather be myself in isolation. I'm not going to dissemble to placate some bully. I'm sure as hell not going to "improve" my behavior when the method of punishment is some form of bullying. If the punishment or advice or whatever is fair and mature, then I'll respond favorably to it. If it's just some bully getting off on their power, it's probably going to make me want to escape.
They get pissed off if they realize they're bullying me, too. They want to bully with impunity. They get off on it apparently. It's all so frustrating and depressing.