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Shy and quiet at school, but loud at home?


god... i've been this like all my life, i just feel i can open up to my family at home but in certain situations at other places im shy and quiet! Why is that?

I can do at home whatever I want, and even sometimes I just throw my hate at family when I'm really depressed about my life, but when i'm at school, I suddenly become quiet and close myself from others...
It should be otherwise. A good guy at home, but a baddie ,say things what you want, in school.

Anyone can relate?
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Just seems like your more comfortable at home, I'm the same. I can at least talk to my family without worrying about too much judgement. People outside the family, no chance. This site is the only place where I can open up "totally". I kind of think of this site as a fictitious place.

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It's how the world works if you ask me. It's natural to feel more open to your family because no matter what you do, they'll always be there for you. That gives you confidence and rids you of any anxiety. If you feel similar with someone outside of your family, hang on to that person.

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Im quiet at school because everyone hates me, and quiet at home because my family hates me
Worst of both worlds.
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and quiet at home because my family hates me
Worst of both worlds.
Thats really sad . If i didn't have my father and sister i don't know what i would do . They are the only bright spot in my life right now .
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That's the beginning of complete SA, I started with just being quiet at school, now I'm both quiet at school and at home.
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That's the beginning of complete SA, I started with just being quiet at school, now I'm both quiet at school and at home.
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That's the beginning of complete SA, I started with just being quiet at school, now I'm both quiet at school and at home.
Yeaaah. I bet I speak under 50 words a day. And those 50 words are all forced conversations with adults/teachers.
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god... i've been this like all my life, i just feel i can open up to my family at home but in certain situations at other places im shy and quiet! Why is that?

I can do at home whatever I want, and even sometimes I just throw my hate at family when I'm really depressed about my life, but when i'm at school, I suddenly become quiet and close myself from others...
It should be otherwise. A good guy at home, but a baddie ,say things what you want, in school.

Anyone can relate?
Yeah I'm the same. It's been like that for as long as I can remember.
It's almost as if a switch is flipped in my head when I leave the house, which turns me into a shy guy.

I think it's because I care too much about what people might think of me, so it's kind off a defense mechanism. Like if they reject the "shy, quiet me," it doesn't really matter because that's not the "real me."
I really would like to be the same person I am at home in public, but I don't know how to change it.
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I'm shy and quiet everywhere.

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god... i've been this like all my life, i just feel i can open up to my family at home but in certain situations at other places im shy and quiet! Why is that?

I can do at home whatever I want, and even sometimes I just throw my hate at family when I'm really depressed about my life, but when i'm at school, I suddenly become quiet and close myself from others...
It should be otherwise. A good guy at home, but a baddie ,say things what you want, in school.

Anyone can relate?
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I am quiet , no matter who I am with.The people that are apart of my family are no better than other people to speak to.
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