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Thanks @rabidfoxes . I need to really look into SEO seriously. I was last year before I took a temporary job. Same thing a few years ago where I started learning about it, got hired somewhere, put it down and forgot about it. Maybe now's the time.
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You sound like a really interesting person. Like those people you see on Youtube that go and work as digital nomads up in Chiang Mai in Thailand.

Search Engine Optimisation sounds interesting too - although I obvioulsy know nothing about it. My son (a programmer) used to tell me I should get a web-site. I used to sell rare books on sites like ebay and a big one called abebooks.com. He's probably right but I still haven't done it - I should at least buy the domain name I guess.
Thanks, but no! I've got mixed feelings about this digital nomad thing, because essentially these people go and live well exploiting the global poverty gap (although I have been to Chiang Mai). I can't blame them either, but if I decided to do that, I'd probably do some volunteering/free work to give something back to the local community and deal with my guilt.

It's just a source of income for now, and possibly in the future, but not something I would like to do full time because I don't think it adds much good to the world we live in. Unlike selling rare books. You'd love my city - it's known for rare book stores, auctions and faires. I'm afraid to go inside those bookstores, and just stare at them from the outside.

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Thanks, but no! I've got mixed feelings about this digital nomad thing, because essentially these people go and live well exploiting the global poverty gap (although I have been to Chiang Mai). I can't blame them either, but if I decided to do that, I'd probably do some volunteering/free work to give something back to the local community and deal with my guilt.

It's just a source of income for now, and possibly in the future, but not something I would like to do full time because I don't think it adds much good to the world we live in. Unlike selling rare books. You'd love my city - it's known for rare book stores, auctions and faires. I'm afraid to go inside those bookstores, and just stare at them from the outside.
Maybe one day you can tell me which city that is? (maybe in a PM?)

I've spent some time in places like Paris and London - but I was very unstable at the time. They have some great bookshops and book fairs. I hope I can go back again one day when I'm alright - would be great.
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I'm unemployed. That's the only way I've ever been able to cope. I can't handle structure.

So I will limp along like this until I have no one left to depend on and then I guess I'm done.
How do you fund yourself unemployed?

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I'm currently unemployed for obvious reasons but I have had jobs in the past and found that, as long as I can zone out and work on autopilot, it doesn't matter how many people are around.
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I drive a truck, so being social or not is mostly irrelevant. Being polite to customers for a minute or two while they sign my paperwork isn't too bad. Besides that it's mostly just truck stop and hotel clerks and the guys we get to unload the truck that I briefly have to deal with. Since work varies week to week I get a lot of random days off throughout the week which helps, too.
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My job is basically data entry...boring, tedious work. My employer is stingy on benefits and perks, there is little to no room for advancement unless you are in with the “cool crowd” and days drag on and on because morale is pretty low and several of my co-workers are always miserable and super unfriendly. There is a overwhelming lack of communication from the boss as well. I deal with this by consuming copious amounts of caffeine and Spotify..thankfully we are allowed to wear headphones because that helps me to get thru the day.
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I've been a rank-and-file office drone for the past 4-5 years since moving out.

I don't think I actually cope. But over the years I've used a series of distractions (traveling, dating, TV shows, etc.) otherwise dealing with the reality of what my life has become would be overwhelming and horrifying. Or what I had become - a negative, anxious person full of unresolved rage.

I've jumped from job to job, guy to guy, but still face the same problems over and over again.

So I guess the answer is that I just kept running.

But I never started drugs to escape, at least. Did have a bout of alcoholism including drinking as soon as waking up, but that's over with.
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I drive a truck, so being social or not is mostly irrelevant. Being polite to customers for a minute or two while they sign my paperwork isn't too bad. Besides that it's mostly just truck stop and hotel clerks and the guys we get to unload the truck that I briefly have to deal with. Since work varies week to week I get a lot of random days off throughout the week which helps, too.
do you need a driver’s assistant/slave
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do you need a driver’s assistant/slave
For local stuff we have guys that ride with. Out of state I go alone and they hire help wherever I'm going. Local food and beverage delivery, appliance delivery, and things like that would likely use driver's assistants. Most likely the driver would be the one dealing with the customers and doing paperwork, so less socializing for the assistant.
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For local stuff we have guys that ride with. Out of state I go alone and they hire help wherever I'm going. Local food and beverage delivery, appliance delivery, and things like that would likely use driver's assistants. Most likely the driver would be the one dealing with the customers and doing paperwork, so less socializing for the assistant.
Oh, cool. I’m guessing its not a very long-term position in most cases. Something i’ll look into before college.
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PhD student here. I was just always pushed by my parents to do the best I can, and I always liked science and knew becoming a scientist was the only real option for me - I'm absolutely not suited for office jobs, and the need to use my brain all the time is almost a necessity.

It was rough back in my worse SA days, but I had a goal and kept pushing for it despite what my body was telling me. You just kind of grit your teeth and go for it.

My SA wasn't as bad as for some people, I guess. It made human interaction painful, but it didn't prevent me from socializing for as much as was needed to progress in my studies and research. And that progress, in turn, boosted my confidence and gave me the, "My SA doesn't matter, I'm successful anyway", attitude which made it very easy to cope with it.

This is how life works: when something is very hard, you need to push for it and do it no matter how hard it is - and as you do it, it becomes easier and easier, until one day you look back and wonder, "What was I even scared of?" It is the first few steps that are hard, but from there it gets better continuously.
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Sleeping while wishing I wouldn't wake up, music, and dreaming of what are most likely just a bunch of pipe dreams, but they make even just .01% hopeful at least.
help from your parents?

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