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Just doing house chores helping out my parents and reading the Bible to try to overcome being anxious and uneasiness. If I could not bear it usually, I will pray to God and it will help. Just trying to keep busy around the house not to even bother with the negatives thoughts popping out from my brain.
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Just doing house chores helping out my parents and reading the Bible to try to overcome being anxious and uneasiness. If I could not bear it usually, I will pray to God and it will help. Just trying to keep busy around the house not to even bother with the negatives thoughts popping out from my brain.
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Like actually the same as @Musicfan69

I'm unemployed and getting little freelance work currently. I'm looking for part-time jobs but it's hard. i have inheritance to fall back on luckily.


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Just doing house chores helping out my parents and reading the Bible to try to overcome being anxious and uneasiness. If I could not bear it usually, I will pray to God and it will help. Just trying to keep busy around the house not to even bother with the negatives thoughts popping out from my brain.
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anxiety. Anxiety is my biggest obstactle not just socially but generally and it sucks to have your own mind against you, just a host of feelings of fear and dread hijacking your mind and body keeping you from succedding..but I much rather die trying or die in progress than not make progress at all.

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I have so many materialistic needs, so I really need to have a job. I quit my first job, mostly due to social anxiety issues and after that I was really close to becoming a "hikikomori", but the need to have money for cars etc, really forced me to seek another job. Then I heard about the process industry, where people work in shifts 24/7 and they have lot of day offs... So I somehow trained myself in night school for that profession, applied and got the job in oil refinery. Work itself is really difficult to explain, but most of the work is just surveillance typed and independent, so I manage to avoid social interactions pretty easily.
Best part of the job is the working schedule; 12h long shifts, 2 day shifts followed by 2 night shifts and after that ~6 day offs. (three more days and I have actually 10 day offs) That's only 12 work days/month and has literally saved my life. If I had continued that 5 days+weekend off schedule, I would have killed myself already. Sure the days are long, but so many rest days really help ease off the anxiety.

If you think you can cure your social anxiety by forcing yourself into social situations at work, then this kind of job is probably not good for that, but I personally tried that "exposure therapy" for couple of years in my last job and rushing back home from work to cry in my bed every day was enough for me. I'm not saying that doesn't happen anymore, but it's not as common.

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Currently working from home, so no issues other than anxiety over how well/badly the bidniss is doing. I used to work in an office and after 1.5 years or so got habituated to the people and the environment and it was fine. On the days when I couldn't face the chat, I burrowed myself in my paperwork and responded to queries in grunts. Once I got used to the people, I learned to love the chat.
Apologies to summon you to this older thread, but if you don't mind sharing, what kind of work do you do from home? I'm looking into work from home stuff atm and also researching a few businesses that I could run from home so I'm doing a lot of information gathering.

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Apologies to summon you to this older thread, but if you don't mind sharing, what kind of work do you do from home? I'm looking into work from home stuff atm and also researching a few businesses that I could run from home so I'm doing a lot of information gathering.
It's a bit of a mixed-bag hustle, which includes content writing, search engine optimisation, kind of project-managing website development (read: saying things like "can we have a blue line there?" to programmers), translating and then random stuff like researching warehousing or filling in customs forms for a new business.

I have no advice on how to get into it, as my case was "I know a guy". But: I reckon SEO is worth getting into as there are no degree you can get in a field (well, maybe there is now), and everyone's just learned stuff by reading stuff and giving it a try. That's why so many people do it badly (including me). The money can be very good.

It probably does zero good to the society though, so it's just a way I make a living so I can eventually move on to something else.

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you cope by reaching out ?

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What jobs do people with SA do? I'm curious to know what you all do to get by when being social is so hard
I'm unemployed. That's the only way I've ever been able to cope. I can't handle structure.

So I will limp along like this until I have no one left to depend on and then I guess I'm done.

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you cope by reaching out ?
I don't consider what I do coping tbh. lol If I'm not making my own money, I'm not coping.
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Thanks @rabidfoxes . I need to really look into SEO seriously. I was last year before I took a temporary job. Same thing a few years ago where I started learning about it, got hired somewhere, put it down and forgot about it. Maybe now's the time.

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It's a bit of a mixed-bag hustle, which includes content writing, search engine optimisation, kind of project-managing website development (read: saying things like "can we have a blue line there?" to programmers), translating and then random stuff like researching warehousing or filling in customs forms for a new business.

I have no advice on how to get into it, as my case was "I know a guy". But: I reckon SEO is worth getting into as there are no degree you can get in a field (well, maybe there is now), and everyone's just learned stuff by reading stuff and giving it a try. That's why so many people do it badly (including me). The money can be very good.

It probably does zero good to the society though, so it's just a way I make a living so I can eventually move on to something else.
You sound like a really interesting person. Like those people you see on Youtube that go and work as digital nomads up in Chiang Mai in Thailand.

Search Engine Optimisation sounds interesting too - although I obvioulsy know nothing about it. My son (a programmer) used to tell me I should get a web-site. I used to sell rare books on sites like ebay and a big one called abebooks.com. He's probably right but I still haven't done it - I should at least buy the domain name I guess.
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