So embarrassing. Does anyone else have this problem? This has been happening to me a lot lately. I honestly hate it more than any other awkward situation. idk, to me it just screams out desperation/loneliness. I feel like such an idiot right now. What the hell is wrong with me? I should know better by now... I mean, who in their right mind would actually want to talk to me? Whenever this happens it ruins my whole day. I keep replaying things over and over in my head. **** I'm such an idiot.
Yes, that sucks. You're not an idiot for that, especially if you were uncomfortable to begin with. Being nervous can really change the way we think. Even if you weren't nervous, it happens to people a lot. I think it's more of the other person's fault than yours. People need to learn how to address specific people.
On the flip side, I also have a habit of NOT responding when people are talking to me.
I can't decide which is worse.... looking like an asocial jackass or a pathetic loser. Oh wait I know the answer. Maybe from now on I'll just keep my mouth shut no matter what. If someone is speaking to me, they can just repeat themselves until I'm sure. I'm not risking it anymore. Unless there's a better solution???
I'm far more likely to accidentally ignore someone than to speak when not spoken to. From romantic interest, to school security guards, to (most recently) the cashiers at a checkout line...I require SPECIFICS lol. If someone just says "Sir!", it will require a lot of repetition...I think my name is actually "Sir?...Sir?...Sir?!...excuse me Sir?!" (It's Latin).
When people look in my direction and try to address someone, I always assume they are speaking to someone else. I have to take a look around first and then look back at them and ask "You talking to me?".
I much prefer seeming oblivious than speaking when not spoken to. It's hard for me to feel foolish when the person addressing me isn't being specific in the middle of a crowd