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post #1 of 10 (permalink) Old 03-21-2008, 01:31 PM Thread Starter
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I do the same thing when that happens. I get down on myself. I really don't get it. It does hurt. I have given up for awhile so I guess I won't be getting hurt anymore.
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I guess you're supposed to think about other things besides the rejection, tell yourself other reasons for it, such as that person being in a bad mood, going through something hard, not friendly, had something else going on, and move on to whatever you want to do next. Seems tricky when you have SA, but with practice, I gather it's supposed to make you more immune to rejection. Just don't blame yourself for it basically.
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I know it's my fault though, I don't want to go into the whole story but I acted stupidly. I don't even know why I posted this tbh I just have no-one to confide in at the moment

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even if it is your fault, I guess there's no point in lingering in self-defeat. Move on to the next one. It's all a numbers game anyway. This one doesn't work out, your that much closer to one that will. This is the philosophy I'm trying to adopt anyway.
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Don't look at it like a failure, but as a learning curve. See what mistakes you made and adjust next time your in that situation.
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i know that - i recently went thru a huge criticising and rejection thing - way too long to post here .. ' were best friends right' .. i send him friendly emails and i never get replies ..

its not noce - he only rings up every now and then and its as if its a chore.

I say its their loss for not seeing the value in you.. cause you know there are people out there so blind.. and so wrapped up in themselves to ever even see the sweet people. : )
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I have the problem too, so I don't really know what to say about that. ._. But I can't agree with the last paragraph. It's not your fault and you aren't a loser, and besides, you are just wonderful to talk to. You're interesting and smart, you're kind and understanding and patient, I could go on but my point is you have great qualities for a friend.
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I feel your pain, GG. I cope by thinking of methods for ending my worthless existence, and it is about all I have left at this point. Few can endure me, let alone enjoy communicating with me, even online.

All that's left is accepting defeat and just leaving everyone alone. I have done it before, but some come back, though I don't know why. What should we think? It must be my fault, it always is.

Everyone has abandoned me or wants to do so.
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Rejection hurts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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