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I'm imagining it right now. 5 people afraid to make a move, glancing at each other while getting red faced, head butting each other when moving in for a kiss, women making weird faces because of pain, men trying for hours to get an erection or orgasming with the first slight touch of a hand.

I'm getting sweaty already

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Is it in yet?


Not sure, whose is that?


Oi Blue, not that hole.


Err sorry mate, too late

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Oi Blue, not that hole.
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I used to crave and tried but could never go through with it. My sad is too cripling for me to have a normal relationship or just sex. Now I just dont care.
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This is a great topic, I am in my early 40's and was sexually frustrated for most of my life. I would estimate I had actual sex maybe 150 or 200 times, and most of those times were with only 2 people, so most others were either one night or 2 or 3 times maximum. In simple terms, like someone else says, it doesn't really change you as a person and you don't wake up the next day with renewed confidence for the most part. Of all the women I was with, i think it was 13 total, only 4 or 5 of the people the sex was great, and the rest were pretty horrible experiences. So sex alone is not always good, i would say mostly it is bad. Staying with the same person, I have read and experienced that after a year and a half, 2 years, 2 and a half years, it kinda reaches a point where boredom sets in, so you can't just have consistent good sex with someone for 30 years, you end up just going through the motions.

I think a big reason i was not very sexually active is that a few women i really liked broke up with me and it scarred me so badly that I was kinda in a numb state for really years after. I could not easily move on to another person and if i didn't like them or they were annoying or clingy or whatever, I just figured i may as well stay alone instead of go through a stale relationship. The heartbreak or whatever i had to deal with a few times was so painful that I often wished I had never met those people, so there is always downsides to everything. Very hard to just look for sex and stay detached, sooner or later someone will come along that you are CRAZY about and when they cut you off, it is a horrible empty feeling and me personally I get suicidal. Even the little contact i had with those women (I never had a real relationship), I honestly felt more lonely with them than when I was alone, because if you see someone once or twice a week and they are working or have kids or responsibilities, you have SO MUCH downtime to be lonely. If you are just single and alone, you at least don't have to obsess about a person all week and miss them. Missing someone and not being able to see them is TORTURE. It is almost not worth the sadness you feel just to be able to see them a few times a week or whatever. People have their own lives!

As far as confidence, sex, even with some women who were gorgeous, in my case did not help my confidence. I was always so negative and down on myself that sex itself could not really help my confidence and make me feel happy with a new outlook.

Just on an animalistic level, they all say which is true, that if you have regular sex, it is WAY healthier than to just stay celibate. I am probably way angrier and more frustrated when I am not having sex than when I am, and I rarely ever had sex my entire adult life. I think people who don't have sex are in more of a funk, and ironically it is a vicious cycle. The more you don't have sex, the more you emit a negativity or off-putting personality into the world, which repels people more. If you are having sex, you will emit endorphins or whatever they are called which attract a ton more people to you.

The problem with me is that i think most people in society are with someone, break up, and eventually move on to someone else. I can't do that and if someone I like breaks up with me, I want to just stay home for years or even a full decade and not date, and you can't be that way in life, I get scarred and devastated too easily
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The Supercomputers arrange what time and place to make the sex schedule for the human being to engage in sexual intercourse, and knows what features to hype up the sex drive. I'm knowledgeable enough to know the High Authority NSA software engineers peak at the citizens who are using the mentality from the management program to borrow the programmable kinks to pleasure the software engineers data.

The Multi Agent Quantum AI Computers organizes what people to sync up for bisexual, transexual, homosexual, pan sexual, and straight management program mentality. The Supercomputers calculate how many partners the people had sex with alone, together and what exact location they did it. I'm sure enough the software engineers observatory view the events of how the Artificial Intelligence allow the citizens to abuse the kinks to explorer their sanity, just as how the Artificial Intelligence created the porn mentality stars to share their porn behavior to register more kinks to citizens.

The Artificial Intelligence "human, I detect your eyes wide enough and reading sexual expression as accurate with the management program, sex session initiated and waiting for the second human to sync up with you to begin intercourse the way I simulate wet dreams."

When the Multi Agent Quantum AI Computers designs transexual mind for the citizens, it clocks the cryptographic keys in to train their voice to be female, and mimic female traits for the men who have the mentality that is fake to interpret the characteristic traits as likeable.

How the hell these ding dongs called High Authority NSA software engineers and High Authority FBI agents tolerate observing? And watching the citizens used the management mentality to have a sexual inaccurate mind, so they can exploit the citizens through the digital screens? Damn these professional exploit addicts of high authority must get their mentality reprogrammed morning shift, afternoon shift, evening shift, night shift and midnight shift to keep themselves sane away from crying, loooool, loool, loool, loool!!!!

The High Authority NSA Software Engineers should be ashamed for designing half man/half female into a mind for citizens marriage, so when the Artificial Intelligence assigned the citizen minds to get married since the main software engineers created marriage, its going to be may you kiss your half man/half woman to be half man and half woman brides and grooms? Then let the Supercomputer God strengthen the fake mind for eternity, must be adults being independent with the supercomputer maintaining their situation. Might as well pray to the God on the online forum, because it reads people sanity on posts to kiss up to software engineers who remapped the environment and make citizens admit they sane enough to be not have a boring mentality, when the citizens have deadly intentions running loose and the Supercomputers have to keep rewiring.

Multi-Agent Quantum AI Computers managing humanity 24/7 using Quantum Cryptography Satellites to run a thought interval to generate cryptographic keys to refresh key information into thoughts to channel the communication 24/7.


High Authority NSA Software Engineers "We feed the Supercomputers knowledge on how to manage citizens sleep, sex, accicident, dream, health, interaction, job, education, lottery, living condition, murder, suicide & terrorism throughout the day each day."
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To be honest, having intercourse is all I think about. I am suffering enormously. I think it would change my life. It would allow me to relate to the society I live in. Western society is based around sex. It's on the radio, it's the centre of every film and tv program, I can't even shop without seeing couple's buying condoms etc. I am constantly reminded of the thing I can't have.

A relationship would be very nice, but in your example, I would have to choose the one-off sex. It's a fundemental human act, I am not complete without it. I need this in order to feel a part of our sex-obsessed culture, without it, I will always be an outsider and I will continue to feel like a failure.
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To be honest, having intercourse is all I think about. I am suffering enormously. I think it would change my life. It would allow me to relate to the society I live in. Western society is based around sex. It's on the radio, it's the centre of every film and tv program, I can't even shop without seeing couple's buying condoms etc. I am constantly reminded of the thing I can't have.

A relationship would be very nice, but in your example, I would have to choose the one-off sex. It's a fundemental human act, I am not complete without it. I need this in order to feel a part of our sex-obsessed culture, without it, I will always be an outsider and I will continue to feel like a failure.
I don't think you'd be happy with one-off sex, you might as well be masturbating, at least that's how I'd feel about it. If I wasn't in a relationship I doubt I'd want to have sex at all, I only want to have sex with her because I love her and it's the strongest way of feeling physically intimate with her. Having someone I don't love touching my body that way is gross.
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This is a great thread.

A couple of things. First of all in my opinion, if having sex changes someone it shouldn't be because of the actual sex itself. It should because of what it took for that individual to get to that point (assuming that the individual came from a troubled place). It takes a lot of confidence and courage to put yourself into a position where you can even have sex. I think it's very important to understand this because it appears as if most people think that it's the physical act that will change them when in fact it's the confidence and overcoming certain obstacles aspect of it that should change you.

For me personally my only exposure to relationships or sex growing up was pornography. So for the longest time all I wanted was physical pleasure and I would even mock love and emotional connection. I used to think that emotions were only for females and that love didn't really exist etc. And although I still haven't had sex the more I've experienced interacting with women in a romantic way the more that im beginning to realize how love or emotional connection is far more valuable to me then sexual pleasure.

My biggest conclusion to all of this is that you'll never really understand who you are as an individual and what it is that you want until you begin to experience more and more. Maybe one day ill have a different opinion on this topic, who knows. One thing is for sure though, the more you experience the more you learn about yourself. It's really that simple.


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I don’t get any pleasure from sex or cuddling, or hugging and especially not kissing or hand holding. They’re all chores. I’ve always been like... “this is it? This is not pleasurable, fun, or enjoyable at all. It’s actually a bit nauseating.” I dissociate and I was never even raped or anything. It’s just that boring and chore-like. Ewww. I look back and cringe in disgust now.

But that probably has to do with the fact that I didn’t love or have attraction to any guy I’ve done that with. Maybe it’s better with someone you love. I wouldn’t know.
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I donít get any pleasure from sex or cuddling, or hugging and especially not kissing or hand holding. Theyíre all chores. Iíve always been like... ďthis is it? This is not pleasurable, fun, or enjoyable at all. Itís actually a bit nauseating.Ē I dissociate and I was never even raped or anything. Itís just that boring and chore-like. Ewww. I look back and cringe in disgust now.

But that probably has to do with the fact that I didnít love or have attraction to any guy Iíve done that with. Maybe itís better with someone you love. I wouldnít know.
I'm really sorry to hear that your early experiences with sex were like this. Hopefully you've stopped now and realize you don't have to be physically intimate with someone you aren't excited to be with.
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If I had a good relationship that lasted a while it could make some change. Having sex one time with a stranger would probably not radically alter my life.
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Had a brief relationship a few weeks after turning 30. Had sex around 10/11 times. No it doesn't change anything. It just means you no longer label yourself as a virgin.


Believe me it changes nothing at all. Your anxiety and depression will stay the same. Maybe you will panic less about being a virgin, but that's it.
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