Because I started a very, very serious streak of Nofap I thought this could be compounded by some "probing" in the online dating scene.
My conclusions are as follows.
Pertaining to things that have implications for everyone:
-I rejected instantly each and every woman that was Three words removed without checking anything else.
I suspect most people do this, or at least most women do this, because we know from statistics crafted by these app companies themselves that for some reason women practice "looks hypergamy" on top of the usual hypergamy related with wealth and status. And I am a very intellectual man that has even had spiritual anti-materialist phases (gnosticism), but the instinctive sexual selection just never went away.
Looks are the first filter in sexual selection, what a shocker, eh? But many of us want to think we are above that to some extent.
Pertaining to me:
- I didn´t find anyone I actually matched with intellectually or in worldview
AKA that I would enjoy talking to.
This is not strictly about "smarts" (e.g. the 98% match Biologist girl from Lafayette which possibly ignored my message might very well be overall smarter than me), it´s more like my top matches maybe liked 40 books, movies, music groups etc and I was lucky if one or two of these corresponded with the ones in my own (mental) list.
This corroborates what I had concluded prior, I am too unique and that is in no way an advantage, the further you stray from the average the higher that chances of loneliness (or stellar success) are. Its safe to say adult virgins with severe SA and anhedonia will natually sediment more on the loneliness and failure side of uniqueness.
- I actually don´t care about sex or finding romance, getting friends is more appealing and urgent.
I wish there were sites like these for finding friends, for real. I just want to laugh again with someone, preferably at society. I´m actually gonna look for them
but it won´t be much easier to find friends with my interests and compatible personalities than a girlfriend.