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Lol just realized when this was posted. I suppose all i said is irrelevant now.
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Lol just realized when this was posted. I suppose all i said is irrelevant now.

what happened? I'm too lazy to read through all these pages and just want to know if the original poster made it (which would inspire others)

or if he/she simply committed suicide (which would suck)

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what happened? I'm too lazy to read through all these pages and just want to know if the original poster made it (which would inspire others)

or if he/she simply committed suicide (which would suck)

a post from like 2007 I think!

Whatever it takes.. this is what I want. I will bring it to life. When you have commited to do whatever it takes then you by definition are unstoppable
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So how do you spend your time? I have had 22jobs in 20yrs
my favourite, first, fun job being on the road, learning the vicinity & further, delivering pizzas to such a random set all over town & countryside. Hindsight partition, where nothing after that was unloved. No conception of a job a person doesn't like. From motivated waiter on wheels led to complex data analysis, presenting results to IT Manager or to the board. creative Ideas got me inspiring bosses. 31 jobs done from 1998 2013 so 15 years so now a bit more downtime.

My loss and firings put me into dismay where all my efforts got me into next jobs often but agencies have the easiest job to point their fingers & judge candidates as unworthy if not occupied today or yesterday.
Trawling a lot confidence about all I've done doesn't fit if I haven't been a recruiter agent. They can't understand anything otherwise. They just pimp lists of "IT" acronyms they possess a notion of any


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OMG this thread is full of depression!!

Many people seem to feel to god for "technical" jobs like fixing houses,cars etc. But maybe some people here are better of with such a job. If you have some experience in that field you can do that kind of jobs your whole life if you want. No crazy office competition or "career" races. You just have a job and can live your life!

I impressed with the fact that most people here are all doing university and are hoping for jobs that have "big paying careers". Those big paying careers are also costing big investment and time and comitement from you.

If you don't have that for whatever reason, don't pick such a job, or keeping waiting for something like that.

I also suggest that everybody stops dreaming of "art careers". "the only thing I want is art..."

Be realistic, find a job, and start a life. So you get out of depression, begin to think realistic and rationalistic and after that you can always try to move on job wise.

By the way, we are all born without career, you have to start some time. Most do it in there 20's , some in there 30's, some switch careers in there 40's. What ever. Of course people are judgmental if you haven't work for years.. That has to be a reason for that? That's why you have to first just pick any job, start a life, and then moving on(if you want).

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champion racehorse who likes running might start kicking jockey, minder, manager when told not winning enough. Next phase of career might be a healthy source of dogmeat. Only one thing goes wrong: when boss starts not liking you. Should be a crime to fire people. HR should nurture workers


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depression

never causes me to lose a job loved & successful+

inverse trigger 'we have to let you go'

uncertain reason / definition of loss. always kept sinister, secret, hidden
ratchet mechanism of no way back. Should be illegal

such a bonus of being told what you're bad at. Then build.

only one occasion of criticised, blamed, accused falsely of a setting of a corporation account to bill not issued

clever made-up HR trial tactic to disable login access being mysterious.
when you know you didn't do it but can't show evidence when locked out.
What HR want is the outcome of the employee's behaviour

all same tactics used by recruiters. Nothing grounded or evident. Just puppet strings wired


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I have a job but not really a career. Most people just have "jobs," something they do to pay the bills but not something they enjoy or feel really attached to like a calling.
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I'm glad this thread got resurrected, b/c I feel like this! Getting older, have a useless degree, and a rocky job history.
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what happened? I'm too lazy to read through all these pages and just want to know if the original poster made it (which would inspire others)

or if he/she simply committed suicide (which would suck)

He hasn't logged in since 2008. I am concerned. I hope he's ok.
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You can try to be a day trader, perfect for people like us. Warning though you need to do a lot of studying and paper trading before attempting with real money. Its what Im currently trying to do. Im getting there but its not easy.
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He hasn't logged in since 2008. I am concerned. I hope he's ok.
Is there anyway for anyone to get in contact with the thread starter?
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if a moderator sees his email address and can email them maybe so

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Just thought I would bump this post for others currently going through this. Had a panic attack about this topic today and it's nice to know I'm not alone!
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