Re: Listening to others
Yes, I have several in my life. I've found it interesting, the whole confiding situation. How some of us are naturally provides a place of safety for others to express themselves in. Mostly people just want to externalise their feelings and experience, vent etc. And we are the available and right people to do it with as if there is some open place we have sitting right there.
Many of us crave for that person in our own lives, the one who will listen without judgment, who will not cut us off or tell us what would be a better way to think or feel. There aren't that many people out there who provide that kind of listening.
So when we are providing that service to another human being but our own needs for an effective listener in our own lives isn't met, it can meet with resentment after a while. This is quite natural I found and I came to understand what it meant for me. I used to feel so guilty about getting p***ed off with all the listening til I realised this jewel - that I wasn't having my needs met.
Nowdays, I still listen but I am comfortable to do so and far more effective and compassionate about it. Empathetic without getting absorbed in their issues but most importantly I have my own special listeners who I rely on, and they just happen to be professional listeners. It makes a difference plus I have learnt from them as well.