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People know I want to be a geologist and a writer. One of my old college professors told me I am stupid if I want to be a geologist at the same time as a writer. He said it's really hard. I told my new friend today, and she said that was weird that I want to be two completely different things at once.She said she didn't understand how it could work out. Most people are proud of me. Heck, I was proud of me. I am failing this geology course only because everyone in the class says it's hard. That's all I get from everyone. Even the perfect straight A students are getting bad grades. I am not even bothering studying. Midterms are next week, and even the teacher said the majority of the class is going to fail. What!? Now the teach is discouraging me? Something I loved so much is turning out to be something I don't want anything to do with anymore. Excuse me if I am weird for wanting to do two things at once! Everyone knows that I am a writer. Not very many people know I have a passion for science as well, for that reason only because I knew people would be discouraging and think I am weird or not the type of person to do it. Is it truly weird to have two different interests at once? I also had no idea this was going to be so hard. Again, I am also effing sick of the damn class constantly whining, saying they are going to die before they pass this class only because this class is so incredibly hard. That's all I hear is, "I am going to fail! Oh my God! I am having a heart attack from this hard class!" from every student in this class. When I asked the professor what to do in order to be a geologist, she got weird and said I needed to get my master's. The way she was talking was pretty much an indication that this is really, really hard, and acting as if I really couldn't do it. Like I am one of those pretty air heads who talks out her rear end when I talk about a dream. Honestly, I feel like dropping out and just doing what everyone wants me to do instead of people thinking I am weird and not smart enough to be a scientist. I only have one A, one B and about 8 F's in this class. I got a note taker, but the college is having a hard time finding me a tutor. It doesn't matter. I am probably not cut out for this anyway. Again, I'll just be the pretty princess romance novelist like everyone wants me to be.

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It shouldn't matter what they think. Do whatever you want to do. Also, ignore everyone else's attitude about how they're going to fail and how the class is so hard. That really shouldn't keep you from studying and seeing the professor for help during office hours. Good luck.
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I'm going through a dilemma right now where most people are against me. This quote from Steve Jobs helps me.

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
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Try writing just for fun. Forget writing a novel, just open up word and type something that amuses you perosnally, regardless of where it will go. Sometimes you can produce something pretty good doing that
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dont listen to them!!! thats it ignore what you say dont let the negativeness of them get to you!! if you want to do those 2 things go for it who cares if they think it has nothing to do with each other!!!

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I'm sorry this is happening to you. I've been there. I still have at least 5 different things I'm good at and want to pursue, but people can be discouraging. Maybe it's jealousy?

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I would go to the department dean and tell them the issues that you and many of the others have with the class. Many professors live in their own little micro-environments and it doesn't mean that they are the kings and queens that they sometimes believe they are. If enough students have complaints, it can change the course quickly.
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At least you are pursuing your dream.

I'm a geology major because I had to compromise between something I might be interested in and something that will get me a job. I really just love being outdoors, but I don't give a **** how rocks were formed... If I could do anything, it would be music, but that is a joke degree so I'm here struggling in something I have little interest in. The first few weeks of class I was seriously considering dropping out, but it got better; I hope things work out for you too.

There's a girl in my class who wants to write children's books on rocks and minerals; kind of funny to read your thread.

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People will always try to cut u down. ALWAYS. Your teachers, parents, friends, etc, are all just human beings with judgements and chips on their shoulders. WHY can't u love and do both??? Prove them all wrong. You only get one life, don't waste it!!!
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Don't let these people get into your head. There will always be people who come along and plant doubt in your head for no good reason. When people say stuff like this, it might give you the impression that it's 'realistic' advice and that you need to aim lower to prevent yourself from getting hurt or overwhelmed. But that's WRONG. Do NOT listen to them. The advice they're giving you does not apply to you, but to themselves. They don't know you. Don't let your dream get killed just because others have a problem with it. And don't let your performance in this one class make you think you're not good enough, because sometimes we can do badly in something we're good at if we're anxious or depressed or something - but it's not a reflection on your abilities; it can be overcome.

Also see my response to this thread:
http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...ave-no-171211/
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People know I want to be a geologist and a writer. One of my old college professors told me I am stupid if I want to be a geologist at the same time as a writer. He said it's really hard. I told my new friend today, and she said that was weird that I want to be two completely different things at once.She said she didn't understand how it could work out. Most people are proud of me. Heck, I was proud of me. I am failing this geology course only because everyone in the class says it's hard. That's all I get from everyone. Even the perfect straight A students are getting bad grades. I am not even bothering studying. Midterms are next week, and even the teacher said the majority of the class is going to fail. What!? Now the teach is discouraging me? Something I loved so much is turning out to be something I don't want anything to do with anymore. Excuse me if I am weird for wanting to do two things at once! Everyone knows that I am a writer. Not very many people know I have a passion for science as well, for that reason only because I knew people would be discouraging and think I am weird or not the type of person to do it. Is it truly weird to have two different interests at once? I also had no idea this was going to be so hard. Again, I am also effing sick of the damn class constantly whining, saying they are going to die before they pass this class only because this class is so incredibly hard. That's all I hear is, "I am going to fail! Oh my God! I am having a heart attack from this hard class!" from every student in this class. When I asked the professor what to do in order to be a geologist, she got weird and said I needed to get my master's. The way she was talking was pretty much an indication that this is really, really hard, and acting as if I really couldn't do it. Like I am one of those pretty air heads who talks out her rear end when I talk about a dream. Honestly, I feel like dropping out and just doing what everyone wants me to do instead of people thinking I am weird and not smart enough to be a scientist. I only have one A, one B and about 8 F's in this class. I got a note taker, but the college is having a hard time finding me a tutor. It doesn't matter. I am probably not cut out for this anyway. Again, I'll just be the pretty princess romance novelist like everyone wants me to be.
There's no reason why you can't do both, if that's what you want. Just write when you aren't being a geologist! I almost think it's harder to become an author--from what I've heard, most authors receive many rejections from publishing companies before they ever get their first book published. I think it's smart to have two things in mind, because you can't be sure which one will work out(but one, or both of them will if you pursue them!). Try and not care that they think you should do one thing--let them be boring and have only one interest!

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