whatever I have is beyond me
This emphasis on diagnosing "illnesses" is one way that I believe modern psychology is taking the wrong approach. It leads to negative self-fulfilling prophecies. Sure, we humans love to label things, but labels are simply that. Labels do not exist outside of our minds. In reality, things just are
. Things have unfolded the way they have, and now we are here.
If one looks closely enough, one will find attachment
at the root of all suffering (in its various forms). Certainly it is the cause of suffering when it comes to social anxiety. In my own experience, social anxiety is the result of attachment to how I'm perceived by others (although I tell myself that I don't care what anybody else thinks). If one were to name individual people, I could remain honest while saying "I don't care what that person thinks about me."
However, my anxiety results from feeling as though I am being perceived as a "freak." This is because I identify myself as the being (person) that others see. When in reality, who I am is not dependent on how others perceive me. It is attachment to this idea of a self as defined by others
that causes me suffering.
So I'm finding relief in non-attachment
through mindfulness, meditation, and reading some eastern-philosophy on non-attachment (What The Buddha Taught
by Walpola Rahula is a very good book that explains Buddhist philosophy without any sort of religion or mysticism, and is compatible with most faiths/beliefs).