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I'm going to become a 40 year old virgin.


My own boyfriend told me he won't have sex with me until he's ready. I know I'm not ready, but it's frustrating because he told me he won't have it with me even if I'm fully ready when he's not. I was crying and arguing with him about this last night. He said he won't even if I really wanted it. I got super upset because he had sex with his ex before when they were together. God ****. Well, my guy friend told me he'll have sex with me if I become a 40 year old virgin.
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You're only 18, far from a 40yr old virgin. Maybe he had some religious awakening or something.




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My own boyfriend told me he won't have sex with me until he's ready. I know I'm not ready, but it's frustrating because he told me he won't have it with me even if I'm fully ready when he's not. I was crying and arguing with him about this last night. He said he won't even if I really wanted it. I got super upset because he had sex with his ex before when they were together. God @#%$. Well, my guy friend told me he'll have sex with me if I become a 40 year old virgin.
I think you're over reacting a little. First off, you said that you weren't ready to have sex with him. Second, if he's not ready to have sex with you, you should respect him on that and not pressure him.

And I think your guy friend was just pulling your chain a little with his comment.
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No, it sounds like you've developed the makings of being a person who can become truly committed to another person. Most people are promiscuous and will have sex with people without any emotional attachment. As someone who's introduction to sex was like this, I would much rather I had someone that actually cared about me than to just lose my virginity.

It's easy to lose virginity, it seems incredibly hard (if not impossible for some people) to find a person you can truly love and who will love you back.

edit: I should add that trust is important as well.

Worry less about sex but think of other things instead.
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Very misleading thread title. You're 18 years old, already in a relationship with someone, and just because things are progressing slowly you're worried about becoming a 40 year old virgin?

No offense, but I think you should chill out and stop worrying so much about it. Be glad you're at least in a relationship if anything.
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i have to question why a young male would say he is not ready to have sex with his girlfriend.

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I agree with Chubz. You're only 18 and you have a boyfriend to hang out with. There's plenty of people on this board that would love to be in your situation.
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i have to question why a young male would say he is not ready to have sex with his girlfriend.
My thoughts exactly
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lol, indeed.
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Second, if he's not ready to have sex with you, you should respect him on that and not pressure him.


Maybe he did have a religious awakening. Or maybe something happened between your boyfriend and his old girlfriend that is making him think twice about having sex with someone new right now. Do you know the whole story of their relationship?

Either way, it's not right for a male OR a female to pressure their partner into having sex.
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Given the circumstances, this really does seem like an overreaction.


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This whole thread is an insult to those who really will be 40-year-old virgins.
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This whole thread is an insult to those who really will be 40-year-old virgins.
Concurred.

And BTW, since when do guys not get to say "no" to sex?
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I'm usually a pretty pessismistic guy, but even I have to admit that the odds of you becoming a 40 year old virgin are very very low.
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Yeah, I thought I would chime in and join the choir in that you are almost certainly not going to be a 40 year old virgin. You are 18, female, have a relationship and are intimate. Sounds to me like you are in a pretty good situation for yourself.
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I really don't know what to say. I'm baffled by your reactions and his.
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if only all women had this problem.
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F!!!!!! I F'd up today twice; make that thr33 times but I did one right. I see a girl I'm super attracted to at the gym (1st time yesterday made eye contact with each other but that's it) again today and I try to play it cool not making a move immediately. I then see a guy walk up to her (guessing a bf). At this point I stop looking (IDIOT), she disappears blown chance. Should have made eye contact and smiled.

Then a woman tried starting convo on the elevator that doesn't work for my company saying this is a nice building. What do I do? I say yeah it is a nice building. I then say it's not that new. But yeah really nice building (I think 2X more because I was blank). Then she says have a nice day and I don't realize what she said until she is out of the elevator. Another blown opportunity.

Then another girl I have interest is headed to the break room when I'm headed to the cafe. What do I do? Instead of going to the break room and starting up convo I proceed downstairs only good move was as I'm going to the elevator another girl I'm attracted to is coming out of the elevator I say hi and she smiles and says hi. Guess where she is headed? To the break room

In sum I'm F'ing pathetic. What a loser. I'm frustrated for myself and any girl that is attracted to me or shows attraction to me. I deserve to be slapped for this stupidity.

I need to hire someone to tazer me or something everytime I let an opportunity slip by. Man I'm pissed.

I'm going to die a virgin. I'm more pissed at what I let slip by. What the hell am I thinking!
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How old are you scairy?
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