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post #21 of 28 (permalink) Old 09-14-2020, 03:31 PM
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i just turned 36. there's no way i would want to go back and relive my life at age 23. there is a romanticism that i could go back and "do things better" lol but there's no way i would fall for that trap is an evil genie offers me the opportunity.

1) i am unhappy now
2) i was happier at age X
3) therefore i want to go back to that time

that works. but also

4) between that time and this time there is way more unhappiness than happiness
5) i will just end up back at this time, with this unhappiness
6) therefore i do not want to go back to relive that (and then this all over again)

but that's completely off topic since its just about not achieving goals. tao te ching has been a great guide for me and i have very few goals and it doesn't really matter if i achieve them. but that's of no comfort if you were comforted by success stories. since my success story is that i started out with a lot of goals, failed over and over, gave up, and then learned how to be mostly ok with it. but hm i get the sense that some people go through life focused on what they can get, and they get some of what they want, and focusing helps with that. while others are generally denied what they want, and focusing on that is a bad idea. its a different paradigm. as different as hedonism and Buddhism. not that i would advocate Buddhism, its just more well known that taoism. maybe there is some level of healthy compartmentalization, see some things one way and see other things the other way.

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post #22 of 28 (permalink) Old 09-14-2020, 03:34 PM
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From what I remember of my 20's it's sort of just for having fun and mostly mucking around. (of course that could apply to a fair bit of the rest of my life as well but that's beside the point)

Have a bit of fun OP - you've got plenty of time to get serious later on.
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From what I remember of my 20's it's sort of just for having fun and mostly mucking around. (of course that could apply to a fair bit of the rest of my life as well but that's beside the point)

Have a bit of fun OP - you've got plenty of time to get serious later on.
I need to have more fun. My 20s are too dull lol
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I need to have more fun. My 20s are too dull lol
You know what I think I should start doing? I should apologise and say don't pay any attention at the start of every post I make.

I was sort of kidding - but at the same time I'm glad my son is more serious than I was, or have ever been. He's had fun but also plans things a bit. (like his superannuation etc)

I was absolutely hopeless. (had quite a bit of fun though)
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post #25 of 28 (permalink) Old 09-14-2020, 05:05 PM
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I need to have more fun. My 20s are too dull lol
Not to give away my age...but same...

Have to 'enjoy it while it lasts' in the midst of all the issues I have somehow.
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I need to have more fun. My 20s are too dull lol
What do you think you are missing out on in your 20's? What do you want to do to have more fun?
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post #27 of 28 (permalink) Old 09-15-2020, 12:28 PM
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I am old, but I still think, feel, and act like a teenager, for the most part. I haven't gotten to the point yet where I actually start to feel old. This is probably bad in some way.

Is it just me or is it getting crazier out there.
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post #28 of 28 (permalink) Old 09-15-2020, 01:39 PM
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i started feeling old at 15. I'm 28 now. theres no getting away from the feeling you're getting old.you just need to pursue what you want to do as soon as. if you dont know what you wanna do then just roll with it.


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