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I'm being bullied at college


I'm being bullied at college by a guy in his 30's who is married and has children. He would awlays make sounds at me like I'm retarded, he would mock the way how I speak, and he would make fun of me with his friends laughing at them and saying "Haha you have to stand next to Paloma." I have never done anything rude to this guy. I have been nothing but nice towards him and I have no idea why he's treating me like scum all of a sudden.
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don't let him get to you. he is the one who is 30 and still in college. he acts like a child.
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Snitch on him. It's college so I don't think people will care.
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Yeah, make fun of him for being in his 30s and trying to hang out with young college kids. What a doofus.
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Maybe he secretly likes you.

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Maybe he secretly likes you.

He doesn't like me. He flirts with other girls all the time and he treats me like crap.
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Maybe he secretly likes you.

She's in college, not 4th grade.
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Hit it, and than dump him afterwards. You will feel better. Rock his world.
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And yes, I am joking. Tell the local constable or teacher/counsellor. They won't tolerate that kind of behavior.
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Be the better person and let him see it. That is actually sickening someone in their 30's and has a family is acting like that.. do you ever get to see his wife? I would confront her if it persists.
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Tell his wife he's flirting with other girls.
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don't let him get to you. he is the one who is 30 and still in college. he acts like a child.
Some people go back to college, or start college late because of work.


OP, The guy is immature and a bully. Ignore him.
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In his 30s, married, children... And yet, he still goes to college and goes around degrading a young woman of 22. Sounds like a pathetic douchebag to me.
Also, I don't know how things are over in the US, but over here, telling stuff like this to a teacher or whatever usually doesn't help. They either will do nothing, or approach the person in question, which usually results in increased bullying when there are no teachers around. And I speak from experience there, even if that was about 7 years ago.

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You could ask him why he's acting like a child. If he replies that he's just joking or some other bull****, you could tell him that you don't think it's funny. If he continues to bug you, you could tell him to **** off or something. If being direct doesn't work, you could always go to the instructor and tell him/her that he's harassing you and making you feel really uncomfortable.
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A lot of ppl go to college at his age...but the majority of them actually act like adults..not middle schoolers. This guy seems like a real butthead
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Do your best to ignore him, not much you can legally do, I think. I mean you can tell him it bothers you and you'd appreciate it if he stopped. If he doesn't you can try to tell someone with authority there or worse ... his wife. Man his age still acting like that has a bunch of other issues.
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Maybe he secretly likes you.

This is complete BS. I've never teased or harassed a girl that I liked. If I'm ever mean to a girl, it's not because I have some schoolyard crush on her, it's probably because she's a horrible human being.

Guys that tease and harass girls are most likely rapists, or at least potential rapists.
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There should be some complaint procedure with the college officials, ask someone who works there that you trust to tell you what to do. Report this obnoxious behavior, state that it has been ongoing for a while, that it is interfering with your studies, and upsetting you. That should be enough to get it to stop.
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Don't listen to the person who said don't tell the teacher. Bully prevention is serious stuff here in the states. With all of these school shootings going on, schools do not let stuff like this go without doing anything. The fact that you are a women who is being bullied by an older man makes it that more serious to some teachers/adults, since our first instincts as caretakers are to protect women. Just tell the teacher.
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