. Online advice is very conflicting and contradictory the deeper you look. What might help for some, won't for others. Sadly from my experience, there's no hard and fast piece of advice which seems to work for everyone with SA or depression.
I know how frustrated you feel when it comes to seeking professional help. I only have very limited experience myself (seeing three regular doctors and one CBT appointment with a specialist in that field) and not one of them really understood what I was telling them. All they offered was the same old advice that we've gone to seek them for alternative help in the first place…because we can't do what they're telling us. Ironic really… There’s more to SA than learning about it in a few textbooks. It gives no understanding of how the sufferer feels of the depths of their fears. Asking them to effectively click their fingers and materialise a whole new outlook in life doesn’t work nor help. The suffer is not always responsible for how they are and they never even consider that external influences might also play a large part. They never accept this. It's all our fault and that's that. They want you to tell them what's wrong and how you feel – but then rubbish your response. Why bother asking then?! If they won't listen and accept what we tell them, then we won't get anywhere. Honestly, there's no point in seeing professional help. All it does is lead to increased frustration and anger…and then, without a hint of irony, they turn round and say it's us
that's not willing to listen. Honestly – stay away from them.
They're just as useless as regular people. Regular people can literally 'materialise' positives and progressions in life at will. We can't – that's where the problem lies. What comes to them naturally is something we don't have the ability to do – and that's where they simply cannot understand what it's like to have something they presume everyone has within them. We do the same things as them in terms of effort, yet it seems we're in quicksand. The more we fight to try and improve, the further we sink. No one is there to chuck us a rope. They merely look round tell us to fight harder as they walk on past in the 'race' that are live's progressions. Yet if one of their comrades falls, they'll certainly help them back up to their feet. Why? They've already made progressions. It seems if you 'spawn' a few from thin air, you're granted more as standard or others will go out of their way to ensure they get them anyway. For those who have nothing, they're basically told to do everything alone. So, those who need the most help to get up on even the first rung of the social ladder end up with absolutely no help at all. As those like us have nothing, no one feels compelled to chuck us even a few crumbs.
I know I'm a loser in life also. My life basically stalled when I was about 15 and never got going again. Barring having a job and a car, absolutely nothing else has changed in my life. It's positively infuriating – especially when I know I've done what I can, within the limits of SA, to improve myself. Nothing…not one single thing has worked.
If I had genuine advice to give to people which would be of at least some benefit, believe me, I'd happily share it because the situation we find ourselves in on a day to day basis is borderline untenable.
The only thing I can say is hold in there. What I'm trying to do is to basically become a more independent and resilient individual. I'm determined to get my revenge some day...and that what keeps me going. Basically, if anyone who has turned their back on me (basically everyone) in the future needs help in their hour of need, I'll happily close the door in their face. "Help yourself
" or "It's all your fault
" will be my words. I certainly won't feel bad about doing it and finally, some karma will be delivered.
Please don't forget that we also have each other to lean on here. We might not be able to help, but at least we can support one another - and see what really
goes on in our backward society.