says, we aren't owed anything, though I think people should be polite..
But here's the things with relationships, and these go all the way up from stranger, to marriage, with all the steps in between.. each one has expected rules, and therefore boundaries. I think a lot of people who struggle with boundaries (myself included), can struggle with feelings of loneliness, and not realise the implicit boundaries (and responsibilities) that apply to each level of relationship, and expect much more from a lower level relationship.
It's only when a deeper level of friendship has been created (with a lot of time under the belt, and both parties implicitly accepting the "rules") that you can rely
Even intimate relationships with a monogamous partner might not be enough, to provide the support we might expect, or need.
The precedent of the behaviour within a relationship sets the rules and boundaries. Do you just joke around with someone? Then expect nothing beyond joking around. Do you both share problems, provide a listening ear, and solutions, expect that (but you have to provide it as well!). Then expect that. But even then, don't expect it always, because its just a friendship.
1. Determine what the boundaries are of the relationship (depth of conversation, needs being met, how mutual and reciprocal is it?)
2. Expect or demand nothing beyond that.
You can "upgrade" a friendship, certainly, but it takes work. Amazingly I only recently figured this out when I learned how boundaryless some of my family are, and also, how unboundaried I have been too. It's now something I spend a lot of time working on.