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I hate my shyness!!!


So I'm back from another night of partying, and watching my friends pull in fine looking girls while I go home empty handed. It's nights like these that make me feel like a completely repulsive troll of a man, though I know I'm not! My friends are no more or less physically attractive than me yet they always manage to get a girl or two at parties, while I'm just standing there beer in hand and still too shy to make any kind of move on a girl. I just wish I could burn away all the shyness in me, but it follows me wherever I go. I feel like curling up in a hole and watching the 40 Year Old Virgin (one movie I can always relate to). It only makes it worse that one friend in particular seems to always get the specific girls I long for, though he doesn't know it. SCREW SHYNESS!!!
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Are you good with eye contact?

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Are you good with eye contact?
Hell to the no.
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Next time you speak to girl look in her eyes with a smile.

Just try it. It won't kill you. I know I know I know it might be a little awkward, but just deal with it.

If you do just that you will get a positive response, trust me.

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Well at least you have friends you can go out with, You don't need to compare yourself to them anyway. Just enjoy yourself.

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Exactly! i pretty much just quit going to parties because of the disappointment that comes with it! It just makes me so pissed at myself!!
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Them places are full of shallow people anyway.
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Exactly! i pretty much just quit going to parties because of the disappointment that comes with it! It just makes me so pissed at myself!!
Yea, I literally fall asleep at parties and clubs. I just don't see the point. If it's for sex, you don't need to go to parties to get sex. Also, what is the point of partying anyway? Yea, let's party about our SA! Ha!
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Yea, I literally fall asleep at parties and clubs. I just don't see the point. If it's for sex, you don't need to go to parties to get sex. Also, what is the point of partying anyway? Yea, let's party about our SA! Ha!
This is true, but I dunno, I just feel like if I can't even get lucky at a party that I'm pretty doomed in any other situation.
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Tell me about it!I feel like running out of any party like situation coz me friends go off havin fun and im the silent mouse in the corner, its just awkward to be there....
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ii'm a girl and i hate my shyness too...I feel ashamed of it because it makes me unattractive. It makes people uncomfortable or intimidated when I really am just scared and I try my hardest to be nice and somewhat outgoing but I think people get the wrong idea like i'm some ***** or something.
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me too dude :/ its plagued me my entire life
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