heh, nice rant. Sounds like my dad, except for the abuse. The guy was always walking up and down to the stairs, checking on my siblings and I to see that we were being productive. It was very common for him to come into the living room and turn the television off while we were all watching it, because there was "work to be done". And God help you if you ever talked back (unless you were a raging b.itch like my sister). He would always tell me about how much more life experience he had, and used this against me when we got into arguments.
Ironically enough, he forced me into a plethora of anxiety, nervious-ridden social situations like ordering food, talking about certain things with teachers, asking stupid, provoking questions, being more responsible than my age demanded, which helped me become shy and social withdrawn. He would smile at any and everybody before we got home and he beat my *** lol or talk down to me because I 'had an attitude' or did something astronomically unimportant wrong (e.g. "why are your shoes in front of the stairway?" while his are right next to mine; "why are there dishes in the washing side of the sink?"; "why are you sleeping with your clothes on?"; "why are you afraid of me?", etc). He would never bother to encourage me to engage in social activities, but instead would limit my access to the things I felt comfortable doing.
The dude had a big head, plain and simple. And he treated my mother like trash. Having said that, I wouldn't wish death upon anyone, even him, but I could care less if I ever see him again. I might agree to talking with him on the phone once every couple of years for a half hour or so.
[...] i wanna find a job so bad just so i can get the hell away from her.
Yes, separate yourself as much as you can. College was my escape; I took classes at a community college back home for three years and transferred to uni afterwards. I had no other options unless I was going to move out and work a crappy full-time retail job for years. I was very lucky to move on and be in the position I currently am. I wish you the best of luck.