Let me start off by saying that I don't think that I am exceptionally ugly or anything at. I don't think I'm incredibly good looking by any means, but I'm not the ugliest guy on the bock (at least I'd like to think I'm not
). I work out 3 or 4 times per week, I shower at least daily, and get good grades. What I'm trying to say is that this is not going to be one of those "no one wants me because I'm ugly" threads (no disrespect to those threads though haha).
Now that thats out of the way, let me get back to the topic of my post. I cannot talk to girls. Especially if I find them attractive. I can't really put my finger on why I haven't found a way to overcome this fear either. Let me give you an example: I'll walk into class and see a girl that I find attractive. Instantly, I start to rationalize a reason to not say something or come in contact with her in any way. I think something like "there's no way I'm good enough for her", "there's no way she would want to talk to me", or "there's no point in saying anything because I have nothing of worth to contribute". I hate when I do it and its very frustrating but I don't know how to stop doing it. i just get caught up in the moment. Now, I am quite shy naturally which obviously woks against me and growing up, especially in high school, I have had self-esteem issue (which I've tried to fix to no avail).
Lately, With almost all of my friends being in relationships, my lack of a relationship has been getting to me. It's immensely frustrating. And it's not just the not having a relationship thing that gets me down, it rationalizing a reason not to do something social that I know I should do because I always feel like people look down on me or that i give off some kind of anti-pheromone to girls that makes them uninterested in me.
At this point I'm just rambling, so I'll wrap it up. All in all, I feel like my shyness and fear of rejection has made me miss out on what are supposed to be the best years of my life (those years being high school and college). It's just so frustrating to be the only on of my friends who have a hard time meeting people and making friends, the only one who has never had a girlfriend, been kissed, and is still a virgin. Just kinda sucks.
btw, I just remembered, I have been kissed before. BUT, the only reason she kissed me was because her friend said said she would give her a dollar so i don't really want to count that haha. And yes you read that correctly, I got pimped out for a dollar.
All in all, I would be cool if anyone had any tips on how to calm myself down and be able to at least approach girls. any tips are appreciated.