Hey Cool Ice Dude55 So listen
Nobody is better than you and you are not better than anyone else. There are always going to be people in life who have progressed more, and those who are behind. Life experience, socio economic and academic advantages, some coast by on luck and their looks. With anxiety we tend to focus on what we haven't achieved and set unrealistic expectations for where our lives should be.
I have always felt this way too so I can relate. I was younger than you when I had my first relationship but before that I compared myself all the time and even after I compared myself to guys who I saw as more successful with women, even though I had had sex I still felt inadequate against better looking, more successful guys who had more life opportunities than me. I ve started to learn that your human worth and value is not based on your work, your relationship status, your own perception of life might tell you, you need to have A and B but this is a negative distortion.
You look at everyone else and believe they are achieving more, doing more, and that some how makes them better than you. What you don't see is how hard they may have had to work to get there, the struggles they face you can be grateful you don't face. They may be lucky in some areas of their lives but struggle in others or put up a facade of pretending things are good when they are not. Don't measure yourself against anyone but yourself.
Write down something you did and mark off how it made you feel on a scale of 1 being not good to 10 wonderful . Do this everyday and reward yourself for small goals. Does this make any sense to you? Don't look at other people s success as a reflection of your failure or think you can't accomplish anything cause of it. Instead find someone in your life or outside of it and change your jealousy to inspiration. Comparison is the thief of Joy. I should know. I let it control my life for so long.
I m afraid of not being enough