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Help understanding SA


Hi all,
I'm a parent to 2 SA boys, I'm here because I want to help my children as much as I can, they were diagnosed about 1 year and half ago and they don't seem any better, the good days are far fewer.

The strange thing is although they both have SA they suffer differently

16yr old gets very angry and uncomunitive and if he tries something and it's unsuccessful he closes the door on it, he is now at a stage where the walls around him are closing fast but when I try and encourage him to talk he can't but I can see the pain in his eyes, he's now saying he is quitting the course he is on because he's finding the learning hard, I phoned his tutor today and he is shocked he is one of his star pupils,my question is how can I encourage him to stay on the college course as since he's been on it his confidence has really grown and the anger has subsided a lot....

My 15yr old in the last 3 years has gone from being one of the most popular boys in his high school to finding it hard to even leave his room, he so wants to go to school and be well again, but has not attended for 2 years now, his friendships are dwindling fast but he is happy to try and explain to me how he is feeling, i'm so confused when 1 day he seems able to do something then the next day he says he just can't and I get the "you don't understand what it's like to me"
I really want to help my boys but I don't know what to do can anyone help me?
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I'm not a parent, but it sounds like your 15 year old - unwilling to leave his room because of anxiety/panic? - could benefit by taking medication, in combination with pushing himself to go out and get back to school.

I reached a point where I really couldn't attend classes because of intense anxiety, but taking paxil dampened down my anxiety enough that I could go to school and even give presentations without much of a problem.
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Hi Dane, Thank -you! I have thought about medication and have been trying to research this, it's just at 15 it seems so young to be dependent on meds. He's seeing a clinical physcologist at the mo has been for ages on and off and the Dr not wanting to go down that route.......From what I can gather a clinical Dr is not able or trained to give meds,not sure whether it's the GP route again?
Enjoy the day and thank you for taking the time to answer my question, may I ask are you still taking meds and how long before it helped?
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SA for me is the worst disease ever it's inside no one can feel it only me , i hate people
i just want be alone because i have panic attacks (blush ,body tremble...) in front public situations , every day depressed and lonely
so that's nice that u want help ur boys , my advice for u is if they can join a music school something like this

Goodbye Cruel World I'm Leaving You Today , Goodbye All You People There's Nothing More U can Say To Make Me Change My Mind GOODBYE
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It took about a month or six weeks before it started taking effect, and it was very subtle. I didn't "feel" like anything was different, but when I pushed myself to go back to class I felt only a manageable amount of anxiety, instead of the runaway anxiety leading to panic attacks that I had had before. And once I found out that I wasn't going to panic if I was, for example, called on to answer a question, I relaxed even more.

I am still taking Paxil. I should probably try to ween myself off it and see if I can do without it now, but I haven't done so yet.

I'm not sure how things work in the UK as far as doctors go. Here in the US I went to an anxiety specialist. I guess her official title would be a psychiatrist.

I've heard of children quite a bit younger then 15 being on meds, but I'm not sure what the general consensus on that is. Maybe someone else could chime in?
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Thks Dane...I'll keep popping back to see if anyone else has any info
I wish you well and hope with all my heart you are having a positive day
God bless
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