I believe I am asexual as I don't desire a close relationship or sex etc. Maybe you are similar. It makes you, you. Life doesn't judge you, so no you aren't a loser or a winner. Each person takes their own path. Just find what makes you happy. 45% of people are introverts, which is close to half of all people. Finding friends isn't easy for most introverts and it can be hard, for the other 50% it's easy in comparison. I have one close friend who's sadly taken to drugs, but I value their friendship. I also like my family, though I find it hard, they've been good to me. So don't judge yourself, as easy as it can be, think positive and try to improve your situation by finding more positive energy.