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Ever Explode Into a Rage and Totally Blow it ?


I tend to do this occasionally. I did tonight and it wasn't my best moment. It sucks not to be good at finding outlets. Everything is going in and nothing is coming out. I don't sleep either which makes for a perfect storm. I feel bad. Maybe a punching bag is in order.

...you gotta keep the goal in mind, develop tunnel vision to a certain extent. it's hard, and it's not for everyone.

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I tend to do this occasionally. I did tonight and it wasn't my best moment. It sucks not to be good at finding outlets. Everything is going in and nothing is coming out. I don't sleep either which makes for a perfect storm. I feel bad. Maybe a punching bag is in order.
I have unfortunately been known to do that too. It's not good.

I'd also just like to point out that you haven't posted in our thread about insomnia yet mate.

(The new member @Eleonora91 has a problem with it too and wants to know how people cope.)
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My whole family has a low EQ, and tend to bottle things up. It’s like Bonnie and Clyde and I scare myself sometimes but on those darker days I usually lock myself indoors if I’m feeling a little spontaneous lol.
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never. i never express anger. people that express their anger kind of scare me. a colleague gets frustrated pretty easily and a while back she was saying she was going to lose it and punching her open hand really hard repeatedly. that's a kind of threatening thing. and my ex who had BPD would totally lose it. screaming at passing cars. when someone is losing control of themselves that is pretty scary to me.

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Not in a long time. I used to be quite hotheaded, and my family once considered putting me in therapy for anger management. I think they were just being dicks though, my outbursts usually had a good reason.


I smoked reefer like a chimney for six or seven years and all my anger and aggression faded to the point it hardly exists anymore and I think I could probably use some of it back.
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I tend to do this occasionally. I did tonight and it wasn't my best moment. It sucks not to be good at finding outlets. Everything is going in and nothing is coming out. I don't sleep either which makes for a perfect storm. I feel bad. Maybe a punching bag is in order.
It does feel good punching my punching dummy. I forget I have him sometimes and end up taking it out on a few doors which cost me $400 to replace. If only I remembered that day.

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Anger is not an emotion I'm very familiar with but I do know that it can be channeled/transfused. I also know that it's by far one of the most dangerous emotions because it can produce a lot of hatred and resentment and you can lose control over your physical actions only to regret what you did afterwards. Anger can be very dangerous.


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I'm an introverted person and I bottle things up as long as I can so I sometimes get these manic, psychotic episodes. It only happened three times in my life. I screamed at the top of my lungs, broke things, started acting crazy like there were invisible people after me. It's always in a panic induced rage. I always feel dreamlike and out of body in those moments. I hope to never experience that kind of panic and anxiety again.



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Only in my sleep. This morning I threw a table at somebody in a dream and they just dodged it and looked at me like I was an idiot and I felt defeated and didn't know how to apologize.

Maybe when you don't sleep you have to do it while awake.

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Going past rational and appropriate. Anything from saying something you regret (and that probably had no basis in reality) to throwing/breaking something. Generally speaking, an overreaction. I think a lot of times it's bottled up frustration waiting for any little catalyst. I do it rarely now but it still happens occasionally.

...you gotta keep the goal in mind, develop tunnel vision to a certain extent. it's hard, and it's not for everyone.

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Yeah, I occasionally explode into a rage. I get frustrated with life and sometimes it's just is more than I can handle.

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It's very rare I get that angry and explode. I'd say it's happened about 4 times in well over a decade and always been short lived, pretty mild physical altercations with my dad. Last time was October 2017 when my dad was driving me up the wall and getting right in my face, and being horrible, then started throwing some of my stuff all over the room, so I punched a hole in my door. A week later I was assaulted by "her" and threw her on the bed to restrain her.

It takes a lot to get me angry and even then I just end up hurting myself and no one else.
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never. i never express anger. people that express their anger kind of scare me. a colleague gets frustrated pretty easily and a while back she was saying she was going to lose it and punching her open hand really hard repeatedly. that's a kind of threatening thing. and my ex who had BPD would totally lose it. screaming at passing cars. when someone is losing control of themselves that is pretty scary to me.
I couldn't deal with "her" obvious BPD. I almost committed "reactive abuse" the last time I saw her, which is totally out of character for me, when she was assaulting me, tore my shirt off and throwing my stuff out the door. I through her on the bed and held her down for a bit and said "calm the **** down, *****" which still bothers me because I never knew what I was fully dealing with, and it was the first time I'd ever spoke to her like that. I would never have hit her because I just can't do it, but I did get physical by throwing her on the bed and holding her down. I had to do that though because she started strangling me and digging her thumbs into my carotid arteries.

If she behaves like this with the wrong person, she's gonna get ****ed up or killed.
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