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kesker 05-08-2019 08:29 PM

Ever Explode Into a Rage and Totally Blow it ?
 
I tend to do this occasionally. I did tonight and it wasn't my best moment. It sucks not to be good at finding outlets. Everything is going in and nothing is coming out. I don't sleep either which makes for a perfect storm. I feel bad. Maybe a punching bag is in order.

tea111red 05-08-2019 08:30 PM

yes, lol.

harrison 05-08-2019 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by kesker (Post 1093711343)
I tend to do this occasionally. I did tonight and it wasn't my best moment. It sucks not to be good at finding outlets. Everything is going in and nothing is coming out. I don't sleep either which makes for a perfect storm. I feel bad. Maybe a punching bag is in order.

I have unfortunately been known to do that too. It's not good.

I'd also just like to point out that you haven't posted in our thread about insomnia yet mate. :)

(The new member @Eleonora91 has a problem with it too and wants to know how people cope.)

TheForestWasDark 05-08-2019 08:44 PM

My whole family has a low EQ, and tend to bottle things up. It’s like Bonnie and Clyde and I scare myself sometimes but on those darker days I usually lock myself indoors if I’m feeling a little spontaneous lol.

BehindtheScenes 05-09-2019 08:51 PM

Once a year or two since I'm the type who bottles up a lot of crap as well...and tends to pretend that everything is always okay.

versikk 05-09-2019 09:28 PM

Define "blow it"
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andy1984 05-09-2019 09:55 PM

never. i never express anger. people that express their anger kind of scare me. a colleague gets frustrated pretty easily and a while back she was saying she was going to lose it and punching her open hand really hard repeatedly. that's a kind of threatening thing. and my ex who had BPD would totally lose it. screaming at passing cars. when someone is losing control of themselves that is pretty scary to me.

Steve French 05-09-2019 10:47 PM

Not in a long time. I used to be quite hotheaded, and my family once considered putting me in therapy for anger management. I think they were just being dicks though, my outbursts usually had a good reason.


I smoked reefer like a chimney for six or seven years and all my anger and aggression faded to the point it hardly exists anymore and I think I could probably use some of it back.

Hussle 05-09-2019 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by kesker (Post 1093711343)
I tend to do this occasionally. I did tonight and it wasn't my best moment. It sucks not to be good at finding outlets. Everything is going in and nothing is coming out. I don't sleep either which makes for a perfect storm. I feel bad. Maybe a punching bag is in order.

It does feel good punching my punching dummy. I forget I have him sometimes and end up taking it out on a few doors which cost me $400 to replace. If only I remembered that day.

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Entrensik 05-09-2019 10:59 PM

Anger is not an emotion I'm very familiar with but I do know that it can be channeled/transfused. I also know that it's by far one of the most dangerous emotions because it can produce a lot of hatred and resentment and you can lose control over your physical actions only to regret what you did afterwards. Anger can be very dangerous.


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truant 05-09-2019 11:14 PM

I tend to take on the emotions of the people I'm with. In my first LTR we fought like cats and dogs because my ex was a very angry (and abusive) person. My last relationship lasted 10 years and we never had a single argument. But my gf was sweet as pie and had a wicked sense of humor. We spent most of our time laughing.

I have to be really careful about who I hang around with because a very negative person can bring me down very quickly. On the other hand, the more fun other people are having, the more fun I'm having.

Persephone The Dread 05-10-2019 01:48 AM

I don't express it very often in real life, but I'm very angry often.

findyourself 05-10-2019 06:38 AM

I'm an introverted person and I bottle things up as long as I can so I sometimes get these manic, psychotic episodes. It only happened three times in my life. I screamed at the top of my lungs, broke things, started acting crazy like there were invisible people after me. It's always in a panic induced rage. I always feel dreamlike and out of body in those moments. I hope to never experience that kind of panic and anxiety again.

Nick Attwell 05-10-2019 06:57 AM

Yes; often

I have recently taken four pc keyboards to the recycling centre, small electrical appliances skip lol

Local pc shop does quite well selling me keyboards lol

Still, they're only 9.99; so what's a tenner?

Paul 05-10-2019 07:10 AM

Only in my sleep. This morning I threw a table at somebody in a dream and they just dodged it and looked at me like I was an idiot and I felt defeated and didn't know how to apologize.

Maybe when you don't sleep you have to do it while awake.

WillYouStopDave 05-10-2019 07:22 AM

No. I don't get rage. Literally never. That's probably why I've never been in a fight. Or at least not a fight where I fought back. I don't fight back. I run. It's a pretty good thing I was always fast when I was younger because I did a lot of running from fights.

kesker 05-10-2019 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by versikk (Post 1093712603)
Define "blow it"
Posted via Mobile Device

Going past rational and appropriate. Anything from saying something you regret (and that probably had no basis in reality) to throwing/breaking something. Generally speaking, an overreaction. I think a lot of times it's bottled up frustration waiting for any little catalyst. I do it rarely now but it still happens occasionally.

Maslow 05-10-2019 09:32 AM

Yeah, I occasionally explode into a rage. I get frustrated with life and sometimes it's just is more than I can handle.

The Notorious D.B.L 05-10-2019 09:43 AM

It's very rare I get that angry and explode. I'd say it's happened about 4 times in well over a decade and always been short lived, pretty mild physical altercations with my dad. Last time was October 2017 when my dad was driving me up the wall and getting right in my face, and being horrible, then started throwing some of my stuff all over the room, so I punched a hole in my door. A week later I was assaulted by "her" and threw her on the bed to restrain her.

It takes a lot to get me angry and even then I just end up hurting myself and no one else.

The Notorious D.B.L 05-10-2019 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by andy1984 (Post 1093712625)
never. i never express anger. people that express their anger kind of scare me. a colleague gets frustrated pretty easily and a while back she was saying she was going to lose it and punching her open hand really hard repeatedly. that's a kind of threatening thing. and my ex who had BPD would totally lose it. screaming at passing cars. when someone is losing control of themselves that is pretty scary to me.

I couldn't deal with "her" obvious BPD. I almost committed "reactive abuse" the last time I saw her, which is totally out of character for me, when she was assaulting me, tore my shirt off and throwing my stuff out the door. I through her on the bed and held her down for a bit and said "calm the **** down, *****" which still bothers me because I never knew what I was fully dealing with, and it was the first time I'd ever spoke to her like that. I would never have hit her because I just can't do it, but I did get physical by throwing her on the bed and holding her down. I had to do that though because she started strangling me and digging her thumbs into my carotid arteries. :frown2:

If she behaves like this with the wrong person, she's gonna get ****ed up or killed.


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