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Does anyone here struggle reading their emotions?


I feel like sometimes I can’t read my own emotions. When people tell me I’m acting very anxious I’m like what? Cause I don’t feel it sometimes. Before a social event I feel a sense of doom about it but I think “fear” is accurate. When I’m at a social event sometimes I’m having a good time but I still would be happier leaving. I don’t always show anxiety symptoms but if something happens that puts me at centre of attention I feel a bit uneasy. Even though I can have a good time repeatedly socially when it happens I still dread it even though I know it’s ok. I love being at home it seems
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Yes I struggle reading my emotions.

I don't pay attention to my needs and what I want,
which extends to me not paying attention to how I feel.
I don't know how to voice my needs and what's bothering me effectively.
So I might be angry because of some random thing and people think i'm mad for no reason.
Or I might feel unloved and like people don't care about me because they're not doing
the things that make me comfortable or they do something that makes me scared but because
I don't know how to voice that or recognize what i'm feeling it comes out as another emotion entirely.

An example is, if I don't hear from someone all day
I think that they don't like me anymore
and that they're secretly hanging out with someone behind my back
because they don't care about me enough to talk to me.
And then I accuse them because I feel scared, sad, unloved and uncared for,
but I don't realize that at the time and just accuse and get angry.

Or if i'm talking to someone on the phone and I really need to take a **** but the bathroom is occupied, i'll get super grumpy with who I am talking to and it's not until later on that I realize I wasn't angry at them just that I felt trapped and unable to use a restroom.

P.S. Sometimes I don't know i'm tired and so I use the internet or look at porn, not realising i'm tired and should sleep. Lot of the time when I feel horny or use porn, i'm actually depressed or let down but I don't realize that until after. I try to shut out how I really feel and so it's hard to tell in the moment how I actually feel.

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I always try to block myself from reading my own emotions to suppress negative feelings of myself, because it only makes me be aware of my own vulnerabilities and insecurities if I don't. When I don't do this, this usually drags me down into a rabbit hole of depression.

The truth is strictly what the ones in power perceives it to be.

Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.
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Yeah this resonates 100%. When someone asks how I'm doing I realized I tend to respond with WHAT I'm doing rather than HOW I'm doing. I think I tend to focus on my actions and see those as more important than my feelings.
I don't know why people think it's helping to tell other people they are anxious, it's so annoying
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Yeah sometimes, I get these emotions sometimes that are negative and find it difficult to describe them when I try. I heard this is called alexithymia but that's probably more extreme cases.

But yeah I don't like it when other people point out my emotional state or their perception of it I guess because it's supposed to be private lol.

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sometimes. I was angry a few times lately and I never really felt like that before. kind of like anxiety, shakey, but actionable. maybe I was also anxious.

I've felt strongly timid a lot, bold a few times, resentment a few times. i think happiness is getting clearer somehow as i get older. I feel good a lot more or I notice it a lot more.

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I obviously do - I've done so many crazy things and not even been aware of my emotional state at all. I find out later though. Flying off to meet people overseas or just doing ridiculous things here - it's been terrible and I'm still paying the price for a lot of it now.
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Im pretty good at expressing my emotions, but when I go out for a daytime walk, I squint my eyes because of the sun and my dad told me I looked pissed off all the time

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Society has conditioned us to be disconnected from feeling our bodies and remain stuck in our heads. I had this struggle. But i started learning how to feel my body again. But it's controversial. Society's acceptable standard of a real man is to never feel, don't cry. So we forget the feeling of our bodies and the emotions (apathy, grief, fear, anger).

Exactly how?

Daily meditation where i start feeling every part of my body: feet, calve, lap, hands, forearm, bicep/tricep, shoulder, head, upper back, mid back, lowerback, glutes. Start feeling anything like tingling sensation, almost like first you make a tight fist and grip hard for 10 seconds then relax and you feel energy. Well feel the energy all around your body. Then with enough practice, you'll slowly learn to feel the emotions.

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I always try to block myself from reading my own emotions to suppress negative feelings of myself, because it only makes me be aware of my own vulnerabilities and insecurities if I don't. When I don't do this, this usually drags me down into a rabbit hole of depression.
"whatever you resist, persist"

Eckhart Tolle mentioned everybody has a pain body, which is all the suppressed negative feelings since childhood. Just because it's suppressed doesn't mean it goes away. Those suppressed negative feelings are the ones really controlling a person. Instead what I do is allow them to come up, feel them fully, and they will eventually run their course.

Remember, your views and what you have to say matter to others AND to yourself
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