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Does anyone else hate their work life, home life and social life?


Because for me, there's just no escape.

I hate work - I gather that's not exactly unusual. But it's particularly stressful for those with social anxiety because, on top of worrying about meeting productivity targets and so forth, you're also constantly paranoid that your quiet demeanor is under scrutiny (and, let's be honest, it probably is).

I can't get any relief at home, because my so-called family - which just consists of me, my mum and my alleged step-dad - is completely dysfunctional. They argue incessantly about trivial nonsense, and I often end up being dragged into their BS despite my trying to distance myself from them. I hate it here, but realistically, can't afford to move out.

My social life is non-existent. I often feel a strong desire to go somewhere other than home and work, but there's nowhere to go, nothing to do, and more importantly, nobody who enjoys my company. I have been to the cinema by myself a couple of times, sat in restaurants alone (and by restaurants I mean KFC and McDonald's); outwardly, I try to project the image of being nonplussed and comfortable in my own company, but in reality I'm just bored out of my mind.

Put simply, life is unbearable. I hate it. I need to find a way out of this hell.
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I understand the latter 2. I've only hated a job for a month where I was just stocking the college snack and drink shop, wiping cafeteria tables, and cleaning the soda machine, but thank god I was fired. I have met handfuls of people from online sites, but most of the people were pretty disappointing.
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work - boring, low paying, no future, being treated like **** because of low position
home - call my families twice a year and always end up being criticized for whatever i did
social - watching porn and browsing sas every friday night, life doesn't get better than this

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My work life is really complicated and the source of all my anxiety and struggles. I don't have the credentials to get a good job so I'm stuck in self employment.

The only bad thing about my home life is how judgmental and critical my boyfriend was. It makes living with him very stressful.

My social life is good. I prefer spending time alone so I'm pretty happy that I don't have any close friends.

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maybe not hate, but it could be improved.
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Work life- Stressful as ****, don't get paid enough, boss is passive-aggressive, and feel stuck.

home life- ....Computer, videogames, fap, beer, cry, repeat.

social life:............................................. ..........................

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yeah it all kinda sucks life has become a major let down

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Sometimes, I don't see a point in continuing my life, but remembering that life is a gift not a right always brings me back.
While work is agonizing no matter what type it is, all I can advise is either pursue something else that you can find yourself enjoying for the rest of your life (which is incredibly hard to do, but not impossible) or do something to counteract that (i.e. read an old book that you used to like, think about good memories, listen to your favorite music, dance, do whatever you want that makes you feel good or comfortable).
Life isn't all bad, you're just limiting yourself to one type of lifestyle. Look for a better job that you can try and pursue, try going on a walk or running around your block and explore, find a place where you can be with yourself when you need alone time, try finding your strengths and weaknesses in your family life or what is causing problems. Call your parents or siblings out for behavior that makes you both grow farther apart. You only live one life, why live in the worst way possible when you can make the best out of what you have? I'm not saying you can suddenly change everything you dislike in your life at once, but trying one new thing at a time, starting a new and healthy routine daily, and telling how you truly feel to people in your day to day life will make the hugest difference. Little steps add up to miles. I hope you find some peace with your families, social status, and working life.
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Sometimes, I don't see a point in continuing my life, but remembering that life is a gift not a right always brings me back.
How can something be a gift when it is forced on you without your consent and cannot be exchanged? I don't want your gift. I didn't ask to be born, and I'd happily die of my own accord were it not for the de facto prohibition of suicide in place in basically every country in the world.

I don't think my expectations of life are unreasonable at all. I've been dragged into the theater against my will, by people who supposedly have my best interests at heart; I damn well expect the movie to be worth watching. How dare you have kids if life promises them anything less than an amazing experience? If people are going to reproduce like the unborn are somehow missing out from not being a part of this world, then I'm totally justified in expecting life to be enjoyable.
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You might feel that way now, but maybe later you'll realize that there's more to life than what you think.
There's a lot in life to be sad about and a lot in life to be happy about. That's the beauty of it.
Things might not always be constant or fixed or in the way that you want, but how many things have you actually done to change the things you dislike about your life?
You feel like your work, family, and social life sucks, among other things, but what have you done to change that? If you truly dislike how your life is going, how about you try and fix it or make it better or improve it in some way to make it more livable, more enjoyable?
The unborn ARE missing out - on so much. They cease to even exist. They can't experience the sadness or the pain or the anger or the disappointment, but they can't experience the happiness or love or contentment or success either.
Life has a balance, having too much of the same thing gets boring and your life becomes stagnant and uninteresting. While you might feel like you have too much of the negative feelings and would willingly commit suicide because of that, you're telling yourself that you have a problem in your life and you need to fix it. That's the best thing about living - you don't have to stay in one place or feel one way. You can change if you are willing to.
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Yes, yes, and yes. It's infuriatingly frustrating when I'm trying my damnedest to improve those aspects of my life, but things still remain the same. What's most important to me right now is finding a place I can call home that I can feel safe and comfortable in. On my days off, I spend most of my time out because the noisy tenants constantly piss me off when I'd rather stay and relax in my own room with a good movie. When I have a bad day at work, I wish I could run to a safe place which used to be my room, but instead I just stay out until it's evening or night time because home sucks as well.
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I often feel invisible and disrespected in all three of those facets of life.

Then when I become distant with said people, they can't seem to understand.

When I leave for awhile and they finally notice me missing because work is not getting done or they're bored, it is then they try to reel me back into said world.






I feel as if I'm replaceable, then when I try to fade away, these damn fake people manipulate me with their lies and claim I'm not.
I'm surrounded by hypocrites, liars, spies and thieves. It's no less than I deserve I suppose.

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How can something be a gift when it is forced on you without your consent and cannot be exchanged? I don't want your gift. I didn't ask to be born, and I'd happily die of my own accord were it not for the de facto prohibition of suicide in place in basically every country in the world.

I don't think my expectations of life are unreasonable at all. I've been dragged into the theater against my will, by people who supposedly have my best interests at heart; I damn well expect the movie to be worth watching. How dare you have kids if life promises them anything less than an amazing experience? If people are going to reproduce like the unborn are somehow missing out from not being a part of this world, then I'm totally justified in expecting life to be enjoyable.
Well said. Life is a horrible nightmare thrust upon me by my selfish parents.
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Is it not possible to move out to a small apartment? Have you given thought to other careers/ jobs? Are there no activities in your area that remotely interest that would at least enable some interactions outside of work? Have you considered undertaking a programme of self help or therapy that may give you some fresh perspective on your situation? Are there no people you can connect to online or sa support groups in your area? Probably all obvious but it reminds me of my situation a decade or so ago. I wouldn't say things are perfect now but i don't have the same sense of hopelessness and pessimism that prevented me from living back then. I do believe things Will get better and you will discover or be confronted with ways out of your situation but it may not happen overnight.
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Work life - 6/10 - I work at a gym so I get to workout whenever so that's a plus The people there are also pretty sweet, but its hard for me to talk to them and I'm fairly new. I'm already the weirdo of the bunch. So..bleh.

Home life - 6.5/10 - Don't really converse with my family, it's more of me just residing here. But those close to me would understand just how crappy it can be here some times.

Social life - 0/10 would not msg. Lol no but it could be A LOT better. It's mostly just me pushing away others (which I'm regretting heavily now ><) ... 2/10 =P
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I wouldn't say I 'hate' any of them,but clearly I will need to change things at some point

I just wish my life could be as strange as a conspiracy
I hold out but there's no way of being what I want to be
Dragons blow fire angels fly spirits wither in the air
I'm just me I can't deny I'm neither here, there nor anywhere
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Because for me, there's just no escape.

I hate work - I gather that's not exactly unusual. But it's particularly stressful for those with social anxiety because, on top of worrying about meeting productivity targets and so forth, you're also constantly paranoid that your quiet demeanor is under scrutiny (and, let's be honest, it probably is).

I can't get any relief at home, because my so-called family - which just consists of me, my mum and my alleged step-dad - is completely dysfunctional. They argue incessantly about trivial nonsense, and I often end up being dragged into their BS despite my trying to distance myself from them. I hate it here, but realistically, can't afford to move out.

My social life is non-existent. I often feel a strong desire to go somewhere other than home and work, but there's nowhere to go, nothing to do, and more importantly, nobody who enjoys my company. I have been to the cinema by myself a couple of times, sat in restaurants alone (and by restaurants I mean KFC and McDonald's); outwardly, I try to project the image of being nonplussed and comfortable in my own company, but in reality I'm just bored out of my mind.

Put simply, life is unbearable. I hate it. I need to find a way out of this hell.
This is why I want a career rather than a job (though none are particuarly appealing). I'd like a career I can immerse myself in and that is interesting. Running my own company of working in a small company would be even better.
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My social life could use some room for improvement, but otherwise I'm fine with my current work and home life
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