Originally Posted by DarkRoadNowhere
Wear like make up and dresses/skirts etc?
I often wish I was cute but there is so many roadblocks and no acceptance. Besides that I don't think I can reach goals that I have in wanting to be cute.
Identity is such a fascinating subject, how we wish to be perceived by others, how we perceive others and wish for them to bend their will in sake of our own. Then comes our own perception of labels, such as what is a guy, what is a gal, it gets fairly complex for my mind. Is a guy, to be defined as girly? Is a girl, to be defined as manly? Gender in of itself gets to be pretty confusing, but who is the one to choose the ultimate meaning of it all? Does wanting to be a gorgeous woman, only support the pre established gender roles? Do we even have any say over our own identity to begin with, or are we reliant upon others for it?
I fear that there is no simple answer to any of these questions, at least not as far as I can figure out. I do know, that we do not get to choose how others perceive us though. Personally, I am fine with people identifying themselves as they desire. If a man, wishes to identify as a man and wear outfits that are usually designated for women, then I am not bothered by it. If a woman born as a man, wishes to identify as a woman, and desires to wear either outfits for men or women, I am fine with that too. I'm also fine with otherkin, so as far as my own judgement and views are concerned, they are very liberal. The big one, that seems to bother a lot of people, is that I don't even mind other people who want to be another race. But my own views do not represent those of everyone else.
I've played out in my mind, a scenario in which all humanity were to cease to exist, but for one. Would it matter what we wore, how we behaved, would we limit ourselves to pre established views, and try to maintain an identity that brought us comfort.
I've often thought the only freedom we can ever really experience, is one in solitude, and isolated system where we are not reliant upon others. In such a system, we can identify ourselves as we so wish if we so wish.
Yeah, it is a complex question. Personally, I want to urge you on to be your self, and to live your life in a manner that best suits you, because I think we all should be happy in life. My own feelings on the matter should not matter, but of course they do for you and others, that is just human nature, isn't it? My own feelings, are I think it is fine. I think you should be at the helm of your own identity, if you wish to have one.
Now, to make myself a drink