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Do you ever feel like you annoy everyone?


As I think back on my life, there was always a time where I was annoying at least one of my friends.

Soon, I started to get the feeling that I was annoying everyone around me, so I got into the habit of speaking as little as possible when going out in public. I only speak when spoken to, which causes people to think I'm weird because I don't talk much.

I hate feeling like I'm the annoying one, but I still hardly ever voice my opinion unless someone asks first.
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You know, I think most people feel this way. I just don't really care if I'm annoying anyone.
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I just joined this site ten minutes ago and I can already find a topic that i can relate to. Yes i do feel that when i am speaking to someone i am annoying them. Its terrible because i have to speak to new people everyday at my job. People always seem to cut me off when I am talking or just ignore me all together.
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Yes! I got that feeling again today trying to talk to a mechanic about what the heck is wrong with my car! I felt that I came across very hoity-toity and annoying -but the guy was being dismissive and glossing over his shops incompetence. I just care less and less if I do annoy people-they annoy me most of the time too!

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Same, i've been Tryin talk less. That way I don't annoy as many people
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I definitely feel this way. I highly doubt that it is true that you annoy everyone, even if you feel that way. I think for some people it just doesn't occur to them that they might be annoying to others, so they just go ahead and do whatever they like. We're cursed with caring too much what other people think. Maybe if you feel like you're being annoying, ask yourself if you are doing anything that is actually wrong, and probably you are not, so try not to worry about it.
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I've thought that for the longest time. Doesn't matter whether I'm talking with someone face-to-face, on the phone, through texting, or in some form on the Internet - I always think nobody cares about what I have to say. If I try to remedy that by remaining silent and keeping to myself, I still figure I'm somehow doing something wrong.
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I just decided a looooong time ago - I'm not going to live some partial life - in most situations I speak up -

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Yes...this has been a large part of me becoming as shy and reclusive as I now am. I'd rather be painfully lonely than bother or bore anybody, which seems to be all I'm really good at, most of the time.

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Yes...this has been a large part of me becoming as shy and reclusive as I now am. I'd rather be painfully lonely than bother or bore anybody, which seems to be all I'm really good at, most of the time.
Exactly this, yeah. I pulled back hard from my friends awhile ago, stopping keeping an online journal, stopping IMing, etc., because nothing I say is relevant or interesting. I can never figure out what to say. I'd just rather not talk at all than continue to say stupid, boring things.
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Yes, hell even in impersonal situations. I feel that way if Im just standing in line at the grocery store.
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Yeah, even within my own family, which consists of my mother and little sister. I am basically treated as a second class citizen. The failure, who exaggerates his mental illnesses and has been a disappointment and burden to all involved. My mother doesn't return my calls for days and she doesn't spend anytime with me in my house, just talking. I have been thinking about this alot in the last two days. It really makes me want to shut down and build a wall. When every time I talk, all I hear is irritation in her voice.

I realize that I have not been the son that she always wanted. I haven't lived up to her standards. And she does not understand the extent of GAD and SAD and agoraphobia. She just can't grasp it. She can't wrap her brain around how bad it can be. She has no compassion for mental disorders. especially when it's her only son. And at the same time, growing up with my father and some of the other men she choose as mates. They really left some mental scars. i don't like to wallow in my own sorrows and play the victim role

I know, I have made a lot of poor choices growing up and she did also. I look at it as mistakes made on both sides. But to be treated like a failure,to hear it in her voice. to see that in her face, to be the black sheep boy in this family. It makes me sad, worthless to a point and it also makes me angry.

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Not as I am, but if I were less quiet I'm afraid I would be annoying. My sister liked to tell me I was as a kid pretty much every time I spoke.
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That's exactly how i feel also.
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Yes, I feel this way. It really bothers me because I feel like I can say the exact same thing as someone else and the two of us will get completely different reactions from the same people.
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Yeah basically all the time lol
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As I think back on my life, there was always a time where I was annoying at least one of my friends.

Soon, I started to get the feeling that I was annoying everyone around me, so I got into the habit of speaking as little as possible when going out in public. I only speak when spoken to, which causes people to think I'm weird because I don't talk much.

I hate feeling like I'm the annoying one, but I still hardly ever voice my opinion unless someone asks first.
Yeah I have the same problem. Well sort of.
I tend to get a bit passionate about things so when I'm in a discussion about something controversial, like abortion for example, I have to really check myself because I tend to go over the top about things. I annoy people because I don't let them get there side across. I've realised what I do now, so I really try to let them speak.

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I think I do...
I started to hate being around people, because I constantly feel uncomfortable because the whole time I'm with someone I always think that my appearance and behavior just annoys them. I always feel unwanted I dunno if it's true tho...
I might be insane.
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maybe... but I don't care.
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Yes, lol. Either annoying or like I'm just boring people. Also, I feel like my inability to act natural makes people uncomfortable or annoyed.
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