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There are varying degrees of dread. I think some are normal but some are poisonous. Here are the various degrees I've experienced, from worst to best -

- Pure dread. This one is most poisonous. The dread starts on Sunday evening and already you feel ill about work. You have difficulty even getting out of bed on workdays, and your commute is heavy as you emotionally try to prepare for another horrible day. You need to find another job or way of earning a living ASAP because life is too short to live like this. It's not worth it. Get out.

- Extreme dissatisfaction. You aren't an absolute mess like the scenario above, but you really don't like your job. It's more irritation and frustration than actual dread. You simply go through the motions and are constantly looking for greener pastures somewhere else. Sunday night is a bummer.

- Mild dissatisfaction. You don't like your job, but it's a job. There are probably better ones out there, but this one is familiar enough and it would be too risky or a hassle to find other work. You go into Sunday night with a surrendering sigh.

- Secure. Of course there are other things you'd rather be doing, but it pays the bills and gets you out of the house regularly. Just another part of life. Sunday night is "ok, time to go back to the grind".

- Invigorating. You are so wrapped up in your work you don't have time to think about what else you could be doing. This is it. When you wake up your concern is putting your to-do list together for the day and concentrating on what needs to be done. There's no time for dread, and Sunday night is just another night like any other.



One last note. Regarding personal life/ work life interferences, what I learned to do long ago was a life saver. I started viewing it this way - if I'm having trouble in my personal life, work is my escape from that where I can concentrate on only work and ignore the personal stuff for that period of time. Then, vice-versa. I go home to escape the troubles at work, leave them behind for another day and switch gears to my personal stuff only, escaping work problems.

Do not allow personal things (phone calls, emails, etc.) to go to your work place (emergency only) and don't bring work home with you. Keep them separate. Each one is a temporary escape from the problems of the other. I've found these "breaks" give you time to mentally cool-down and prepare to address any issues more clearly and with a level-head. It makes me far more productive in both areas of my life.
I guess I teeter back and forth between mild dissatisfaction and extreme dissatisfaction depending on what's going on. What's aggravating is that it seems like either company policy or other coworkers make everything harder than it has to be. We continually lack things we need to get our job done as well.

I've been offered full-time before and a part of me wishes I would take it, but I like the extra day off and part of me knows I spend enough time with the impossible leeches I work with. If I started spending more time there it'd be worse, I know that.
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Even though I never have much plans for the weekend, I still prefer it a ton more than having to go to work each day and be around people that I would rather not be around.
I feel anxious about going to school at times because some of my classes are seminars and require a bit more interaction. But no one in my classes this far in college have lessened the class experience for me. You say you would rather not be around certain people at your workplace. Why is that? Is it just the anxiety or the things they say?
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It seems to me that if we could somehow cure our SA, then we all would become the best workers at the workforce. It's not the actually work that we hate, its the SA, which makes it 100 times worse. So just imagine what we would be capable of if we were received of our SA ?
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Sometimes. Usually I dread it when I'm bored and when things are going wrong in a million soul-crushing ways. When I'm wrapped up in a project that's challenging but worth my time, I don't dread it.
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I have two jobs, one is okay and the other one is hell. The one job I only dread because my boss is intimidating and I don't want to fail but I actually usually enjoy it there. My other job I absolutely hate but I can't quit because the first job isn't enough to pay the bills. I'm getting the hang of things but I still have to ask questions and the co-worker I have to ask is 4 years older than me and the closest to my age, the rest are 30 or so and I'm 18. I hate having to ask her things because most of the time she answers in a tone like "are you stupid? Why are you talking to me?" but if I don't ask I'll do the job wrong and get in trouble later. It's also an extremely boring job so I hate it, and sometimes we have absolutely nothing to do but then get in trouble for not doing anything so I want to ask if there is anything I can do but I don't want my head bit off. On Sunday I do get depressed that I have to work in the morning and It makes me want to stay up as late as possible because I know once I go to sleep the next thing I'll do is go to work, which then makes me tired in the morning and hate going even more. The minutes drag by at work and I just want to scream thinking about it. I don't talk to anyone there because when I do say anything most people look at me like I'm stupid so usually if someone says something and I know what they are talking about I just don't comment. I say like 2 words an hour at work, I felt the same dread about school when I went. I just don't know what to do, it's a really good job for someone my age and better than most anywhere else I could work but I hate it.
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I do dread going to my job each day. So much so that my stomach hurts and it would seem as if I suffer from terrible IBS.

My job has given me good reason not to care much for the company of people. Oh dear God, the pettiness that causes them to become these venomous snakes that want nothing more than to poison me as a lowly customer service worker. And the repetitiveness of it all. Utterly pointless when it's all said and done.

In our culture we live to work, rather than work to live. So it's hard to escape the work, work, work mentality. I can barely stand to stay at my job for a full shift, while some others take on overtime shifts which amount to 12 or 13 hour work days. All for a little more money to buy...whatever. Because no one there is getting rich no matter how much they work.
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Hellz yea!! this is me! I dread mondays and love Fridays. When I have to give presentations I toss and turn in my sleep. I can't sleep for more than 2 hours. I look so tired when i'm done.

From the book "The Path to Success is Paved with Positive Thinking" by Wally Amos:

"Yesterday is a word, not a place you can return to. Living in the past prevents you from taking advantage of the many opportunities present in today.....Equally as destructive as living in the past is worrying about the future. It's just a word, not a place you can visit..."

"Accept the realities of today. Plan for tomorrow, but live in today."
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The only time when someone likes his job is

1) He's already immune to the sh*t going around him to the point he's actually insane!
2) He's the boss of the company and earning sh*t loads
3) He's the son of the boss
4) He's the lucky one that is doing something he's actually enjoy (Not referring to office mundane work because honestly who would find those enjoyable?)

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I honestly can't work with people. I can't work with customers and I can't work with co-workers. I work better when I am alone and no one bothers me.

College was great because when I had to do work, I could do it alone. If I had to work with someone I'd work with a friend.

Now, I HAVE to go to an uncomfortable building and I HAVE to work with irritating people. It kills me when I walk into work and I think to myself, "I'm going to be here for the next 8 hours. Good lord, what has happened." I try to make small talk but my co-workers don't share any of my interests.
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Every day I hate the thought of going to work. When I'm there I count down the hours until I get to leave and each day I feel a little bit better because the work week is almost done. Even though I never have much plans for the weekend, I still prefer it a ton more than having to go to work each day and be around people that I would rather not be around. Then on Sunday nights I feel a little nauseous knowing that the whole work week is about to start all over again. Does anyone else feel the same way?
This describes me to a T. This is 110% exactly how I feel. I do not like the people at my job one bit. I'm sick of them. Each day, I get physically sick knowing I have to go and face those morons. Someone even told me once, and I quote "dude, no wonder you are so depressed. You work with a bunch of raving lunatics who care only about the job". He hit the nail right on the head. The people at my job make my life worse. They are so buried in the job and intertwined into each other's lives, it's scary. I am in the minority. I am the only one who wants nothing more than to do the job and go home. I didn't take a job there for the people. I took it for the pay. But, there is no telling them that. Last night (Sunday) I did not sleep at all, because I was so filled with dread at having to see these awful people. They know I don't like them on any level, yet they insist on talking to me. All day. Every day. My weekends consist of laying around and watching TV. Or getting online. That's it. And my co-workers are either at each other's houses discussing work. As much as it sux living the life of a recluse on the weekends, I'll take that over seeing those awful people any day. At least that is two full days away from them.
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What really makes a place of employment bad is when the workers don't know how to separate work from their personal lives. Everything is all tied in together. I don't know if my place of employment is the rule or the exception, but it is REALLY bad in that regard. The people at my job only know one another. I mean, they are literally everything to each other. Co-workers, friends, extended family (in some cases). They date each other. It's just simply too much. I really wonder if any of them stop and just take a look at their life on the whole and think "my entire existence is centered around this job". I have always been of the belief that work and personal life should be two completely different things. I'm an outsider at my job due to the fact that I never have, nor will I ever under any circumstances have personal dealings with the people there. There is just no need for it. I don't like them as people. I tolerate them for the job's sake, that's it. A lot of those people live right around each other (big surprise) and they are all over at each other's houses all the time. I don't get it. I don't see how they stomach so much of each other, especially given how they act at work. 80-90% of them spend Thanksgiving and Christmas together every year. It just blows my mind.
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I LOVE work! Mainly because It gives me something to do (Most of the time I'm alone and bored and depressed off my ***) and my co workers are pretty fun. And because it gives me a chance to be around people so i dont feel so ****ing lonely all the time. Moneys nice too. Work cheers me up. Until its over..
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Every day I hate the thought of going to work. When I'm there I count down the hours until I get to leave and each day I feel a little bit better because the work week is almost done. Even though I never have much plans for the weekend, I still prefer it a ton more than having to go to work each day and be around people that I would rather not be around. Then on Sunday nights I feel a little nauseous knowing that the whole work week is about to start all over again. Does anyone else feel the same way?
Hell YES! I think only a small minority of people are lucky enough to (1) find their work really enjoyable and stimulating, and (2) get paid really well in the process. Then there's still your personal life to sort out. Damn, sometimes I think the purpose of life is to kick your a**!
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I like it and dislike it at the same time. I have a part time job where I work on saturdays and during the summer. It's better than sitting around at home doing nothing, that's for sure, but sometimes when I'm at work I can't help but count down the minutes to each break and the end of the day.
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it's like my life is over, what's the point of work? I just want to stay home and masturbate, that's my life now, I mastered masturbation
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Yeah, I dread going to work. The only thing that keeps me going right now is that I have people who depend on me. And to think that I felt enthusiastic when I got that job a few years ago.
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I only have a casual on-call job and can only work 2 days a week and even though it's boring but I like going to work. I have something to do and I'm earning money. More importantly it keeps me on a routine cause otherwise I'd fall back into old habits by napping late at night then waking up a few hours later to brush my teeth then having trouble falling back to sleep again and messing up my sleep pattern and making me feel even more depressed. It also helps me socialise with people.

I wasn't called into work this week and I'm depressed. I ended up sleeping erratically and I feel horrible and my joints hurts.

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i really used to get fearful of going to work every day, my anxiety would just skyrocket sometimes because i had to deal with certain coworkers and sometimes because the work was so stressful
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Only during the start of the week. I also get every 2nd Friday off which is NICE.
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