You don't have to raise your voice or sound angry-that's what she wants. You can condescendingly call out her behaviors like say "Oh wow, your gonna roll yours eyes at me".
I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.
Watch your thoughts: They become your words.
Watch your words: They become your actions.
Watch your actions: They become your habits.
Watch your habits: They become your character.
Watch your character: It becomes your destiny.