Originally Posted by Persephone The Dread
I wouldn't say a lot but there are definitely oblivious people (sometimes trolls too,) who use this site to brag. It doesn't necessarily bother me either until they start complaining about how the social norm of this site doesn't fit their lifestyle. 'People are too negative' 'why are so many people complaining' etc. Because that's on them for being in the wrong environment when they should have moved on.
Yes, I don't mean a lot, just if you spread out all the posts over a longer period of time, it is more than you would imagine.
I don't think there are a ton of people blatantly out-and-out bragging, that is very rare, I think it is more people bragging under the surface.
For example, someone creates a topic (this is just off the top of my head): "I have been having a hard time because my boyfriend/girlfriend gave me a dirty look and snapped at me" So basically, they are crowbar-ing into the post that they have a significant other, and then adding the minor hiccup of a problem, AFTER posting proudly that they have a wife/husband or whatever.
Or someone creates a topic who is in a random crisis and X poster will say, "I had the same problem, but my wife/husband gave me some great advice, and now I am all set. Just a lot of mentioning that someone has someone in their life, but not really contributing much else to anyone's posts or creating posts about nothing that serious compared to other people in a major crisis.
If you google "single and lonely" and find message boards, every other post is, "I did give up and was alone, and when i gave up, they found me." That is the most sickening message I have ever heard and you run into that line CONSTANTLY if you ever look at any boards about dating advice. All that is saying i think is, "I am with someone" and i wasn't even trying and they stumbled in my lap and now i am complete. It is also a lazy response because everyone uses that. Love and relationships are so much more complex than "they found me."
The overly positive trivial posts like, "I can't find any good movies to watch" =0(> or "I can't find any new video games and it made me sad" with some dumb emoji are the most maddeningly enfuriating to read. It is like, God, there has to be something more relevant in your life you want to share. If I was going to post things like that, I may as well throw my computer out the window. I would rather hear a post from a raving lunatic about how they think Martians will invade earth or that they are the second coming of Christ, because at least it is a unique message that is not generic.
The most hilarious posts are by ex- social anxiety sufferers who come back on years later and proclaim that they are cured. I mean it is literally hilarious. They may as well be saying, "I made it to the top of the mountain, I tried hard and prevailed. You can too if you give it your all. I was once like you sufferers and now I have built a life that you all wish you could" I mean I agree that you can take steps to improve but you do run into posts like that on this site. It always reeks of Tony Little the inspirational workout nut on the infomercials. In life you can't fully cure yourself of anything, in a way, because everything is a process, you know?