Sounds like dating is just the apex of a smattering of other issues. To OP - you don't want a job in order to keep your disability payments, which means you'll be stuck with your parents for the time being. Not having a job does not mean you can't develop job skills. You mentioned Toronto. The Toronto public library system has quite a few educational databases and all you need is a library card. Lynda is my particular favorite. It covers soft skills, basic Microsoft Office usage (EVERY job requires you to know Word/Excel to some degree), and more advance coding or tech support training if you want to go that direction.
I've seen some women that are putty in the hands of whatever man comes along and that might be what your parents are trying to avoid. All it takes is a few manipulative talks and she'll destroy herself for him. Relationships can be powerful heady stuff. I wish I was joking, but the last one I knew ended up dead due to it. On the flip side, you can't waste your life and be a closeted church lady until you die. Develop yourself. Physically, mentally, etc so that when you do date you have a pool of confidence and experience to help you get through it. Best of luck.
if you actually paid attention I said I Go INTO Toronto (which means I don't LIVE in Toronto) for my Yearly Specialist appointment. I already know how to use Microsoft World and Excel (I went to Durham College for Office Admin/Office Tech Admin). I can't go into Toronto on my own without a freaking' "bodyguard" (and 2 of my friends both in couples live in Toronto, one is up north with her fiance and another one is east (?) of me with her fiancee).
@Sorryfor my English-I'm allowed to take the bus on my own to and from my day-program normally (the only exception is 1.a pot luck at the building or 2.its Picnic day down at the park. I'm also allowed to take the bus to/from Pickering Town Centre on occasion by myself.
But the irony is the sometimes joke about me taking care of them when they are Grandpa's age (he's 90ish) but when in the here and now I can't even take care of myself because they wouldn't let me take over my own stuff (hair-braiding is one thing) but the other stuff? I'm can't talk to a doctor about it because every time I'm with a doctor either the once a year (May) appointment or a family doctor a parent is in the room with me so what's good is that?.
The "Closet Church Lady" thing is what I'm afraid I will become because I don't want to have to rely on family (my sister's, my cousins' families) or my friends' families, or a complete stranger, I want my own family (ie a partner/adult kids) to take care of ME when I'm in 70s and 80s.
I once tried to change my bed on my own and the parents got mad at me. Ok Mom had a good reason to be mad (she still had her cast from January on at the time) but otherwise I need to start doing things for myself. All weekdays (Sunday Night-Thursday night) through the school and (Monday-Thursday during the summer) I been making the fruit. (Fridays and weekends are the exception) and I also make supper once a week.
Ps. I was in bed it was almost 1 in the morning